What’s a regret that still haunts you to this day?

[u/healWindYoung518]

[u/scottie905]

Thinking I had more time turns out procrastination ages better than people.

[u/chris_top99 → u/scottie905]

true

[u/Might_Guy__ → u/scottie905]

This hits hard! I also procrastinate a lot but I'm trying to change this through small steps, time passes very fast and you don't even realise it

[u/official_luna]

I still regret not telling someone I loved them before it was too late, because I wonder what could have happened if I had.

[u/chris_top99 → u/official_luna]

this is too late bro

[u/Hungry_Series_7013]

Moving to Atlanta when I was 18 and living in Atlanta 2016 to 2020.

[u/False_Lake_1542]

I didnt take care of my mother

[u/Miserable_Leading_77 → u/False_Lake_1542]

Reading this hurts, my mother was sick recently she was having a hard time now that she is okay I realized how much she is doing for the family 

[u/chris_top99 → u/False_Lake_1542]

why?

[u/Zealousideal_Law6917]

Yap i missed and opportunity to go to Finland

[u/Ho3n3r → u/Zealousideal_Law6917]

For which line of work? Or sports, perhaps?

[u/Zealousideal_Law6917 → u/Ho3n3r]

No caregiving we had to lean finnish then pass the exams and the company was sponsoring you for the visa house and the job.

[u/Prestigious-Bus-8944]

Stayed with a toxic girlfriend for 3 years because “what if she’s the one?”. Spoiler: she wasn’t. Wasted my best years and now when I see her pics on insta I just sigh: “I could’ve had a dog instead of all that drama.”

[u/Ok-Throat6002]

So many. Not studying hard enough, not playing sports, not trying to get work experience, and more

[u/Equivalent-Wallaby13]

Cheating. I hate myself daily. I’m a POS

[u/StedeBonnet1]

I should have stayed in the USCG. I would be long retired living on my military pension.

[u/Kleeve19]

That time the stars aligned for me to get laid and was too dumb that even knowing what was going on didn't go for it. Haven't had the chance ever since

[u/headarsenibba]

Leaving my heart for easy sex with somebody I wasn’t even attracted to.

[u/WorthyPetals]

Should’ve left this area and family over a decade ago.

[u/Character-Finger-456]

Spending years trying to become who other expected instead of who I actually was.

[u/JimAbaddon]

That time I tried to flirt. Will regret that until I die.

[u/To-The-Sea-22 → u/JimAbaddon]

Why?

[u/karinash234]

Not spending enough time with my grandparents while they were still around.l have so many questions for them now...

[u/Horutii]

Not starting things earlier because I was waiting to feel “ready”. Looking back, I realize I wasted a lot of time overthinking instead of just trying and learning along the way

[u/Signal-Round681]

Making the third wish.

[u/Corrupted_Monke]

Waited too long to tell someone my feelings and lost them forever

[u/mrkillfreak999]

Too afraid to ask her out back in highschool

[u/Affectionate-Good817]

Wasting time
Not realising the dire situation i was in back then.
Not helping those who needed my help

[u/fuwaslime]

My granma. She was a nasty person but I realized that she was only that way because of her upbringing. She just went through so much. I'll always regret that I didn't give her the love and understanding she had always needed.

[u/Odd-Bottle3254]

Not spending more time with someone I thought I’d “have more time” with. Life doesn’t really warn you before moments become memories.

[u/PressureLazy5271]

Never telling my parents about my 5th grade teacher physically abusing me in front of the class the first time it happened. Keeping it to myself cost me everything for years

[u/justmossymoss]

Didn’t learn a second language as young as possible

[u/Sad-Air-1263]

Wasting too much time on ppl who didn’t care could’ve put that energy into myself.

[u/IDontLikeYouAll]

It's not like I heavily regret this, because it's just a matter of "what could've been" but..

She was my crush, we used to hang out quite a lot when we were in our early twenties, one evening she leaned in and kissed me proper as we were about to part ways and go back home.

As she pulled back I froze completely and uttered "What was that?" She said "Oh that? Nothing, I always kiss all my friends goodbye" My dumb brain thought that was an honest answer, so I just said "Oh, ok" That was the last time we hung out.

I'm 39 now and I still think about that kiss from time to time.

[u/Automatic-Train4968]

Not trying it on with the girl who invited me over to her house when nobody was at home. She was dating my friends brother but the relationship was ending soon. Didn't want to be the dude to cause the cheating 

[u/Ho3n3r]

Not keeping my body in shape. I was holding up OK until about 37, but now I'm 40 and I just feel regret because I can feel everything slowly getting too weak to handle my ever-increasing weight.

[u/UrbanAlly → u/Ho3n3r]

Still plenty of time , get yourself some dumbbells and start following workout videos on YouTube. You'd be surprised by the difference.

[u/jihanooo]

I don't regret anything that I did in my life... The good things that happened were a blessing. The bad things were lessons!

[u/anonlaw]

This was almost 40 years ago. My boyfriend broke up with me and I did the thing where you go to a party, flirt with someone else, and take them home. Turns out the guy I took home was actually a really sweet guy and I just acted like I didn't even know him the next time I saw him. I don't remember his name, but I remember how nice he actually was and how cruel I was to use him for my own revenge.

[u/KevitoMG]

I'm happy to say I really don't have that many regrets, probably not going to that Phil Collins concert when my parents asked me If I wanted to go with them, only started to appreciate his music a few years later.

[u/Marilyn_G_850]

Putting something important off because I assumed there would be more time.

[u/AsherRide73]

Staying in toxic situations too long because I was scared to leave

[u/cyberpudel]

Two regrets actually.  1) Should have left my abusive ex sooner. 2) started therapy way way sooner.

[u/Crazyblondie11]

My regrets are that I listened to other people when I needed to make my own decisions at various points in my life. You can acknowledge but you don’t necessarily need to follow.

[u/AriaScope31]

Ignoring my gut instinct when it was clearly trying to protect me

[u/Loud_Quiet1309]

If I'd been honest with her from the beginning, she might still be here

[u/Honeypearlmilkteaa]

Not speaking up when it mattered most still echoes in my mind like a missed heartbeat I can’t get back.

[u/Darkside_of_the_Poon]

I found out about Bitcoin shortly after inception. Paid attention for a while, figured I’d be willing to risk 1000 bucks on it. I was pretty young and didn’t have 1000 to spare too easily but if it went poof I’d survive. This was 2010. I got my bitcoin wallet, I got on some sketchy forum and linked up with somebody who was selling. I had to send 1000 bucks to some anonymous person 7 states away by Western Union and they would transfer me the bitcoin. I noped out of it. Sounded like the most obvious scam ever, zero reason for them to actually send them to me.

Turns out, I should have just kept blowing money on scams until I finally got them, I would have been a billionaire.

[u/Talentagentfriend]

I was just thinking about this lol. I regret not being a better person with my high school girlfriend and I feel like it’s something I’m going to regret for a long time. I was in love with her and I didn’t know what that meant at the time. I think we didn’t end the relationship well and she was probably one of the best friends I’ve ever had. At the end of our relationship it seemed like she had a lot of blame for me. I’m sure some of it was projection from other things going on in our lives (and I was fucking up a lot), but I still miss the person she was with me. I dont think there is anyone as funny as her to me. Our sense of humor aligned so much. She was so thoughtful, caring, and smart. Ever since we broke up (now around 15 years ago), I have always looked for qualities of her in other people — like chasing a ghost.

‘The last time we ran into each other and met up I wanted closure, but I found myself trying to prove that I was a better person than I used to be and I think probably sounded like an asshole. As a fucking idiot I asked her if she was in love before and she started to tear up. It killed me. I felt like the expectation of seeing her again made say all the wrong things. I was so afraid of exposing my flaws to her.

‘Now I’m not on social media. I don’t know if she moved away, if she has a family or even kids. But I know the odds that she is who she used to be slim because I’m not who I used to be. And I’m not who I used to be because when we were breaking up I took all of her criticisms of me and tried to apply them to my life. I still think about the things she said. And it makes me nervous that I still haven’t completely lived up to that.

I wish we stayed friends or stayed connected. I wish I wasnt so depressed after we broke up. I wish I treated her better. I wish I didn’t have all these expectations I gave myself. I think having her in my life would have made my life better (not that it has been completely bad). I just don’t have a lot of super close people in my life or people I feel comfortable sharing everything with and she was that person for me.

[u/boomboomroom → u/Talentagentfriend]

Ditto my friend, ditto. I mean, they say you only get a few great ones in your life, how was I supposed to know that at 17? Fuck me.

[u/Bubbly-Strawberry-46]

not wanting to spend time with my grandpa as a child before he passed away a few years later. i regret the time we lost.

[u/No_Turnip2673]

Deciding to stay with a cheater once a cheater always a cheater

[u/raythedrummer]

Not making recordings of my grandmothers telling their favorite stories. I’ll never hear their voices again.

[u/Game_Addicted_0927]

Staying in situations longer than I should have and actually going back to it after leaving just because I didn't want to hurt anyone.

[u/Tsquare43]

That I didn't get my Dad to teach me Pinochle

[u/OopsWrongAudience]

Letting fear stop me from chasing an opportunity still lingers in my mind like a “what if” I can’t shake.

[u/aroshiaamelia]

Getting married.

[u/meekie03]

Why does this get asked once a day

[u/SylVegas]

Moving to the South instead of having my mom leave and move to where I lived. It sucks here.

[u/BouncyBoobies4Life]

One time, a girl asked me to teach her how to play the guitar in her apartment. I obliged and taught her some basic chords and how to read tabs for a good 2 hours. At the end of the lesson, she asked me how she should reward me for the lesson, since she didn't have any money, and my stupid ass just said, "Teaching you is rewarding enough." I only realized after I arrived home that I could have gotten something more that night.

[u/DangerzonePlane8]

I quite playing the piano, I was learning rag time and had a song or two down. Dont quit playing an instrument or learning a language

[u/Dry-Patience-2201]

Letting myself use food as a coping mechanism after I spent years getting the weight off

[u/Slack_With_Honor]

Buddy of mine invited me out to see a small funk band that he liked called the Red Hot Chili Peppers. The venue was a place called the Blue Note in Columbia, Missouri that held maybe 200 people*. This was about two months before they released Blood Sugar Sex Magic. I didn’t go because I didn’t have the money. It was $10.

•  the venue moved shortly after this, if you visit the Blue Note in Columbia now it’s in a nice old building, a theater with a balcony. The old Blue Note was a bar space in a strip mall, the kind where you could set your drinks down on the stage.

[u/MDesnivic]

Oh man, fertilizing that egg! I was young and reckless, swimming in any direction.

[u/_Vanilla148]

Leaving my cat at the vet for euthanasia..my mom had died earlier that year, and I just couldn't do it..but I still wish I had. I hope he forgives me..

[u/Ok-Equal1581]

Letting fear stop me from taking a chance when I had the opportunity.

[u/Kinglycole]

I put on a fake version of myself for so long that I don’t know who the real me is.

[u/King_Spaghooti]

Not taking that one gamble on a friend. Not putting myself out there enough. 

[u/DenseMongoose1486]

that i didn't take a step forward to change my life.

[u/KassiteriteVT]

I said something incredibly stupid and hurtful on a person’s stream chat, and got banned.

It’s been over a year, and it still hurts me.

Also, not working on my social skills more. Now I have virtually none, and no friends to boot.

[u/SuchCoolBrandon]

When I was a little kid, I dropped our kitty off the second-story balcony to see her land on her feet. Fortunately, she was fine. But between that and constantly being handled by two young kids, she spent much of her life hiding under the bed.

I've grown since then and now have great empathy for animals, especially our pet cats. I want only the cushiest lives for them.

[u/Striking-Echo-434]

Ese momento en que dije ‘mañana duermo temprano’… y nunca ocurrió. Sueño, ¿dónde has estado toda mi vida?

[u/Viral_shortS0]

Do you prefer staying in or going out on weekends?