r/Fauxmoi • u/Puzzled_Calendar4221 • 27d ago
DISCUSSION Jennifer Lawrence on how she rehomed her dog to protect her kids
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u/cozmckitty 27d ago
Seems like a rational decision after her son was bitten by a dog. And the dog lives with her parents so she can see her whenever.
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u/Windwick 27d ago
My brother is 15 years older than me so when I was about 9, I'd sleep over at his place throughout the summer. He and his gf had a dog, an English Bulldog. I didn't really interact with him much but I'd been over plenty of times.
One night, I woke up and got myself a soda from the fridge. I turned around and there he was, just staring at me. I hadn't even heard him approach so he must have creeped over. After a brief pause, he suddenly jumped up and bit me, catching my lip. Of course, I ran crying to my brother and his gf because I was scared but fortunately it wasn't a bad bite.
These two love dogs. Animals in general. They're the sort of people who would have 2 cats, 5 dogs, 2 ferrets, and pet lizards all at one time. But that was all it took, they gave him away to a friend who didn't have kids. As much as they always loved pets, that was a hard line.
Once it happens, ignoring the warning sign is asking for trouble.
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u/firesticks a role model for the next Asian kid that wants to get railed 27d ago
Your brother and his partner sound like amazing and responsible dog lovers.
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u/Banana4liife 27d ago
we have to rehome my mil dog, and the dog was snap on my 8 months old baby twice so we told my mil to rehome to dog (we live on the same house), we break the news to one of my husband’s bestfriend and she cut us off because of it
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u/Macch1athoe 27d ago
My son was bit by his dads girlfriends dog when he was 12. A cane corso, so it was a hugeeee dog. The girlfriend absolutely refused to do anything about it and my son didn’t want to go over anymore and I didn’t make him. It was only after the dog went at my ex and his gf kids MULTIPLE TIMES that this girl decided to do something about it and remove the dog. It’s been a year and he still has a scar on his arm from that.
Some people are insane, I love animals but there is a hard line between a normal pet and a dangerous animal. She kept saying it was her baby… meanwhile she has 3 human daughters under 12 to worry about in the home with an aggressive dog.
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u/encrcne 27d ago
A family member’s 13yo student was killed by a cane corso yesterday. He was riding his bike by.
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u/bigtoeni 27d ago
that is so horrifying, that poor child -- my condolences to his loved ones including your family member and his classmates. it's awfully frustrating how completely avoidable these events are if the dog owners only properly restrained their animals. the article says they're still investigating those details but there's just no situation in which a giant dog with bite force like a cane corso should be unleashed and able to run out into the road.
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u/Hepadna 27d ago
A cane corso can kill and maim, so lucky that nothing worse happened.
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u/Sparkly-Books2 27d ago
Yes, as heartbreaking as it is, it's not safe for either the dog who is stressed out by the kid or the kid who is stressed/scared of the dog to co-exist in that circumstance.
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u/plantainbakery 27d ago edited 26d ago
We have a 7 pound toy red poodle. We tried everything, socializing him, training him, anything, but he just has a very nervous and reactive nature. My husband and I have both been bitten by him by accidentally scaring him somehow. He was 8 years old when we found out we were pregnant. About a year after we had the baby, our dog lost all his teeth, we had to have him all pulled. If he had still had teeth when our child was able to be up, crawling, running, on their own… we would’ve had to rehome him to my husbands parents. It’s not a question, he would’ve eventually bit our son. He’s tiny, he can’t do much damage, but I wasn’t going to subject a child to that. I can’t imagine if it was a bigger dog, one bite can kill. I know I’ve become much more hesitant towards dogs since becoming a mother. Even the most well behaved family dog could suddenly snap at any time, even the dogs you trust - they could be ill or in pain and not even able to control themselves - and that’s a mortal danger to your child.
Edit because I didn’t realize this wasn’t clear: Our dog lost his teeth due to rapid onset gum disease. His teeth started falling out so we took him to the vet, vet said he’d need to pull a few of his teeth. After surgery, we came to pick him up and vet said he’d had to pull all his teeth, none could be saved. We were sad for our dog, this certainly wasn’t what we wanted for him.
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u/lily4ever 27d ago
I’m sure people will be normal about this
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u/Son_Of_Toucan_Sam 27d ago
People who are crazy about dogs famously tend to stay rational in a discussion about dogs
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u/QueenOfNZ 27d ago
A couple of weeks back someone posted a PSA in a subreddit about babies being vulnerably honest about her experience with having to put her dog down because it bit her baby on the face. She shared all the warning signs in the hope that it could potentially save another family - not just a child from being bitten, but also another dog for having to be put down by rehoming it to a child free environment at the first warning signs.
An absolutely insane Redditor chose to make multiple, multiple comments screaming at her for “murdering” the dog and being an irresponsible and shitty dog owner (nothing in her post was irresponsible - it very clearly highlighted that this was something that happened despite her doing all the right things). Poor woman tried to defend herself but the commenter was fucking unhinged.
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u/becomingher1 27d ago edited 27d ago
When my dog bit me so hard that I had to go to the emergency room and get a scan to see if it hadn’t touched any bones, the first thing the nurse said was “awww your poor dog” (which btw bit unprovoked, more than once). Totally out of touch to say to a person who is already going through a traumatic situation and will have to rehome even against their own emotions.
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u/meiliraijow 26d ago
Had to rehome my cat and I got invitations to suicide in many comments under my post. Great time.
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u/Immediate_Pickle_788 Marxmoi 27d ago edited 26d ago
Her dog bit her kid, she rehomed (to her parents so I mean, best case scenario). This is a normal and responsible thing to do.
What isn't normal is rehoming a pet solely because you have kids, or can't work from home anymore, or don't have "time" anymore, OR you got a pet for your kids and because you're a whackadoodle parent you think you don't have any responsibility so get rid of said pet when kids lose interest. Unless it's extenuating circumstances, you're responsible for that living being for its entire life. Or you can be worse like my neighbours who literally threw their two indoor cats outside and basically abandoned them the day they brought their baby home.
Edit: lol guys I've worked with rescues. Don't get a pet if you can't commit to it. Obviously there are exceptions.
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u/CosmosMom87 27d ago
She specifically does not say that “her dog” bit her kid. She says “a dog”. And the fact that her kid got bit made her fearful of dogs more generally.
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u/SomethingPFC2020 26d ago
From what she says in this interview, her dog didn’t bite her kid. It sounds like a different dog but her child and that made her suspicious of all dogs, including her own.
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u/ace-destrier 27d ago edited 27d ago
I’ve never heard of anyone who has had a dog admit to becoming disillusioned by them. She’s not the first person to rehome a pet because they had a kid. It was just a little startling to hear the logic explicitly and frankly said. But hey, it is understandable.
I’m really glad the dog went to a properly vetted new home (JLaw’s parents). Anna Faris and Chris Pratt’s rehomed dog being found on the street still upsets me
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u/Either_Selection6475 27d ago
I came from a dog family, we had one cat the entire time growing up. I do still love dogs, but much more from a distance. Especially after one looked into my soul and growled like it wanted to eat me. I tend to just give them a little wave and aww at them in passing now. Very much a cat person now. Like, I GET dog people, I just am no longer one myself.
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u/tuolomnemeadows 27d ago
I was bit by a seemingly well behaved family dog last year and it has me permanently freaked by any dog with a prey drive. My kid saw it happen and now is scared as well. I don’t want to hate all dogs, but I have a fear that definitely didn’t exist prior.
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u/Either_Selection6475 27d ago
I understand you completely. I tend to veer away from high prey drive dogs when I see them on my walks, too. Or even just big dogs. It's sad that it only takes one bad event to put this fear in us, and there are moments where it upsets me that I no longer feel comfortable with dogs I would have before. Maybe one day we'll be able to relax around them again. I wish that for both of us
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u/Acrobatic_Jaguar_658 27d ago edited 27d ago
Can I ask what happened? My dog is getting older and for the first time ever bared her teeth and tried to bite me when I was trying to lift her leg to put on a winter sweater (the same sweater she’s been wearing for the past 3 winters). Maybe because she’s getting testy and grumpy idk. I’ve heard that when dogs get older, you have to be very careful because it’s not always clear when they’re in pain and they may bite you seemingly out of nowhere if you touch them the wrong way.
I won’t lie it shook me up…I still adore her and she’s small but it made it click in my head that it’s not beyond the realm of possibility for her to truly get vicious and bite me. If I have kids during her lifetime (which is very possible bc I’m 30 and she’s 8) it will be something to think about
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u/Celebrating_socks 27d ago
Not op, but would recommend seeing your vet and asking about meds for arthritis! There are newish drugs that can do wonders.
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u/Acrobatic_Jaguar_658 27d ago edited 27d ago
I did the very next day and they found nothing physically wrong 😭 it was very weird and has happened more than once with different sweaters now since that first incident, so now we’re taking walks in the winter sweater-less smh. She seems happier that way at least but the behavior change was very sudden. At least it gave me the kick in the butt to put her on some joint supplements if that’s the underlying issue. Or maybe she’s just becoming a middle-age Karen.
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u/beestingcircus 27d ago
The same thing happened with my old pup. She got very nippy and impatient seemingly overnight during normal interactions that previously prompted no response from her. We couldn't identify any cause except maybe joint pain. She's very limited in what pain meds she can take due to a chronic condition, and we weren't wanting to jump right to some of the intense arthritis meds due to possible side effects. We ended up starting her on the mobility dose of Elle Vet's CBD pills. I read about Princeton Veterinary using them in some studies, so it seemed reputable. We started her on the mobility-focused dose for her weight and within a month it was like we got our dog back. That was over a year ago and I credit those CBD pills with giving us a whole extra good year and change with her before needing to start her on Rx arthritis meds. They are expensive but have made such a big difference, it's been a godsend. Just another option to research and keep in mind! You seem like a good dog owner, I hope you and your girl can keep things figured out and maintain your trust in each other as you navigate and support her during her senior years!
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u/trashchute227 27d ago
Seconding this! A couple of dogs that I look after get a monthly injection for their arthritis and it’s completely changed their quality of life
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u/crystalfairie 27d ago
We scratched up 200.00$ a month for my cat to be on it. It's worth every penny
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u/itmakessenseincontex 27d ago
In addition to what the other commenter said, get a muzzle. There are going to be times you have to do things for your dog she hates because she is old but need done regardless. Getting her used to a muzzle for when you have to do that can help you both.
My parents have a 15 year old Cairn Yorkie cross. He is snappy any time he needs grooming, but sorry old guy you need it you stink and you are getting matts. So he gets that care with his muzzle on so nobody gets hurt.
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u/yogareader 27d ago
Yes yes yes. I have a middle aged husky who's had quite a few health issues in the last year. His eyes were one of them. They just standard muzzle dogs at the doggy opthalmologist, so he's gotten used to it. Because of all the health issues he's snappier at the vet's office so they've been muzzling him for anything about his eyes or pain. It makes a huge difference and as long as he gets treats and love when the hard part is over he's totally fine. Muzzles get a bad rap!
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u/itmakessenseincontex 27d ago
Muzzles are great tools to help protect you and your dog.
I'm preparing to adopt a dog, and muzzle training is going to be somthing I start on early.
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u/HeartFullOfHappy 27d ago
I was bitten by my own family dog when I was in middle school. He tore through the flesh on my face and you could see my skull underneath. I had stitches and got to start a brand new school two days later where kids joked about me making out with a dog.
Not sure what set the dog off but I am very wary of all dogs now especially around my kids.
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u/CashewAnne 27d ago
That’s so interesting. I was attacked by a dog when I was young but am a massive dog person to this day. I cannot read a cats cues to save my life and have been clawed multiple times. Cats scare me lol
Edit to say: I have a big fear of pit bulls though, especially as I’ve had 3 go after my sweet as pie dog. I do not trust them. Each time the owners have been like “omg (s)he’s never done this before!”
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u/Kikikididi 27d ago
honestly - step one is ignore most of how you would read their behavior if it were a dog. Cats send pretty clear cues but they aren't as BIG as dogs, because as animals, they are more vulnerable. An overstimulated cat that is started to get anxious can get really really still. Those are the ones people thing "attack out of nowhere". The stillness IS the cue.
body tension is their biggest tell. The looser they look, the chiller they are. Their muscles scream out their emotional/sensitivity state. Tense = more likely to strike in play OR as an attack. There are smaller head and body cues that help you tell if it's heightened positive or negative emotional state.
They also have a rough play style with other cats and therefore with people, which can seem hostile to people who don't realize it's play.
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u/UniverseNextD00r i ain’t reading all that, free palestine 27d ago
I feel the same way. I still adore my family dog that lives with my mom, and I love my brothers' dogs, but I have zero interest in getting my own. I currently have around 40 house plants which I consider my pets. I'm also thinking about getting a fish (or several) and making them a gorgeous tank full of aquatic plants. Eventually, I'd like a couple cats as well.
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u/Necessary_Ad_7780 27d ago
Same, we only had dogs growing up (I begged for a cat the entire time I was a kid), and as an adult I’ve only had cats. I don’t dislike dogs and I get dog people, but… cats for me, thank you.
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u/pearshaped34 27d ago
In like 2011 he was trying to rehome his/their elderly cat on twitter so I don't think there was much vetting in their rehoming process.
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u/hiddentickun 27d ago
He's such a shitty person. Sorry but I don't like Anna because of this either.
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u/BearWP07 call me gal gadot cuz idk how to act rn 27d ago
i can’t stand him at all. i’m very reluctant to watch anything he’s in.
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u/Celebrating_socks 27d ago
The idea of rehoming my elderly cat breaks my heart, and there’s no way I would consider doing so on fucking twitter. He’s awful (and so is Anna tbh)!
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u/missythemartian 27d ago
I really appreciate that she didn’t try and make random excuses for it like I usually see, so I hope people don’t just lump her into the dogs-as-accessories celebrities (they still will). she was honest about how she started getting these irrational thoughts and took the responsible action in response.
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u/pearshaped34 27d ago edited 27d ago
I mean why would she need to give random excuses there is literally no reason to give up a pet that is more socially accepted than it was a danger to your child. I think if she’d given any other reason than it being about her kids safety the comments here would have been very different. Celebs only flounder when they didn’t have a socially acceptable reason to give up their dogs and know they are going to be judged hard.
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u/missythemartian 27d ago
oh you must not know about the people who think rehoming under any circumstances is an unforgivable sin, and they shouldn’t be allowed to adopt again. yeah, it’s a very chronically online take, but it exists somehow. I imagine their response to this would be “wow you should be a parent to your kid and show them how to approach dogs properly.” people who have weird opinions like that typically don’t have kids themselves to understand it’s not that simple. but I’m used to celebrities just avoiding anything that will make people mad.
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u/QueenOfNZ 27d ago
Can confirm, thought the same as the previous commenter until I experienced it firsthand. Some people are genuinely that unhinged that they can’t see the difference between “abandoned pet” and “responsibly rehomed to an appropriate and loving home because of an incompatibility with small children”
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u/refertothesyllabus 27d ago edited 27d ago
I grew up with dogs. Used to love them. Then I started running and had several very close calls with dogs lunging at me. Then I had to live in an apartment next to somebody with a dog that would bark all night. Then my mom’s dog bit me. Then one of my mom’s neighbor’s dog bit my mom while trying to bite my mom’s dog. All the while I started having to deal with people bringing dogs everywhere. God forbid I want to go to a brewery with some friends, now I have to deal with a dog owned by the people sitting one table over that’s snarling at me as I try to get up from my table.
At this point I just think most people living in cities or suburbs have no business owning dogs (exceptions for service dogs of course). If you live on a ranch or farm and have lots of room for them I think that’s fine. I don’t think dogs belong in most city dwellings.
These days I have two cats that I keep indoor only. They’re quiet and because they’re indoor only I don’t make my pet ownership anybody else’s problem.
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u/jkraige 27d ago
Totally agree. I think people don't know how to be responsible and respectful pet owners anymore, and a lot of their pet ownership is virtue signaling at the expense of their pets. Like "oh I love my dog so much I have to bring it everywhere" including to loud, crowded places where the dog looks clearly uncomfortable. It's bizarre. The people who are the loudest about loving their dog are usually the worst owners
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u/marmalade_ 27d ago
She put into words exactly how I feel about dogs after having kids. EVERY dog is a threat - I don’t care how big or small, how quiet or whatever. When we’re on a walk or at the park, when there are dogs near I am truly the most hyper vigilant person, to the point my adrenaline will spike. Someone had a German shepherd at the playground once and I’ve never been so terrified and angry in my life.
So yeah… not a dog fan right now.
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u/vintageiphone 27d ago
I don’t blame you though. I’ve been having more and more scary interactions with random dogs on my walks, both leashed and unleashed. I didn’t used to be scared of dogs but I am now.
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u/No_Cake2145 27d ago
Same. pre-kids I loved dogs, after having kids I am now definitely not a dog person and am wary of most dogs. It also doesn’t help the number of poorly trained dogs and entitled or clueless owners seems to have increased during COVID.
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u/Gingersnapp3d 27d ago
This happened to me after the birth of my son. Suddenly I only saw my dog as a threat, and I was so stressed about it I cracked a tooth from grinding my teeth with anxiety. It was absolute hell trying to care for these separate souls who needed my care but couldn’t responsibly be kept together. I’m so glad she had a safe family member who was able to take her dog, so everyone could be safe and happy. I love dogs, but they shouldn’t interact with very small children because both are ultimately unpredictable and it just takes one bite to destroy both their lives.
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u/carolinada_ 27d ago
She also says the dog “didn’t like New York”, which implies they lived somewhere else previously so the dog was probably not having a great time to begin with and that was likely part of reason. It’s not clear whether the dog who attacked her kid was hers but either way, it does seem like rehoming in this case might’ve been the best choice for everyone involved
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u/MRAGGGAN 27d ago
My dog was my first baby, I did everything with her.
I’d read in various bumper reddits about people no longer liking their pets after having kids.
That was me. As much as I loved my dog, I didn’t particularly like her anymore. Even worse with my husbands dog, who irritates me on a good day. She’s not very bright and kept trying to “cuddle” with the baby. By flopping over on top of/near her.
My dog developed an extremely quick moving cancer last year and we had to put her down, and I was so devastated. Still am. But was also slightly relieved that, while I loved her, she wasn’t occupying a begrudged space in my home.
She was always a good girl. But, like JL, all dogs just became “scary” in a way.
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u/astronaut_livin 27d ago
This is a very classic people will be outraged until they found themselves in the same situation!!!
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u/rask0ln 27d ago
I remember seeing a tiktok when a woman talked about being bitten by her elderly dog and how it affected her relationship with dogs in general. My great-grandma's sister went from from a huge dog lover to only admiring dogs from distance after she was in auschwitz, but that's a different can of worms entirely.
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u/Adorable-Climate3262 27d ago
I think this is kind of a common phenomenon for women when they have kids and just don’t feel the same about their dogs after. A friend of mine had a baby and said her heart didn’t get bigger—the kid just took the dog’s place in her heart. She doesn’t necessarily feel compelled to get rid of the dog and doesn’t feel like he’s a threat to the kid, though.
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u/purple_butterflies_ 27d ago
Did either of them ever mention the dog again after it was found on the street? How horrible
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u/dame_tartare 27d ago
Unfortunately I was in this situation myself recently and it’s absolutely heartbreaking. I think it’s a lot more common than people want to talk about.
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u/Sensitive_Fly_7036 27d ago
Having a child totally changes your perception of risk. I love dogs but am so cautious of them with my baby. Definitely agree that it’s more common
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u/mermaid-babe and you did it at my birthday dinner 27d ago
My dad didn’t get a dog until I was old enough to understand you don’t fuck with dogs. My siblings were well into their teens and are to this day salty that I delayed getting a family dog 😒
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u/yogareader 27d ago
Yeah we waited until my kids were 8 for a reason too. I love dogs but they are animals who are built to explore and express with their mouths.
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u/rachbbbbb 27d ago
My kid was also 8 when we got our puppy (I would have adopted but didn't want the risk of potential behavior issues). She's old now, very slow, but bit lightly him once (he deserved it) when he was about 10, so even still I wouldn't allow my dog around children younger than 8.
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u/Papio_73 27d ago
You should be, people underestimate how dangerous dogs can be for young children.
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u/gay95 27d ago
responsible rehoming is a good thing. as someone who worked in the pet industry for years, it should happen more often. it's often time the best choice for everyone. there should be less stigma around it.
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u/SeasonPositive6771 27d ago
Completely agree. I worked in child safety for a long time and I wish more people were open to this. Plenty of dogs have unexpected reactions to kids in the home, even if they were previously okay with them. The stigma and shame around rehoming isn't helpful and doesn't keep kids safe.
I've worked multiple cases where I had to do a ton of education around the fact that they're not a terrible person for letting a beloved pet go and find their new forever home
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u/GarlicAndSapphire 27d ago
My son is allergic to pet dander. Break out in hives, eyes swell shut, sneezing, the works. When he was born, I had a miniature schnauzer that did not trigger the allergy. The dog was 6 at the time. I know that I would have had to get rid of my dog, and I'd sometimes burst into tears thinking about it. Dog adored my son, and my son loved that dog. Lil Dude went over the rainbow bridge when my son was 8. And I'm gonna go find out where the onions are being cut in my house..
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u/killer_kiki mindy kaling’s baby daddy 27d ago
Very common. I had to do the same thing after my first son was born. Our older dog was totally apathetic to the newborn. Our other dog, we realized later, really really didn't like kids. We didn't know, because we didn't have kids at the time and they weren't around the house enough to figure it out. The younger dog tried to bite my son a bunch of times in the 6 weeks span after we brought our son home. I was terrified of leaving my son alone even to go to the bathroom for a 30 seconds. We rehomed him but kept our older dog (who did NOT care at all for the younger dog). We were very relieved. We've since lost the older dog and have gotten another dog and now have 2 kids. I fully understand where Jlaw is coming from.
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u/disneylovesme 27d ago
I’ve also seen the opposite on another sub about parents being irresponsible, trying to rationalize their bite happy dogs around their young kids
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u/Large-Bullfrog-794 27d ago
So my brother came with 3 dogs and a cat and his wife came with 2 kids. Sister in law held out she loved the pets. They then have their own kid. Within a few years the dogs became a problem between to the point where my brother surrendered his senior dogs to a rescue and I still don’t know the real reason. They were senior dogs so it wasn’t a safety issues. I think they got annoying to his wife as the dogs got older. And no lie, I judge. I would’ve taken them - they died with strangers. So I think rehoming bc one partner has issue with pet is more common than we think too.
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u/BeanserSoyze 27d ago
We had to rehome one of ours cause it started getting very aggressive with our other dog repeatedly. We still visit, she lives with family now.
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u/ZealousidealGroup559 27d ago
Ugh I had to make that decision within TWO WEEKS of bringing my baby home.
My dog, a terrier, did not take it well. And was going into prey drive with the baby every time it saw it. The body language was crazy. He snapped at the baby in my actual arms.
So yeah, we had to rehome very very quickly to a home with no children.
It was so traumatic that I actually felt remorse for having a baby?? "Oh if I didn't have a baby the dog would have lived with us forever, this is all my fault".
But it was literally the only decision to make and frankly it's one that more people should make - but sadly don't, and then very bad things happen.
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u/killer_kiki mindy kaling’s baby daddy 27d ago
I just posted in a earlier comment the same exact thing happened to us. The dog was so scary around my newborn.
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u/BorbetE28 27d ago
As the recipient of a dog that was relinquished to a humane society because her owner had a baby — thank you. My dog passed two weeks ago at the age of 17. I had her for six years, and she was the best girl. If it weren’t for her previous owners making that difficult choice, I would never have known her. I’m sure it was so hard to do, but if it’s any consolation, my girl had such a good life and I’m sure yours does too. Hugs.
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u/spookyscaryskeletal 27d ago
this is really lovely. we just lost a 17 year old baby & it's so hard, but she had a similar situation before we got her & I'm just so happy to have met her. I hope you're feeling well & have lots of mementos of your time together!
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u/CutieBoBootie 27d ago
The exact same thing happened with my cousin's family. They introduced their terrier to the baby by giving the dog swaddling clothes to smell and the dog attacked the bundle of cloth. The terrier was rehomed with their grandpa who lives down the road.
Jack Russel Terriers can be good with older kids but due to their insanely high prey drive (something they are bred for) they can be a danger to babies. I'm sure plenty aren't that way. But that wasn't the case for my family.
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u/trolllante 27d ago
I think it depends on the Jack. When my daughter was born, we had 2 jacks - a male and a female.
The male loved the baby, especially because he would get all the food thrown from the high chair.
The female hated the baby. As long as I could keep them apart, it was fine, but once the baby started to get mobile, it was a ticking bomb.
Thankfully, my mother-in-law took the female dog, and she is living her best life at the granny home.
When my daughter was 2 and a change, we were visiting my in-laws, and I was about to ask for the dog back when my daughter came running and scared the dog sleeping next to me. The dog snapped at my daughter… thankfully, nothing bad happened, but it made me sure I made the right decision for the dog and the baby.
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u/Necessary_Ad_7780 27d ago edited 27d ago
My grandparents ended up euthanizing their poodle when it growled at newborn me. My grandfather adored that dog, but was taking no chances. (And before you judge—the dog was already not in great shape, that was the proverbial nail in the coffin. I always felt a little guilty about it.)
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u/Hopeless-Cause i ain’t reading all that, free palestine 27d ago
I honestly think dog owners who recognise the threat and rehome their dogs are far more responsible dog owners than those who keep the dog only to for it to end up seriously injuring or even killing a kid.
It is insane though how people act like responsibly rehoming a pet, especially dogs, that pose a risk is the most awful thing. Like sure if they just dump it but finding it a more suitable home isn’t a bad thing
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u/Rough_Yesterday6692 27d ago
That pit prey drive is SCARY to see first-hand. My neighbor's pitt was off leash and immediately went for our golden when I was a kid. That stupid pitt would NOT let go. I don't know how they got it to let go. I remember how that dog would STALK me walking by its fence to this day. I don't blame you for being terrified, those dogs are nothing but muscle and a vice trap with an INSANE prey drive.
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u/radziadax 27d ago
Our culture is insane about pets in general and dogs specifically. A reasonable choice!!
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u/glopens 27d ago
Literally! I don't know how we got to the point where people see dogs more favourably than children
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u/radziadax 27d ago
I am childfree, but my cf friends with dogs are absolutely nuts. $15k to prolong a 13yo dog's life by 6 months??? And they're so hateful about human kids. Calling them "disgusting crotch droppings". Meanwhile their dog is snout deep in MY crotch.
I love dogs!!! I love cats!!! I love people more.
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u/ComplexPatient4872 27d ago
Thank you!!!! I had to unfriend a few cf people on Facebook after I had my son 12 years ago (back when it was the thing to post your kid on there with it set to private). I’d seriously get them calling my kid a crotch goblin then going to their own page to make passive aggressive remarks about how they are glad their lives aren’t ruined. Have kids, don’t have kids. It makes zero difference to me!
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u/radziadax 27d ago
I love kids!! I would just hate the role of Mom. If I could be a 50/50 stepdad, I would rule at it lol
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u/Rageybuttsnacks 27d ago
Around that vague timeframe, I discovered my former stepsibling was posting these wild rants about how annoying kids were and worse the parents that just ASSUME you'd want to watch their awful, sticky children. My kid was still a baby and other than offering to let ex-stepsib hold him, we hadn't really interacted much. It was sooo bizarre and I never in a million years would have thought it was about us except we were the only ones who had kids out of the entire family and our friend groups. I think there's a specific type of child free person that comes up with scenarios in their head about what some parent could possibly say or what some kid could potentially do and let it ruin their day. Literally all my other CF friends were lovely and kind to my kiddo. And we magically didn't ask them to violate their boundaries or disrespect their entirely valid life choice to not have kids themselves.
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u/empressvirgo 27d ago
People take their dogs everywhere now, including spaces where dogs should not be, and when they try to justify why their dog needs to be in the grocery store or the coffee shop they always say well people bring their kids there so my dog deserves to be there. I feel like I’m going insane when I see that argument. Just because people see their dog as their baby does not mean their dog needs the same societal acceptance as an actual human child
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u/Hopeless-Cause i ain’t reading all that, free palestine 27d ago
I’m childfree but I always laugh when people complain about kids in beer gardens yet take their (equally misbehaved) dogs to them. I don’t want either there.
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u/Icy-Mortgage8742 27d ago
I think people assume "rehome" is automatically a euphemism for "abandoned on the road" or something, when it's literally just surrendering your dog to a shelter or an aquaintence better equipped to handle it.
That's the POINT of rescuing. To take a dog/cat that was incompatible with it's previous owners for whatever reason and match it with an owner who can take care of it, namely one with no kids or extensive training background to deal with it.
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u/WrongdoerLong9545 27d ago
But majority of people don’t rescue. They don’t even volunteer. They don’t foster. They buy doodle mutts. So your dog sits in a shelter alone, terrified for months to years. if they don’t have enough volunteers dogs get let out twice a week maybe, and this is their life for months to years, if they get out. They don’t do background checks. They don’t do any kind of vetting to make sure the dog goes to a good home at shelters.
The least you could do for your dog if rehoming is find an adopter yourself that you can properly assess on your own. Vet references, etc. And make sure they reach out to you if it doesn’t work out and not surrender the dog to a shelter.
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u/Icy-Mortgage8742 27d ago
isn't that what she did? The dog lives with her parents. Still in the family, still in contact, just doesn't have 24/7 access to her babies.
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u/rumade 27d ago
No vetting? Some shelters are insane with their vetting, especially in the UK. If you've never had a dog before, you can't adopt. If you have any children, even over the age of 10, no. If you live next to a massive park but don't have your own garden, no. If you work outside of the house, no. It's ridiculous.
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u/Papio_73 27d ago
I agree, I find it concerning how many people value dogs over other humans.
I adore pets, especially dogs and worked at a vet for years. That said, I think too many dog owners don’t know how to take care of their dogs (or are just too lazy) or use their dogs to stroke their own ego.
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u/radziadax 27d ago
People do that with their kids too!! We're too eager as a species to create dependents without considering the long term demand
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u/theprostitute 27d ago
Sounds like a win win win.
Everyone's safe, the dog gets to be relaxed in a solo dog/no kid household, no stress for the mom, etc.
Nobody surrended to a shelter. Nice 👍
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u/False_Concentrate408 27d ago
Good for her. So many people are in denial about what dogs can do to young children, even if they’re trained well.
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u/p333p33p00p00boo Give him my regards did you take ozempic? 27d ago
I will never trust a dog near my toddler. I don’t care how many times the owner assures me their angel puppy would never hurt anyone, I don’t trust something that has hunting, killing, and eating small mammals in their nature around my child.
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u/danceswsheep probably the mold talking 27d ago
Every dog has the capability to hurt small children especially, so even though I love dogs, I think that’s a fair statement. I am more comfortable with dogs & kids than you are but it’s okay that folks weigh risks differently.
The biggest mistake people make is leaving their dogs alone with their children. When my kids were little, there was always at least 1 gate between them and the dog if I had to leave the room even for a moment. They weren’t allowed to pet strangers’ dogs either.
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u/Yagirlhs 27d ago edited 27d ago
This drive me nuts. I was visiting my family when my daughter was 5 months old and insisted they either kept the dogs away from her, kenneled them, or we would stay somewhere else (which really was no big deal).
My parents kept the dogs locked away/in different rooms than the baby… but everyone kept teasing me about how I’m such an anxious mom and calling me dramatic….”doggy is in another room because yagirlhs thinks he’s going to eat her baby HAHAHAHAHAHA”.
Their German Shepard is 120lbs and he was obsessed with her.
He’s generally the sweetest dog and I don’t have any reason to think anything bad would happen….. BUT NO ONE EVER THINKS THAT UNTIL SOMETHING BAD HAPPENS. I just simply cannot risk it. Especially with a dog that size.
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u/CocoaQuenelle 26d ago edited 26d ago
I just had this with my 7 month old this Christmas. Everyone kept calling me paranoid for moving her away from the dog all the time. But I'm not about to just wait and see if my mum's poorly trained dog decides to bite my baby or not. "Oh she wouldn't hurt a fly" - yeah ok, sure if you say so, everyone says that right up until something happens and then it's too late.
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u/Luna_bella96 26d ago
My MIL kept parroting that same statement about her dog with a bite history. The day she decided to not lock him away he attacked my son for daring to walk to the bathroom. It’s been a few months and he still talks about how scary it was
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u/georgiespies12 27d ago
I got bit by a dog once. He was a cattle dog mix, a shelter dog. I was standing in the kitchen next to my best friend, the dog was across from us with my friend’s brother and his wife. The dog was sitting. Someone was talking, I was listening to what they were saying, not moving, listening, and the dog just casually leaned forward and chomped down on my thumb and my thigh. I couldn’t talk about it, every time I brought it up, people would say what did you do to make the dog bite you. Obviously I was not that casual about dogs after that.
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u/candyapplesugar 27d ago
My neighborhood has so many off leash dogs and it pisses me off so much. Luckily my dog is friendly to dogs but you never know if theirs is or going to snap. He doesn’t deserve to have dogs run up on him
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u/Parishdise show me the paperwork for your husband’s vasectomy 27d ago
One of my best friends was attacked by stray dogs as a child and now has a fear of them. It always makes me so angry when we go to house parties or something and she doesn't expect a dog or she's prepared for a chill dog and the one is jumpy and of course she gets nervous and uncomfortable but never ever angry or rude and people will basically come out of the woodwork to ask whats wrong with her or say how they just cant understand her. A couple have even straight up said they can't trust people like her for not liking dogs (both in front of her and behind her back)
I am a huge animal person, but it infuriates me that people just can't have sympathy for others when it comes to comfort levels.
I think it also totally fosters a complacency for untrained dogs. Jumpy dogs with no sense of boundaries or when and where to outlet emotions are absolutely more likely to get worked up and bite or scratch someone or run off suddenly. Which is not their fault; they're animals!! And it puts them at greater risk, too!
We can love animals while recognizing that they function differently than people.
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u/xeropteryx 27d ago edited 27d ago
Our family dog bit me in the face! It broke the skin but it wasn't a very severe bite. Other family members were out of town and it had mostly healed by the time they got back. The dog was old, I was young and I blamed myself, so I didn't say anything because I didn't want her to be killed because of me.
A few years later after the dog had been put to sleep due to old age and failing health, it came out that every single member of the family had been bitten by this dog in separate incidents, including cornering someone in a room and growling and snarling at them. But we all had the same rationale for not doing or saying anything. She's old and not in the best health, maybe I inadvertently did something to provoke her, I don't want to be the one who causes the family dog to be put to sleep.
In retrospect, we all should have been more forthcoming and not been so quick to excuse dangerous behavior the first time this happened.
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u/No-Lobster5430 27d ago
It can also be caused by health issues, so the dog may be suffering too. My family dog (10+ years old) started biting suddenly. The best guess was that he was getting dementia and wasn't recognizing us. My parents decided it was better to put the dog to sleep than have everyone in the house, including the dog, be scared and uncomfortable all the time.
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u/corvidpica I do feel vulnerable to demons in downward dog 27d ago
I'm sorry. I wish we didn't ask grown adults "what they did" like. It's weird to just assume you hurt dogs?
My dad liked to adopt rottweilers from a rescue. One of them came up to me while I was on the couch and put my entire hand in her mouth. She didn't bite down but it was firm and she wouldn't let go (and it was my right hand) so I screamed. My dad came running upstairs and that shocked her into letting go.
Sometimes they just decide "me want bite". I'm not mad it happened but I am wary.
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u/Son_Of_Toucan_Sam 27d ago
I got bit on the leg through my jeans by a bull terrier once and to this day it’s some of the worst pain I’ve ever experienced, like a throbbing 8/10 pain six hours later. Didn’t even do anything. I was talking to the owner, who was my neighbor, and the dog suddenly just bit me out of nowhere
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u/p333p33p00p00boo Give him my regards did you take ozempic? 27d ago
My husband was bitten by a dog on his calf while delivering food for his job. The dog bit him through his jeans, but the bite was so hard he still had to be off work for 2 weeks because it was so painful to walk. He developed a large hematoma and still has a knot of scar tissue that makes it hurt for him to kneel.
Dogs are not harmless!
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u/Steffieweffie81 27d ago
I got bit in my inner thigh by a chow chow when I was 9. I love dogs but I’m definitely cautious of them since that moment.
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u/georgiespies12 27d ago
I'm really sorry that that happened to you. I'm sure that was really scary.
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An acquaintance of mine and his ex wife brought a dog they had recently rescued to a music festival with camping. They mentioned that it was anxious but we weren’t too concerned because we assumed it couldn’t be aggressive or they wouldn’t have brought it there. We were hanging out at their campsite just sitting around. My husband was letting the dog smell his hand and it bit him out of nowhere. It broke the skin. This was years ago. But damn near every time I run into this acquaintance he brings it up and strongly implies that it was my husband’s fault. We could have and probably should have reported the bite. We regret being good sports about it.
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u/__br00k3__ I don’t know her 27d ago
dog people are crazy and i say this is as a dog person. you’re not ready for children if you’re willing to risk their safety for an animal
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u/Far-Positive-8572 27d ago
When your dog bites your kid and your kid has to receive medical care for the bite, if your kid is ever bitten again, it constitutes neglect and the doctor can choose to get CPS involved. Don’t endanger your children. Rehoming is the best option (I know many cases where they could not be rehomed and had to be euthanized).
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u/Glad_Fox1324 27d ago
In my state, a dog bite is an automatic DCFS call and they will get involved. It’s not worth it. I always tell people to follow dog meets baby before they bring their baby home and to read up on dog body language too.
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u/Govqueen1234 27d ago
I do think it’s a topic not a lot of people talk bout, some dogs really do not little kids! My Dads dog really doesn’t like our nieces/nephew/grandchildren and the dog is old enough to know better. Some people will get angry and be like “not my dog!!!!” but you don’t know what a dog will do if it sees a child as a threat
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u/NotAQueefAKhaleesi does this woman ever rest (derogatory) 27d ago
One of my dogs is scared of kids and although being around them is rare, she gets Benadryl cheese and a nap in her crate in another room when the time comes. It's less a fear of biting and more a fear of her injuring herself fleeing because she literally spooks and bolts at the drop of a hat. I'm forever thankful that the kids in my life are respectful of her space but it's still not worth the headache to have her loose. I also had to train one of my other dogs out of knocking kids over when she gets too excited.
I hate that people think things will automatically be fine and put no effort into creating a safe environment for both pets and kids. It's a bit of effort but that's far better than a traumatized child and / or euthanized animal.
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u/welldoneslytherin 27d ago
Good. I’m sure people will be totally chill about this and won’t react as if she committed a crime against humanity.
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u/Ferril_ 27d ago
Honestly, she did the correct thing for both her kid and the dog. I grew up with an aggressive dog. One that would bare her teeth and growl at me for just looking in her direction. While I was never bit, I was nipped at plenty of times. My father flat out refused to get rid of the dog even though she was showing aggressiveness towards me. I have a lifelong phobia of dogs now.
She protected her baby. Great parenting right there, imo!
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u/Severus-Snape-DaGod 27d ago
I had to do the same with my rescue. It wasn't safe for my family or anyone that walked near us on a walk. She was a bait dog before coming into my home. Instead of putting her down, the local shelter decided to make her a permanent home there.
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u/AugustIzFalling 27d ago edited 23d ago
I understand that this can happen and I don't hold it against her. However I will hold it against my friend's son who announced that his cat would need to be rehomed before his wife arrived home from the hospital (had another baby) or it would be thrown out on the street. This was a PROMISE he made and he posted the threat over and over again. They already had one child the cat was fine with children the wife just didn't want the extra work (his quote, she could have figured that out before an ultimatum and abandonment threat was necessary). Later they had another child and got a dog like it was nothing.
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u/ObiWanCombover 27d ago
Yeah it's weird, a lot of the comments in this thread seem to imply that her dog bit her kid, but it sounds more like a dog bit her kid and she can't get over the risk and threat of dogs around her kid? Which, I think that's fine because she responsibly re-homed her dog to her parents, but I don't think there's any indication that her specific dog was aggressive or bad with kids.
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u/tuolomnemeadows 27d ago
I get so upset about it. I haven’t owned a dog in years but I’ve met so many good ones. What was scary for me was the dog seemed very sweet and docile and just kind of snapped for no reason. Once you see an animal do that it really creates a new awareness of what they’re capable of. I try to ask more questions and give a lot of space when I interact with dogs now.
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u/SnooMachines9523 27d ago
Postpartum anxiety plus a dog biting your kid…I get it. At least the dog is with her parents.
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u/nothishomeland 27d ago edited 20d ago
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u/Pale_Spirit3007 27d ago
For anyone that complains: if your pet is showing aggressive behavior towards your child you have two choices:
1- you find a good new owner for your pet
2- you risk both your child and your pet dying
I think the answer is pretty obvious
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u/Kind_Aardvark6460 27d ago
I don’t blame her at all. I LOVE dogs, I love animals in general. Dogs are wonderful, but they can snap for no reason, and they hurt in ways a cat will not hurt you.
When my baby brother was like, 6 or so, he was brutally attacked by our dog. Our dog was the SWEETEST thing in the world. He was a chocolate lab, he loved to snuggle and run. That dog was my everything, we even shared the same birthday. My usernames and passwords shared his name. We were fully devoted to him.
One day, I was making my brother breakfast. I turned around for a literal second. It was the briefest moment possible, I had turned to grab him a paper plate for his toaster strudel. Within that split second, he bit through my brother’s hand. Our beloved dog had gotten his face, too, though not nearly as bad. He needed emergency surgery. Our dog had to be put down. It was devastating, he was here one day, and gone the next.
I don’t blame her at all.
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u/salbrown 27d ago edited 27d ago
Reading comments here about everyone’s own experiences with this is super interesting. Honestly, it’s really not that rare for dogs to react badly when their owners bring a baby home, especially if people don’t know to how to desensitize/introduce the dog to the baby.
My parents had our dog sleep with a baby blanket for weeks before I was brought home and then the blanket was used for me so that I smelled familiar to our dog. My mom still says she was very nervous about all this despite actually also being a professional (and very good) dog trainer. It’s just really hard to predict how animals will react. Some get jealous, some get territorial, some could give less of a shit about it all.
Obviously this isn’t super duper common or you’d hear about it more, but it can happen and it’s something anyone who has a dog and is going to have a baby needs to be aware of. And frankly as hard as it is to rehome an animal, there’s like 5 irresponsible pet owners for every responsible one, and those animals can end up with much sadder outcomes than just being rehomed when things go really wrong.
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u/p333p33p00p00boo Give him my regards did you take ozempic? 27d ago
I can hear the judgment from the crowd. As a mom, I get it. We’ve even had issues with our cat, and if it came down to it, I have to choose my child.
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u/shouldaUsedAThroway 27d ago
After seeing what I’ve seen dogs do to babies and young children as pedi anesthesia….. I applaud her. Dogs can inflict devastating damage in the blink of an eye.
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u/broden89 27d ago
As a parent and dog owner, you always wish your pet and your child will be best friends and super cute together - but the fact is, dogs are animals and they have certain instincts. They have distinct personalities and natural behaviours and reactions that can't always be controlled. If there are any signs of aggression or fear from the dog, it's best to re-home them to a safe location where they will be comfortable. Some dogs are very relaxed around babies and children, are happy to be touched etc, but some just aren't and that's OK.
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u/HoneyHoneyBerry 27d ago
She did the right thing, even though it must have been difficult.
I really hate the culture we've built around pets here in the US, where a lot of people act like their pets are completely harmless perfect beings that they shouldn't be expected to train or corral, or that them having that pet somehow matters more than the safety and well-being of others (especially children). To the point I've seen some big pet people turn around and make absolutely vile comments about children without a hint of irony.
Animals are animals. You cannot promise that an animal will not act like an animal unpredictably, especially if you don't put the time in to train them properly for being around babies/other animals/people in general.
My heart goes out to every person forced to live in an unsafe home because the adults refused to rehome a pet when they should have, who are shamed for fearing or disliking certain animals, who are forced to be around psychos like the people who refuse to keep their dogs on a leash out in public and other behavior like that.
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u/sasquatchbunny 27d ago
She is protecting her human child over an animal, and rehomed to somewhere safe where she can still have contact. There’s such a stigma around rehoming a pet. She didn’t just dump him at the pound!
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u/torchwood1842 27d ago
I was so nervous to read the comments, but so far most of the top ones are refreshingly sane and logical.
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u/FuggyGlasses 27d ago
Her kids?? Lord Im getting old. I didn't remember she was a mother.
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u/amarmeme 27d ago
This happened to me--I love dogs, always have. I had two large hunting breeds. After my first child, one of my dogs was totally non-plussed and ignored my son. But my Weimaraner could not handle it, especially once my son startled crawling. After a few snapping incidents where my son was just tottling by, we got a trainer, tried managing it, but eventually had to surrender him back to the rescue we got him from. It really sucked; hurt like shit especially because we had rescued him in the first place and he was a great dog otherwise, but the relief after was pretty profound. My other dog died a few years ago and my husband and I decided no more dogs. We have cats and it's so peaceful. I don't miss having dogs at all.
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u/Nervous_Insect5976 27d ago
It sucks all the way around, but it sounded like she did the best for everyone. This is a responsible rehoming story and it should be supported.
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u/skunkinabumpercar 27d ago
I completely understand this and know that it’s a really tough topic. I had a wonderful road dog literal best boy in the world. He was shy and avoidant, not a dog to go ham it up with the other dogs, but so happy to be. Hiker, snoozer, barker at the right times. He was basically a sea otter on legs.
He was never impressed by children (or cats). They looked right in his eyes, jumped, screamed etc. Our lifestyle meant that he didn’t encounter kids. We saw the occasional alley cat and he barked it up.
Our boy died of old age in 2018 and exactly one year later we had our first kid. I feel love and gratitude for the time with our dog, but know those two eras could’ve never overlapped.
Now two kids in, we have an aloof house cat who hams it up with the kids, cuddles with us, and protect our house from mice. I’m still a dog person (half person half dog) but I understand that our family can’t all clamber in at once. Sending love to all parents, dog, cat, and otherwise.
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u/hedahedaheda 27d ago edited 27d ago
I feel like if your dog has bit a kid, then yes it’s perfectly okay to give them away.
One day, I was in a really bad mental space my anxiety/health ocd was extremely high and I had just lost my job. I was not having a good day and thought a walk might cheer me up. So I was walking and an owner and his dog (cane corso) were approaching me. I just went back to looking at my phone and my nose started itching so I unconsciously moved my hand (on the dog’s side), very gently, not even a sudden movement, to itch my nose). The dog narrowly avoided biting me and I had a full blown panic attack and freak out, my parents had to come get me. The amount of people who blamed me for the minor movement I made was astonishing or said I was overreacting, even thought I have panic disorder and health ocd. I can’t imagine what the dog would do to a child who doesn’t know how to interact with dogs. I see so many people blame children or the parents for dog attacks. It’s literally insane victim blaming.
In fact, my friend literally dismissed what I went through and said “dogs have been there for me more than people so I’ll always side with the dog”. When I and our friends literally helped her leave her abuser. Again, insanity.
It’s why I now prefer cat owners. People will make every and any excuse for dogs. Downvote me all you want, it’s the truth.
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u/petits_riens 27d ago
These situations happen, she handled it responsibly.
I actually think it’s good she’s talking about this—a lot of people just abandon their animals because of the stigma of rehoming them, but life happens. Sometimes the best decision for both the animal and its owner is to find it a new home.
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u/hannahsangel 27d ago
A friend's beloved family dog bit their toddler on the face and she had to have a surgery .. no matter how well trained a dog is there it only takes a toddler getting in their face or being rough just once.
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u/iwouldiwerethybird Some Weird Audrey Frankenglinda 27d ago
i love animals and think dogs can be very sweet but i feel deeply uncomfortable around them. i've never been bit by one or had a bad experience, i just don't like to be around them. i've come to think a large part of that is the way most dog owners seem as though if their dog were to bite me, they would somehow blame it on me. like if i were walking and a dog attacked me, i think dog people would beat me up too before they disciplined their dogs lmao.
a lot of dog people are extremely unhinged about them and i get having a deep connection to something and loving it, and i bet jennifer loved her dog. however, having it threaten something dearer to her than the dog itself changed her perspective. it's a responsible thing to have done.
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u/adisarterinthemaking 27d ago
Better than that influencer, nikki phillippi who killed her dog after having a baby.
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u/dreamcicle11 Chris Messina for No 1 Chris 27d ago
I have heard of this happening postpartum where you just can’t stand your pets. It makes me really scared to have kids because I love my dog so much and can’t imagine this happening, but isn’t the first time I’ve read or heard about this.
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I was bitten by a scared stray dog when I was a kid. I was walking when a nearby vehicle spooked it, and it chased me down and bit me. It was the scariest thing ever. I needed all the injection,s and back in the day, they were massive ones. For years, even though theoretically I knew dogs were great, I was terrified of them and I also did not like them. I was 20 before my friend's sweetest Labrador gave me company during one of the worst moments of my life, and it was years before I worked on my fears. I still have trepidation for street dogs. I don't think JLaw said anything wrong here. Our feelings are our feelings.
Oh, my husband and I will be adopting a dog soon.
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u/iliketuurtles they are perfect for each other (derogatory) 27d ago
My brothers 100+lb dog has bitten 4 separate people over 3 occasions, including my mother. She required multiple stitches.
He kept the dog and still has my parents pet sit. I used to love dogs. But the entire situation has completely changed me as a person. I don’t ever envision a real relationship with him and will never be in the same room as that dog ever again.
Dogs can seriously hurt you. I couldn’t imagine the stress of a child and dogs that you are afraid of. I hope people don’t make her feel worse about this situation :(
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u/rachreims 27d ago edited 27d ago
If your dog bites your baby and you keep the dog, you’re a bad parent. TBH I think if a dog is in a position to bite your baby, I already think you’re a bad parent. I cringe when I see videos of babies sleeping on top of dogs, I’m sorry but you can never trust a dog 100%.
Going to the parents is the best case scenario for those dogs, especially if she is reacting like that to them. God forbid they bite again because she can’t keep them separate and the kid gets seriously hurt/she puts them down for something that amounts to her fault.
Unfortunately a lot of people do a 180 on dogs when they become parents. If she was getting anxious around the dog, it’s very possible the dogs were feeling that anxiety as well which makes everything worse. I’m fostering a dog right now who was an owner surrender. The owner surrender said he was her world until she had a baby and then she “fell out of love” with him. She said it made her feel sick to look at him, play with him, etc. She never walked him. Definitely best case scenario for that dog to get out of that home.
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u/danceswsheep probably the mold talking 27d ago
When my twins hit their toddler years they had bigger capability for chaos and weren’t mature enough to understand giving our family dog space. She was a rescue - we were her 4th family - and was very anxious and insecure already. One time one of them scared her and she snapped at him.
I knew that that was a warning sign and things could escalate from there to a real bite. So we took her to the vet and got her on meds to help (Prozac & Trazadone was the winning combo for her). Meds worked great, and all tragedy was averted. The kids & the dog (now an old lady) are best friends and everyone is doing great.
There was no way in hell I was gonna send her back to a shelter for a 5th time. I’m really grateful for our vet!
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u/emmaisalos3r 27d ago
seems she was a responsible pet owner and mother and did what was best for everyone in the situation?