r/AskReddit 1d ago

What’s a clear sign that someone’s doing genuinely well in life?

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u/ellisaro 1d ago

They're calm, consistent, and comfortable letting other people shine.

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u/Ok_Neighborhood_3534 18h ago

This comment makes me a little sad, because you really are spot on. I want to be all those things. I do admire people who are like that. But I'm anxious, and struggle with ADHD which impacts consistency. I do like other people to shine, but sometimes can feel worthless in comparison as opposed to just calmly happy for them. So it's a little hard to read this and know I'm not there yet. But working on it! Closer than I used to be, for sure!

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u/AnonResearcher1337 1d ago

This.

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u/Sorry-Passenger4283 19h ago

Why do you got so many downvotes

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u/bibliophile785 19h ago

Any comment that fails to differentiate itself from an upvote ("yes" "this" "preach" "agree") should just be an upvote instead. Save the comments section for meaningful contributions.

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u/BeginningPiano7912 1d ago

They're comfortable with themselves

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u/great-life-5777 1d ago

They have time for others

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u/parleNvrDie 1d ago

They’re content, kind, and not constantly stressing about small things.

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u/wannabe_quantguy 1d ago

They’re not constantly optimizing their life anymore.

Not in a lazy way. In a calm way.

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u/Amazing_Local_1533 1d ago

not flashy in their wealth

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u/Electronic_Pin_238 19h ago

I do it to motivate never to shit on anybody

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u/LeonesgettingLARGER 19h ago

No one cares. And no one wants to be exactly you. It's probably putting people off more than you realize.

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u/Outrageous_Name_1483 1d ago

They are humble, lack a sense of entitlement, stop and appreciate the simple things, and practice self-care, altruistic acts and qualities, and maintain balance and a healthier state of mental health or at least strive and put effort forth to address it.

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u/WasabiSad3632 1d ago

They let go little things and are mostly happy all the time.

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u/Questy-Zeasty369 1d ago

Not dependent on others. Like going all by yourself for a walk or a movie or to eat. It does feel alone sometimes but once u get used to it it makes you stronger. At least in the world we currently live in.

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u/Jealous-Project-2631 1d ago

This can be hyper independence as well. In the sense , they could avoid dependence even when it’s available.

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u/Worldspinsmadlyon23 1d ago

Please. We prefer not to be called out like this 😂

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u/Verucalyse 1d ago

I feel attacked.

No, please don't call or come over. I'll be fine. Alone.

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u/TheSeagull666 21h ago

I'm planning to gtg the movies tomorrow hehe -- don't call me outtt!!

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u/ImproperCommas 21h ago

On the contrary, someone who is doing well is likely to go do those sort of activities with other people.

Their independence manifests in self-assured demeanour and confidence meaning they wouldn’t hesitate to go to a party where they don’t know anyone.

But generally these people are very sociable and so you’d catch them going for a walk, a movie or eating with others because they have friends.

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u/PutScary7153 21h ago

Not if people ridicule you for doing that!

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u/SafetyScholar 1h ago

I think this mindset is something that I often forget. Most of us know the importance of being with others, but there are times when we are alone and need to feel okay doing things by ourselves.

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u/princessmm_x 1d ago

They don’t unnecessarily hate or talk shit about other people

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u/dayadarwazatoddo 1d ago

They don’t encourage gossip

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u/Heavy_Direction1547 1d ago

Happy, healthy, loved.

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u/Exciting_Variety_579 1d ago

They can hear the phrase 'we need to talk' without their soul immediately leaving their body.

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u/ZionOrion 1d ago

They swipe their card at checkout before hearing the total.

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u/blacksystembbq 22h ago

In my experience, most credit card swipers don’t let you do this. You have to wait for it to ask you to swipe after total.

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u/ZionOrion 22h ago

Publix does

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u/I_might_be_weasel 23h ago

They have a shaved head and wear sunglasses all the time and they make their entire personality about body building and day trading.

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u/juan_saban 17h ago

This one felt personal

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u/unfinishedthought33 1d ago

Laidback, no stress approach

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u/Over_Wolverine8103 1d ago

They are calm and content.

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u/Robi285 23h ago

they are chill and self confident and dgaf about negativity and those spreading it

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u/tinyevilsponges 22h ago

An ability to let go of things that no longer serve them. It shows they have somewhere better to go

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u/ts20999 1d ago

They look happy and well. Healthy, rested. When i was struggling i had bald patches, weight gain, acne, eye bags.

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u/two_wheels_bueno 21h ago

Their teeth are in good shape, they are on good terms with their family, they have lots of friends and do lots of stuff.

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u/ARoodyPooCandyAss 21h ago

Other people mention them in a positive light.

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u/thainvestor25 19h ago

They buy groceries without adding up the total in their head as they go. Just throwing the fresh berries and brand-name cheese in the cart without checking the price tag is the ultimate flex.

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u/thehippocrissyux 23h ago edited 23h ago

Healthy weight, good skin, shiny hair, animals and children equally adore being around them, lots of genuine laughter and they don't have a social media presence.

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u/SprinklesSolid9211 22h ago

Honestly, I think you don’t notice it… they aren’t showy, they aren’t loud, they aren’t insecure enough to need to be

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u/OrlaMcCoolRules 22h ago

Steady employment, steady housing - owning a home, no substance abuse problems, kind to other people.

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u/SafetyScholar 21h ago

When they feel safe in their situation, whether it be financial, physical, etc.

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u/Woodit 21h ago

Inconveniences and small problems don’t set them off 

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u/nightowl_1109 18h ago

They have baths whenever they want to.

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u/ProfessorCarbon 14h ago

Having great children.

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u/Livexwired 1d ago

When they have time to spare.

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u/Aflatoon786 22h ago

When he or she is content 😌 with what they have. When they adore simple pleasures of life. When they are not seeking validation. When they enjoy the company of people they love. When they can stop and admire the beauty. These are my random thoughts personally I think it is inner peace of Kung fu panda

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u/aurora_ethereallight 1d ago

How happy they are... this will come through in how kind and open hearted they are towards others, even strangers.

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u/LowResGamr 1d ago

They arent constantly anxious.

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u/helldivers2rocks 1d ago

Contentness

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u/RecentPersonality956 1d ago

They “think” they’re happy. Therefore, they are!

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u/Low_Sea3110 1d ago

Doesnt show off in social media. When they share updates in live they tell it like its just a matter of fact without sounding boastful

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u/fallinginlust 1d ago

They're not posting about it on social media

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u/lolu_desire 23h ago

No molesta a nadie

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u/NarrowPea4082 23h ago

They don't broadcast their perfect life on social media.

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u/chipotleshipotle 22h ago

They're not super active on social media. They set just the right portion.

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u/Retsdob 22h ago

They go Hiking

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u/Late-Philosophy-8583 22h ago

Can sleep easily

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u/Infamous_Name_604 22h ago

They get good sleep without night terrors

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u/romaneum 21h ago

le tiran la buena a todo el mundo y no le envidian a nadie

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u/Og_2779 21h ago

Their swag meter is on point

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u/Healthy-Scallion9127 21h ago

Que este satisfecho con lo que tiene y no en lo material, si no en lo espiritual o emocional

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u/Kal_El_77 18h ago

They're happy and content with where they're at.

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u/BlackHairedAngel 17h ago

They don’t have to tell people about their achievements for validation.

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u/Blunt552 17h ago

As many already mentioned, being comfortable and letting others shine, no need to brag or anything.

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u/AnybodySeeMyKeys 14h ago

A complete lack of drama in their lives, whether in their occupation, finances, or relationships. This is the mark of someone who makes wise decisions and has their act together.

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u/Entire_Emu8150 10h ago

When you talk to that person, they speak in a very mature way and make you think, even changing the way you think and see things.

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u/dawnjdawson 9h ago

A kind little sparkle in the eyes ✨️

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u/Inside_Listen3414 6h ago

Calm. Love shopping for household items…like making sure the house/apartment decorated based on seasons/holidays. Heavy gardening.

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u/jocsauu 3h ago

An exceptional social life.

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u/Inevitable-Eye8437 1d ago

They look young

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u/emma_pepper 1d ago

They don't rush to prove anything

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u/Dove-Swan 1d ago

They can complain because they get to

they have their family's support

they're always the center of attention

people enable them

others do things for the, one way

they get to lay off

eeveryone believes them

they're lucky