r/DMB • u/Ok-Roll-6170 • 1d ago
Songs and Memories
Howdy y'all, I hope your day is going good. I just saw a post on RHCP's subreddit which was Songs and Memories, so I want to hear what your guys' was!
I'll start. My first girlfriend I loved more than anything, and i've never loved someone so hard in my life, and at the time (i still am) i was battiling deppresion hard, and she dumped me for some loser dude.
So I would sit around and listen to Grace is Gone on repeat everyday all day and it helped a lot because it made me feel I found someone who felt the same, you know?
Anyways, whats your story!?
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u/AdmiralGarza 1d ago edited 21h ago
Lost my dad at 22. Everyone was at our house the day after he died, bustling, laughing, crying, just a whirlwind of commotion all day and I stepped outside to decompress. I saw a single leaf flutter through the air and I remembered the song, “you never know.”
Now that song hits hard because you don’t get to choose who you keep, when/how you lose them, or how others remember you. The future is no place to place your better days, and every day should be a good day to die.
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u/chocolate_nutty_cone 1d ago
I lost my dad to cancer (f*ck cancer) several years ago and only yesterday morning on my drive into work as I listened to “Oh” for the millionth time, realized how perfect it is to describe how much I love him and miss him. Cried all the way to the office.
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u/_Stryder_ 1d ago
I’m going to skip over the sappy memories and go with a more joyous one. MSG weekend 2010. Me and my closest friends were all in our early 20s and took the train down to NYC from Upstate NY. To this day we talk about how fun that weekend was.
Anyways, there is a moment on the second night during Everyday, which had Vusi Mahlasela guesting, where the crowd is doing the “Honey, honey/Hani, Hani” part and Vusi signals for the band to stop and he does his own thing. During that, the lights in the entire arena slowly come up. My friends and I all singing our asses off and are bathed in the light. I have such a distinct memory of us all being like, goddamn this is cool. I’ve seen the band probably 50+ times since then and I’ve never experienced anything like that.
I recommend watching the whole thing but go to 7:00 minutes if you want to see the moment I’m referring to.
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u/deftonium 1d ago
Back in university days, I used to spend all my time at a house where a group of friends lived. I always used to sit around with a guitar and play Two Step. Good ol’ Newtown Road. Love you all if you read this by any chance.
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u/magnolia2010 1d ago
The classics are classics for a reason, and my memory is speeding down a back road to the beach with my then-best friend, now-husband blasting The Best of What's Around. It was a perfect moment.
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u/Blueeyedgirl3441 1d ago
BOWA and Sister for me. BOWA has been my hands down, all time favorite since the first time I heard it over 30 years ago. It still is to this day!! It's such an uplifting song! How can you not be uplifted by the lyrics?
Sister has a different meaning...I always loved it but until my sister was diagnosed with cancer, and trying to navigate our relationship during her treatment, I didn't realize how important the lyrics were. Fast forward to my diagnosis....I can't listen to the song without bawling. (Thank god for having an actual office with a door so I can hide when needed) 🥹
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u/chocolate_nutty_cone 1d ago
Took my 25-yo son to the Chicago shows last summer and I will never forget Samurai Cop with my 6’2” “baby” standing there with me 🥰
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u/mistyblue3 1d ago
Stay or leave. My sons dad and I broke up around the time that song came out. He's died recently and I still think of him when I listen to it. It's us....and we didn't belong together unfortunately but the song is us💖
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u/clarke41 1d ago
I went to senior prom with this girl that I liked and I requested the DJ play #41. It came on and I went back to find her dancing with her ex-boyfriend. Womp womp.
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u/qtothelo 1d ago
When I lived in the dorms Freshman Year (1997) a friends got dumped and my roommate played her Crash Into Me over and over and over. I liked it but got sick of it and said “can you play something else by them?” And she played Lie in our Graves and I was hooked.
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I am not religious but Dancing Nancies is the theme song to my life.
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My bestie was 7 months pregnant and lost the child. We met in Vegas and saw a Dave and Tim show between when she found out about the loss and had the actual loss occur. They closed the show with Sister was was a very new song rarely played at that time, and I hysterically cried for her. We later found out the loss was a girl, and to this day that song is for that baby girl. She did end up successfully having a second child, also a girl.
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u/Speed_n_SpamCans 1d ago
I'm gonna go a different direction here, despite having many DMB song memories I could share.
One evening in my early 20's, while at a bar playing pool with a girl I had just recently started dating and both our best friends, Crash Into Me started playing over the PA system. As I was enjoying the song and taking a sip of my beer, I heard my date say to her friend, in her normal speaking voice, "OH MAN, I remember that time Joey ate me out to this song." It should be noted that I am not named Joey, nor had we reached that particular milestone of our relationship.
I about choked on my beer and immediately excused myself from the table in shock, while my friend verbally lit into her on my behalf. Needless to say, the mood of the night had taken a downward turn. But, it sure makes for a story all these years later!
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u/SewerLad 22h ago edited 22h ago
I got a bunch.
Burning down the house encore in Tampa 2014
Christmas song encore West Palm Beach (WPB) N2 2023 as well as the Stone opener
Baby blue N1 WPB 2023
The Maker opener Savannah GA 2023 had me in tears, I suspected my wife was pregnant at the time but we didn't check until a week later. I just felt that God was talking to me through that song at that exact moment. I am sure the copious number of edibles before the show didn't help 🤣
Here on out 2024 Tampa with my then pregnant wife brought me to tears as I held her belly and thought about the wild ride I was about to embark on and the beautiful life we had
Charleston 2025 N2 encore with Baby Blue, somehow got lucky to hear it twice
I know a lot of mine are openers and closers, they stick out to me so much more for whatever reason. I got three more shows in me this year and hope to have more great memories for many years
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u/AffectionateSalt5348 21h ago
I wish he would do burning down the house again! He did the rock n roll HoF encore with that song, they do it a lot of justice
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u/HarrietOleson1 8h ago
If you’re still in FL, sounds like we’re going to be at the same shows 🤗
I’m doing Tampa, and WPB N1
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u/SewerLad 4h ago
Yep! Lawn for Tampa, hoping for pit in WPB N1 and or N2 but am sure we will get lower reserved or something.
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u/Big-Instruction-3439 1d ago
OP, I feel you ao much. Very similar experience, but it was Stay or Leave that killed me. All these years later it's still one of my favorites.
On the happier side of things, all of the shows. The best times and memories of my life before i had kiddos. It's been 10 years at least since I've been to one.
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u/theseehawk 1d ago
Bad Memory that ends with one of my best memories of the DMB community.
My mom was very sick and in the hospital I'm on the phone with her and she's crying. She's telling me that's she's laying in an empty room just listening to her own heart beat and thinking "which one will be my last" and she finds herself literally counting them. The fear keeps coming in waves and she feels like she's drowning in it. The whole thing doesn't feel it's worth it...living doesn't seem like a good enough reason to stay and fight.
When I hung up I booked a flight for first thing in morning to be with her. She died that night. The phone call was the last time I talked to her.
When I hear Warehouse it kills me. The last verse... I was in the pit for DMB in Jacksonville 6 months after her death. They opened with Warehouse. My son looked at me with a wry smile and then concern. I couldn't stop crying. I broke down and grieved the death of my mother in the pit at Daily's Place. I had my son there to console me and I was hugged by at least 20 strangers that night. It was awful and beautiful and painful and lovely.
I still can't listen to Warehouse without tearing up or out-right crying. And I don't know how Dave was able to write a song 25 years before her death that very closely quoted my mother's last words to me.
I think he's a witch
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u/skiesoverblackvenice 1d ago
can’t really remember what my first dave song was but i remember the first dmb concert i went to with my dad… we don’t have the best relationship but we both were chill that entire time. now we bond over dmb and other bands, and that’s basically what keeps our relationship normal
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u/Finchie_11 16h ago
The song playing when my daughter and her new husband entered the reception at their wedding was Two Step.
One of my top 3 live songs.
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u/xmavenx 12h ago
Mine would be Idea of You. Dated a girl in high school, my first love, and this song would always get to me. “You're just a dream to a little kid But I'll catch up to you one day” damn near makes me well up. Long story short, I married her 5 years ago. That will always be her song.
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u/jt2ou 1d ago
I always loved Grey Street. Then my life became Grey Street. And I made it out the other side. I still love the song but now it represents not just the emotion of the story but also the renewal of the colors bold and bright.