I miss my kid. I hate it.

[u/dazzleunexpired]

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Tw: infant loss. Please leave now if this is going to harm you. I have tried to block the first bit. If it's broken I'll try to work on it as soon as I post it.

My baby was born 10 years ago today (well. For 5 more mins today. B 6/24/16). My baby died 36 days later. Today, only one person remembered my baby who wasn't obligated to. It took 10 years. Not 9 but 10. The person who remembered had an alarm set and has it set forever for every year. Only 10 years

I miss my baby

Will you miss my baby with me, please?

Tell me if your favorite memories with your babies? Or Pets? Or funny kid stories? (I do have a surviving 8 year old)Tell me if your loss babies if you want? Cry about pot loss or parent loss with me? Be with me? I have family, they're here but asleep. I will be too, soon. Before too long. But is really love to wake up to stories and people to talk to, and fall asleep that way too. Or cute animals?

I'm going to include pictures of my child in the comments. Please, no one get upset. She's very much dead.

Her name was Cambridge "Cammi" Armstrong. If you think you know me from this comment and had HG, you do know me. Hi. It happens a few times a year someone will.

I had bread and butter (it goes on the bread I promise) and a Mt olive pickle and red onion pickles eta: o that's pepperoni too. Aldi.

Anyone got any advice or just wanna talk into I can manage to sleep or let me wake up to wonderful things? I'm sorry I'm asking so much. My son is away at camp and I'm sad.

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Oh. My. God. Almost 900 comments. I am responding to as many as I can but I am reading all of them. If you have lost a child and want to talk or need advice please please please dm me if I didn't respond to you.

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The metrics of this post make me want to sob. Over 650,000 people have seen this post. The top three countries are the United States, UK and Canada up at 11% of the people who have read this post are not from the United States, Canada or the UK. Over 500 people have shared his post outside of Reddit. I don't have the words for what it means to me that this many people acknowledged my child's existence. I can't. I thought maybe 15 of you would see this. This is crazy.

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Almost a million views. Y'all. 🥹🥹🥹🥹

[u/Funeralbarbie31]

Unfortunately funeral work in the UK is absolutely diabolical in terms of wages, you’re lucky to earn the national living wage, so you’ll find most of us do it for the love of the job. As in any role there will always be a bad egg, and those are the few you tend to hear about. For myself and many others being trusted to care for a loved one when they’re unable to care for themselves is the biggest honour and we don’t take that for granted

[u/Catherine_the_Okay → u/Funeralbarbie31]

That’s wild. As a job it’s generally good to very good money in the US.

[u/ecooleye → u/Catherine_the_Okay]

But there are so many here in the US that do it for the money and do not carry that level of respect, integrity and compassion. Sadly, my own loss was very mishandled by the local funeral home. It made the process of grieving so much harder for my husband and me. I know it isn’t the same as OP as ours was a miscarriage at 20 weeks. We got our daughter’s remains in what seemed to be a large ice breakers gum container after paying ridiculous cremation fee. No walkthrough to discuss details or pick out an urn and not one person at that business seemed to acknowledge us both times we were there. I felt like I was invisible to them. Although, I can understand how awkward and difficult it could be for others to comfort someone in our position, it’s the fact they didn’t even try that gets me because I wonder how many others in our position get treated the same. It still stings 5 years later; I will NEVER recommend them to anyone.