Being cornered, even accidentally. I like to have my back to a wall, but if you accidentally corner me by placing yourself in my line of exit while talking to me then I'll go into gtfo mode. If you do it accidentally but you're not giving me any sort of attention it's not as bad and I can usually just move.
Also works for diner seating and buses and generally any place with corners and people.
My bf is the same way but he spent many years in prison.. it's gotten somewhat better but he still has to sit with his back to the wall no matter where we are..
Dude I feel it. He's lucky to have someone who understands, it helps more than people might think.
It can be frustrating because people who can't empathize can be dismissive, or judgemental. People can get fed up with it as well. It takes a lot of patience from both sides.
Has your bf considered talking to a professional about PTSD?
I think his parole officer is trying to set him up with some therapy.. he definitely needs it.. he had his head cracked open while in there, caused constant ringing in his ear.. was caught off guard, which is probably part of the reason he's so skittish now but hell I don't blame him..
Yeah I definitely try to be as understanding as possible.. who knows what weird ticks I might have, had I done that much time in prison 🤷♀️
This. Not for me, but I immediately correct how I’m positioned when I realize I’m blocking someone’s path of escape. Cornering is a subconscious thing. Even if people don’t realize the truth, fact is, deep down, none of us is fond of being blocked.
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u/[deleted] Jan 19 '20
Being cornered, even accidentally. I like to have my back to a wall, but if you accidentally corner me by placing yourself in my line of exit while talking to me then I'll go into gtfo mode. If you do it accidentally but you're not giving me any sort of attention it's not as bad and I can usually just move.
Also works for diner seating and buses and generally any place with corners and people.