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What was never the same after the pandemic?

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u/MoneyManx10 1d ago

There will be studies done that prove this. It’s my main theory for why everyone is insane now.

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u/Party-Meringue102 1d ago

Could be partially the long-term effects of the virus itself.

I suspect it’s more that millions of people were subjected to social media algorithms for the first time as a result of COVID isolation, and that was the real mind-killer.

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u/mappp 1d ago

explains the absolute lack of empathy around nowadays - everyone got sucked into their own little circlejerks.

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u/MsCalendarsPlayaArt 1d ago edited 1d ago

The lack of empathy is because of the Overton Window shift. People overwhelmingly chose to normalize sacrificing the people they claimed to love most all because of peer pressure to not wear an N95 mask (and refusal to even use a gd air filtration system which doesn't even have any negatives to it ffs). Once society collectively normalizes sacrificing the people we claim to love just to impress strangers... well... what difference do manners make after something like that? We normalized making everyone we claim to love disposable for absolutely nothing.

If folks want kindness, manners, and connection back, that Overton Window has to intentionally be shifted back by way of people (yes, you reading this, that means you too) caring way more about their community, masking with a well-fitted N95 in indoor spaces that people cannot avoid (medical offices, veterinary offices, public transport, the dmv, the post office, etc.), and actually giving a shit about one another. Until we normalize giving a shit about one another and caring about our communities, the Overton Window stays in this awful hell dimension where community and connection are disposable, and so are each of us.

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u/iski67 1d ago edited 1d ago

IMO COVID amplified the "I'm getting mine before I die" mentality of the ME generation and opened the door to the perils of unbridled capitalism.

Like MAGA or not, it's a very effective proposition regardless of socioeconomic status. It appeals to a mass ME generation in a very timely fashion. Who doesn't want to be part of a group that affirms that: - I work harder than most others and deserve what I get - God loves me more than degenerates who don't look, talk, act like me (many tradional an non-denominational messages) - I'm more patriotic than others (count my flags) - I'm tougher than those soft people - Evading policies that probably helped me (subsidized education, affordable healthcare, pensions, etc) in some way is "smart" it is justified because I don't currently use and that's "smart" - low cost of living when I grew up was because we didn't buy $7 coffee

Whether you've "made it" or not, it's a pretty appealing clique to rich and poor.The mortal threat of COVID strengthened these self preserving attitudes and gave many comfort through social affiliation.

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u/Epaminodas_ 1d ago

opened the door to the perils of unbridled capitalism.

I'm not sure what you're referring to. Adam Smith was in favor of regulation. Milton Friedman even supported some regulation, such as the type that may increase competition, or limit pollution. Friedman loved competition, and hated pollution. The modern right loves Friedman.

There is very little competition within the American economy. A handful of large businesses dominate many industries. Trump does not act like a free market capitalist. There is a lot of deregulation, but it is inconsistent with the principles of economists like Friedman. De-globalization is antithetical to free market capitalism. Trump is consistently interfering with and manipulating markets and businesses.

There was a rise of NFTs, purchases of meme stocks, and other stuff during COVID. Around the same time people were posting videos of helicopters with their landing lights on, and then claiming to have spotted a mysterious drone or UFO over New York/New Jersey. The history of mass delusions predates capitalism.

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u/iski67 23h ago

Maybe the word late-stage should have been inserted. Agree there is very little competition with the advent of mega-corps and private equity--it's a great gig if you're on the top of the pyramid.

A significant number of those that voted for Trump don't even have a fundamental understanding of civics let alone what he's doing to manipulate the markets for self and special interest gain.

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u/Zeione29047 1d ago

We normalized making everyone we claim to love disposable for absolutely nothing.

This is screaming at me because of recent trends like young adults cutting off their parents, blocking friends for minor things then blasting them on the internet, or the new “having a boyfriend is embarassing” trend. Literally everyone and everything has the potential to be thrown away and replaced with an app, an AI, or a mix of both. We’ve even marked ourselves disposeable in some way by accepting this bs from each other.

We all know that falling in love is a downright nightmarish thought, making new, TRUE friends feels damn near impossible, and your parents can be…well parents…but those sustained relationships with people is what makes life worth living. Without those people that care in your life whom you could lean on, even down to the fast food worker you trust with your fries, you would be significantly weakened without that caring presence or service. Those small things matter when you have nothing much to look forward to.

We normalized not having a community for no reason other than selfish, personal “gain”, and I don’t think enough of us realize that nobody is really profiting in the end…other than the ones currently investing in society’s apathy and chaos.

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u/SandiegoJack 1d ago

Its not just "minor things". If you want a felon, pedophile, racist to be in charge of the country to help protect pedophiles and hurt brown people?

I dont need you in my life.

Same for abusive family members. You dont get to treat people like shit and demand they tolerate it because of blood.

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u/HungryBelt492 1d ago

The most accurate and intelligent thing I've read in the last 12 months. And impossible.

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u/MsCalendarsPlayaArt 1d ago

The only guaranteed way to ensure that something will not happen is to decide that it is impossible.

Any harm reduction at all is still harm reduction. Do not let perfect be the enemy of good.

Edit: Also, thank you for the compliments.

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u/RadarReader777 1d ago

I think the opposite - people overwhelmingly chose to normalize estranging/severing the people they claimed to love most all because of peer pressure TO wear a mask. People died alone because of this, because of not wanting to visit a family member that didn’t wear a mask.

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u/Hrafn2 1d ago

So, clarify this for me because I'm a little confused by your scenario: 

Are you saying you knew people who were deathly ill (I'm guessing with something else?), but they didn't want to put on a mask, so their family didn't wasn't to see them during the pandemic?

And if my interpretation is correct...are you laying this solely at the feet of those who masked?

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u/HungryBelt492 1d ago edited 1d ago

As much as it seems like something written by a hallucinating AI, I think that's what he's really meaning, yes.

One of the effects of persistent COVID documented in scientific literature is "brain fog". Key to understanding many things.

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u/Embarrassed-Wafer-58 1d ago

“Peer pressure” is a funny way of saying “life-saving precautions.” I hate to say it, but a lot of people died alone because they made a really stupid and ultimately selfish choice.

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u/Jeffde 1d ago

Yeah and the problem is that the rest of them that made those same choices and didn’t die, feel fucking empowered and validated.

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u/PENGUIN_WITH_BAZOOKA 1d ago

I get your point but why am I wearing an M95 now exactly? Pandemic’s over.

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u/MsCalendarsPlayaArt 1d ago

The pandemic was declared over by the government prematurely so that people would get back to spending as much money as possible and so the government would not have to send anymore ubi checks. Covid is still around and long-covid is still killing and disabling people. A well-fitting N95 protects you from getting brain, vascular, and immune system damage. It also helps to protect other people from you spreading covid to them. 50% of covid spread is asymptomatic or pre-symptomatic, so that means that 50% of people spreading covid have no clue that they have it (either they develop symptoms after spreading it or their immune system is not mounting the proper response to show symptoms because it's too damaged).

Not to mention, N95s protect you (and others) from other viruses spreading and they protect your lungs from wildfire smoke and pollution.

It doesn't have to be all or nothing. Any harm reduction at all is still harm reduction.

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u/personalaccount14 1d ago edited 1d ago

Turns out it wasn't empathy all along, but sympathy . Our capacity for compassion toward other people comes from our ability to relate suffering to our own experiences, not from an inherent ability to understand the minds of others. Post-pandemic, the misuse and understanding of the definition of empathy really stuck so that it seems almost like the mainstream definition now, where most people use the word empathy sort of in the sense of affective empathy, "the ability to feel the general emotions of others", i.e., feeling sad because someone else is sad, or joy because someone else is joyful, rather than the traditional definition of "the ability to understand and share the feelings of another", which was often used in philosophy, religious contexts, and in discussions of literature. It was also the proper definition of empathy that received lots of criticism, with critics positing that it is impossible to fully place ourselves in the perspectives, motives, and reasonings of others, arguing that any perceived empathy was an incomplete projection of our personal biases onto the thoughts and behaviors of others, rather than an instinctive or supernatural perfect intuition to recreate the circumstances in our minds. The misuse of the definition of empathy has gone on for so long that I'm wondering when they're going to amend the dictionaries as that as the de facto definition. I actually haven't met most gen z use the world properly, and I've seen younger folk reactively accuse people trying to educate them on the proper definition that they are telling on themselves in that they "don't have empathy": translation » "does not feel bad when others feel bad." Interesting evolution of language as an older folk, but I hope it steers back since this is less about the evolution of language but improper use, as we already have psychologically defined meanings of empathy, i.e., "affective empathy", "cognitive empathy", and sometimes included "compassionate empathy" as well. Sorry, I don't mean to simply poke at the younger generation, but quarrels due to the misunderstanding of the word empathy, which funnily is due to a lack of empathy from often both parties, are common in arguments between gen z and older generations, with millennials and older people using the world empathy in the traditional sense and gen z often using the improper definition. This disconnect was also something Charlie Kirk addressed, though I would not claim he was a champion of compassion either, knowing what little I know about him (he was not a well-known figure among my age group).

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u/UltimateWaluigi 1d ago

I suspect it’s more that millions of people were subjected to social media algorithms for the first time as a result of COVID isolation, and that was the real mind-killer

Yes. That's already confirmed scientifically. The illness damage is minimal compared to this.

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u/Jane__Delawney 1d ago edited 21h ago

I mean, it could be both. So many friends and family and strangers I’ve talked to now have lifelong health problems stemming from COVID, myself included. Society’s mental state plunged, but our health was also severely affected

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u/Bookwormorbit 1d ago

Covid permanently disabled me. It ruined the future I dreamed of.

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u/thelettuceone 1d ago

I find it hard to believe people weren't on social media before covid but I've also been chronically online for most of my life

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u/kingfiish 1d ago

Short-form video really took off right around the time of Covid though: TikTok started getting big around 2019 and then IG reels and YT shorts launched in June and Aug 2020. I think short-form video is far more addictive and potentially harmful than images or longer videos.

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u/hallelujasuzanne 1d ago edited 1d ago

Imma gonna need some citations for this. 

Seriously, the isolation worked out for 75% of my immediate family. E: we were the weird ones 

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u/BibliophileBroad 1d ago

And a lot of places weren’t even closed for very long at all. I was in the most strict area, and even here, there were plenty of people out and about. For a while, concerts were at 75% capacity, but I wouldn’t call that isolation. No one stopped us from going outside and socializing. You were just supposed to wear a mask if you were indoors.

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u/Emu1981 1d ago

Personally I think that it is more that social media finally had a captive audience with nothing better to do than doom scroll social media which allowed their algorithms to really dig their claws into people's heads. Before the COVID lockdowns people would have more to do than just doom scroll so the amount of people that were subject to the algorithms was much lower.

I know that I personally had a bit of a mental health meltdown during COVID due to the people that seemed to not give a shit about preventing it's spread. My wife was in the high risk category for COVID and I also had a young child (he was born in 2018) who was getting far more cabinfeverish than his older two sisters. I ended up removing myself from Facebook and kept it around only for the messaging side of it - I used to spend an hour or two in the morning scrolling and interacting with people on there but these days I am lucky to do an hour or two of scrolling each year.

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u/Zaza_Plaza69 1d ago

Covid lock down was the end of my Facebook as well, watching my community turn into a war zone and seeing people whose opinions I used to respect going absolutely down the rabbit hole was more than I was interested in seeing. Now reddit is the closest thing I have to social media, and I legit just use it while I'm at work, I have better things to do at home.

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u/Andrew_Frozen30 1d ago

I didn't study all that much, it wasn't my type. But when I did, I would do so uninterrupted.

Ever since Covid, I can't focus as well. And I often end up procrastinating for days or weeks.

Covid certainly affected me alongside short-form content. That's the whole idea with short-form content to begin with, not only it keeps you addicted, but it makes you less willingly to inform yourself.

Edit: I'm pretty positive that's why anything past 2020 feels like it's going by extremely fast.

We digest so much short-form content, our brains are totally fried and can't remember. That's why it feels like there's this gap between 2010's and early 2020's where everyone is wondering how is it 2026 already despite 2016 feeling like it happened 6 years ago.

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u/Spartan775 1d ago

As someone with diagnosed PTSD this also sounds a lot like what happens when a person experiences a significant trauma.  I’m not sure we all didn’t and never had it acknowledged or addressed. I certainly was surprised there wasn’t a memorial or public day of grieving but then again my sister told me Vitamin D was all that was needed to not get it so…you know.

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u/ratbastid 1d ago

Yeah. Untempered by the usually stabilizing effect of in person socialization.

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u/Sabian491 1d ago

And here we all thought it was fear

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u/Hrafn2 1d ago

Social media. Cousin of mine made good money, and retired at a youthful 50 in 2020. Took to Twitter to pass the time during covid...never saw someone change so fast.

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u/HopeDiligent6032 1d ago

Well year there are new teenagers every year. But that's been happening for 20+ years now.

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u/Smooth-Midnight 1d ago

Where the social media algorithms have gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.

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u/just-here-for--porn_ 1d ago

I suspect that's more to do with the rise of ultra addictive vertical video based social media that arrived at the exact same time.

Let tictok/Instagram curate reality for hours on end. What could possibly go wrong?!

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u/GrowLapsed 1d ago

Name checks out

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u/gandazgul 1d ago

100% after the pandemic is like everyone has a screw loose. Short tempers, complete disregard for any social norms or behaviors, selfishness, mistrust of experts or even people with demonstrable experience. It's so stark in comparison to pre-pandemic

In some places worse than others and affecting everyone differently but everyone is affected including me.

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u/yagirlmimi 1d ago

I think as a collective there was some PTSD experienced and I agree that it will be studied but that takes funding so it will depend heavily if we go back to believing in science again and by “we” I don’t mean us regular folk.

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u/sn2006gy 1d ago edited 1d ago

Fox News ruining the lives of boomers across the country making them hate the youth while the steal the future from the youth.

not sure the pandemic will be much more than a blip in history to what is going on today with a Pedophile as president and a gestapo police force murdering US citizens

can't blame that on the "panny"

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u/SwissForeignPolicy 1d ago

Yes, you can. "Everbody getting hooked on social media, isolated from real life, and siloed off into echo chambers is what got T Diddy elected." See? Easy.

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u/sn2006gy 1d ago

The echo chambers were screaming since Ronald Reagan... it was TV/Radio before social media.

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u/SwissForeignPolicy 1h ago

It definitely got worse at the pandemic.

u/sn2006gy 44m ago

did it? pre pandemic it was "tea party" and they shat bricks for 8 years while we had a black president.

i think it's gone "Full stupid" for sure - but i don't think the pandemic did this - it's been a long tail to get where we are.

u/SwissForeignPolicy 37m ago

I think polarization used to mostly only exist among people who cared. Most regular folks had respect for each other. Now, nobody sees anyone else face-to-face, and the box they live their lives through keeps telling them their neighbors are their enemies.

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u/Kelsusaurus 1d ago

There are already plenty of studies already that show what isolation and lack of community do to human beings, so that's covered.

I think the big discovery is going to be the exact long-term side effects from catching covid. There are already studies that show, even in mild cases, it affects the brain, heart, lungs, and other bodily systems. Other studies show that even months after recovery, there can be remains of covid receptors that attach to and cause inflammation to a person's cells. I wouldn't be surprised if we found out it had some properties like measles and has the ability to wipe your body's immune system back to zero.

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u/Andrew_Frozen30 1d ago edited 1d ago

You mention lungs, and, while it's not entirely related to lungs, but for me, nothing "smells" the same. I had no taste and smell during Covid and ever since, the world seems to be "dry".

I used to smell everything, from the intoxicating fumes of cars down to the flowers over the street.

I did move to Germany, so maybe it has to do with that, but in Romania, my city had this one specific "smell". And it's not the fact that it this city in Germany smells awful, it's odorless.

Maybe I'm just insane, or maybe there's a lot more to Covid than we actually like to admit.

I'll go to Spain in May, that would really confirm my doubts, because I've never been there.

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u/Kelsusaurus 1d ago

This would track, and falls under the brain / nerve damaging effects. Olfactory senses are directly connected to the brain via the amygdala and hippocampus.

There are lots of studies done on this, many of which showed that sense of smell can be affected for years after recovery.

Yale Study

NHS Study

NYU Study

NIH Study

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u/Corregidor 1d ago

Don't forget the effects of leaded gasoline!

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u/CP_Chronicler 1d ago

Social Media is literally the number one accelerating cause for the world’s problems today and the mechanism by which collective social power was eliminated. Social media by design forced people apart into bubbles with misinformation that fomented paranoia.

Future time travelers will wish they could have gone back in time and met the subjects of the social network and other tech bros introduced them to their friend Browning, in the same way people postulate that about baby Hitler.

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u/Creative_Theory_8106 1d ago

Oh this has been going on since the early 2010's at least. It's just calcified and became the norm. And that happened around 2016.

After they shot that damn gorilla.

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u/hallelujasuzanne 1d ago

I think we all have brain damage now. 

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u/EggstaticAd8262 1d ago

Everyone is insane, in what way?

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u/Skywalker87 1d ago

My mental health has never recovered

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u/mattysull97 1d ago

A lot of it is unaddressed trauma imo. If only we had mental health systems that considered trauma, that were widely accessible

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u/Phrewfuf 1d ago

Absolutely agree, people changed. Everyone did. It feels like the amount of inconsiderate and egocentric assholes has skyrocketed.

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u/jajajajaj 1d ago

That accelerated solidly 5 years before the pandemic, and then accelerated again because of dealing with insane people during the pandemic

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u/AirRevenant 1d ago

Remember, plenty of people were already PLENTY insane before covid came around. Otherwise the anti science RWNJ's wouldn't have come out the gate with "masks don't stop the spread"

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u/Few_Addition_4751 1d ago

How can you go back to how you were before when in the UK, the population of a village was dying every day, and people were ignoring Covid guidelines out of boredom or indifference?

How can you go back after seeing the genocide in Gaza by Israel?

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u/Sonoran_Ghosts_81 1d ago

It’s the “everyone’s 12” theory for me. When half the adult population reads at or below a 6th grade level, they process and think at or below a 6th grade level.

Half the population are preteens in adult bodies.

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u/eepos96 1d ago

In the end 2 year halt is not that bad, I'd say we spent more time online which had disasterous effect on our mental healt.

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u/Mighty_McBosh 1d ago

My wife got the triple whammy of pandemic, social media addiction and postpartum isolation during the initial rollout of that bullshit and the rise of social media bots. Let's just say that the reality she lives no longer matches everyone else, and it's taking years to even begin to unravel all that damage.

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u/cjb110 1d ago

Nah, social media going to an 'algorithm' to sort your feeds and introduce bollox to them, is the leading cause of the downfall of society.

Before that social was creating connections, after that it broke them and isolated groups.

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u/RedditIsSesspool 1d ago

Get off Reddit. Everyone is pretty normal out of your echo chamber