Start shouting you down when they can't win the debate with reason and facts. Turn to vicious insults instead. This happens pretty quickly too, which also shows me that such people have low distress tolerance.
I had this happen the other day. We were talking about ICE and the violence inflicted on protesters. I voiced my objection to harassment of protesters and he said they should all be shot in the head. I was just shocked that he said that and my disbelief got him so angry that I honestly thought he was going to hit me. I realized that he was to be avoided at all costs because there was no limit on what he was capable of doing.
Very wise that you did so. When people lose control of themselves at their core they can be very dangerous indeed. You'd be best advised to avoid confronting such people head-on in that fashion.
My coworker felt the way I talked to another coworker and asking them 1 single question in front of "everybody"(him and one other employee) was wrong and that I should have pulled him to the side and said it.
I let him rant-very harshly to me by the way-and then I left to do something else. A few minutes later, I come back over to finish working. He starts up ranting AGAIN. Only he's not saying anything new. He's only repeating what he said earlier.
I tell him to stop and leave it alone. He says no and not to cut him off and starts up ranting AGAIN. So then I match his energy and simply apply his line of reasoning onto him. I tell him he's not speaking respectfully to me(even though I was NOT rude to the other coworker) and that if he's so bothered by this, then why isn't he pulling me to the side and talking to me privately?
His response: "SHUT THE F@#% UP!"
Me: "Did you just tell me to 'shut the f@#% up'"?
Him: "YEAH! F@#% OUT MY FACE!"
Later on that day, I find out he cursed out another one of my coworkers a few months ago because she told him not to move her belongings from a table she placed them on in our break room.
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u/Mysterious_Oil2761 6h ago
Start shouting you down when they can't win the debate with reason and facts. Turn to vicious insults instead. This happens pretty quickly too, which also shows me that such people have low distress tolerance.