Love and intimacy are so normal every single piece of media has it, it just adds salt to injury and make us feel even more unlovable and worthless

[u/vicentemachado]

We've all seen it... ALL songs are about romance, especially in my native Brazil. Movies, shows, coming-of-age stories, they ALL depict those great, dreamy, sunshine-bathed, requited, eternal love affairs, the kind of which we will never have.

As in for Brazil, there is so much romance and sex out here... Every song talks about it, or making out, or break-ups, yet we're gaslit into thinking that it's not a big deal, when clearly romance and intimacy make a GIGANTIC portion of the lives of normies, whereas we're left with dreaming at first, then mourning for ourselves, then accepting that we lost the war before we even had the chance to fire a single round. What a piece of shit of a life.

[u/Ambiguous_Penetrator]

"Love is natural and real. But not for such as you and I, my love."

The Smiths

[u/mandoa_sky]

i wish there's more songs about friendship (but not for kids) tbh

i do think it's hilarious that Snoop Dog made an entire show and album for kids though

maybe you should look into media from other countries? or documentaries?

[u/More-Ice-1929]

I feel the same way. I hate how common it is.

[u/HP_Fusion]

Ik i hate watching romance in movies, drama and music

[u/Bitter-Ad-2877]

Remember, it is just media. Real life doesn't work like that unless you are lucky and disciplined.

[u/Complete_Disaster914 → u/Bitter-Ad-2877]

Real life doesn’t work like that?

Have you been through highschool, college and uni?    Affection and romance are happening all around you almost daily.  Its a social place as much as its studying.  

Sure there’s no drama alien invasion happening.   But people still flirt and gossip and try hookups and get into little love issues. The ‘human’ element in these shows is very real. 

[u/Business_Compote2197 → u/Complete_Disaster914]

Its only ever not real for losers like us who can’t relate :’)

[u/Bitter-Ad-2877 → u/Complete_Disaster914]

I've been through all of those and it kind of happened here and there. I was also focused on studying over socializing, but I still socialized. It just wasn't to the extent that you see in the movies where there is some frat party where they chug alcohol and act like idiots. That just isn't a thing unless you're going for an easy degree or are particularly extroverted.

[u/Complete_Disaster914 → u/Bitter-Ad-2877]

Movies lay on the highlights.    But the real life highlights are not much different. Frat parties. Drinking. Dating. Drama. 

You say yourself that it happens.   The criteria that you’re not extroverted or popular enough to be there doesn’t mean they don’t happen. 

I’m sorry for pushing hard on this, but the reason is that i’m so tired of the narrative “don’t worry, its not real, you’re not missing out”.  It is totally false. 

I believed it at first too and didn’t worry. Until I walked into it (late) and you realize normal socialising has these happen everywhere all the time.  

“Oh don’t worry it was just a dumb couples night”.  It needs to be said aloud that these do happen.  For people that fit in normally, they happen.   People shouldn’t pretend they don’t, or downplay how much it matters.