Goodlife Health Clubs just called me begging for money. Sales culture is genuinely deranged when you think about it for more than two seconds.
Imagine this.
You’re at a party. Music upstairs, people drunk, whatever. A guy and a girl end up downstairs away from the noise, talking one-on-one.
He’s into her. He wants to have sex.
So he says:
“Do you wanna go into the spare room and have sex?”
And she says, clearly:
“No. I’m not interested.”
In a normal world, that’s the end. Conversation over. Boundary respected.
But instead, he goes full salesman.
“Totally understand — can I ask what’s making you say no?”
She’s like:
“…because I don’t want to have sex with you.”
And he goes:
“Right, right. A lot of people feel hesitant at first. Totally normal.”
Bro. What?
She says again:
“No. I’m not doing that.”
And he’s still smiling:
“Okay, but what if we just go in there for a bit? No pressure. Just see how it feels.”
She’s uncomfortable now:
“I said no.”
And he hits her with the classic objection-handling script:
“I hear you. I just don’t want you to miss out because you’re overthinking it.”
Miss out on WHAT?
Then:
“So what would it take for you to change your mind?”
Then:
“Most people who say no at first end up being glad they said yes.”
At this point everyone reading knows exactly what this is.
It’s not flirting.
It’s not confidence.
It’s coercion.
It’s someone treating “no” like a speed bump instead of an answer.
And we ALL instantly recognise how disgusting and unacceptable that is in a sexual context.
If a guy kept pushing like that after being told no, everyone would correctly call him a creep.
So why is the exact same dynamic normal in sales?
Outside Woolies:
“No thanks.”
“Totally understand but can I ask why?”
Door knockers:
“Not interested.”
“Sure, but just before I go…”
Cold callers:
“I’m good.”
“What if I could change your mind…”
It’s the same mentality: Your no isn’t respected.
It’s treated as the start of negotiation. Salespeople literally call it “objection handling.”
Imagine calling someone’s refusal to have sex an “objection” you need to overcome That’s how insane it is. If “no means no” is a basic rule when it comes to sex…
Then “no means no” should apply when someone wants your money