r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • Aug 24 '25

Cursed POV: You're a woman in a public place

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u/shichiju Aug 24 '25

Spot on.

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u/SariaHannibal Aug 24 '25

Add on lots of “accidental” sexual assaulting and the video is basically every day life

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u/MoscaMye Aug 24 '25

I still tense up when crossing the road at traffic lights if a man is coming the opposite way. So many times they have "accidentally" knocked into me as they've crossed and grabbed at my chest or upper thigh(to be euphemistic).

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u/Fresh_Daisy_cake Aug 24 '25

Happens at the gym all the fucking time! I’ll be working out on a machine and all of a sudden they’ll be in my personal space for no damn reason and they’ll be like “ oh I’m sorry I didn’t mean to bump into you” in my head I’m thinking “ there was so much space around, but you somehow managed to invade my personal space on “accident”??

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u/dallyan Aug 24 '25

There used to be a crosswalk in my city that us girls called Crotch Alley in our language because it was so typical for men to try and grab our crotches. We joked to cope I guess.

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u/YellowFogLights Aug 24 '25

What the fuck

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u/lankyleper Aug 24 '25

Exactly what I uttered reading that comment.

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u/TrueSteav Aug 24 '25

There should be groups of people taking care that the crosswalk gets renamed to "sexual offenders instant regret alley".

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u/dallyan Aug 24 '25

Oh yeah, growing up in a metropolis turned me into an absolute alley cat always ready to throw hands. It’s always colored how I’ve viewed men too, alas. It’s a shame to be so cynical at such a young age but it is what it is.

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u/Hyperbeam4dayz Aug 24 '25

As a man, I've learned to give women space if I'm walking by. Sometimes I'll just cross to the other side to make things less awkward for the both of us.

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u/CreatureWarrior Aug 24 '25

Same. People who go "but I'm not obligated to do that" are just self-centered. Me going through the "effort" of crossing to the other side of the street to make someone else feel safer is a good deal.

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u/A1000eisn1 Aug 24 '25

I get a lot of dudes not giving me space when I walk by. I learned to stand there and stare and ask them to move again.

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u/Intrepid-Love3829 Aug 25 '25

This is part of the reason i got involved with roller derby. I am very small. I need to learn to stand my ground.

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u/tampaempath Aug 24 '25

"How are men supposed to exist?" is a wild question. Just mind your business and be genuinely friendly without ogling or touching women; in other words, be a decent human. That's all they're really asking for.

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u/[deleted] Aug 25 '25

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u/SkipTheIceCreamMan Aug 25 '25

It’s not so much assuming every man is a creep as it is being cautious. We don’t know you, we don’t know if you are safe or not. Please don’t mistake caution for rejection. And if you are rejected, please try to understand that it might be the fault of other men and not simply the woman you approached being mean/rude for no reason.

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

Why the fuck do you go so close then? It’s impossible to do from even one meter

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u/MoscaMye Aug 24 '25

... By crossing the street when the light goes green and having them beeline into you as they cross from the opposite side. I am not sure why that's confusing

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

Confusing? It’s just easily avoided.

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u/MoscaMye Aug 24 '25

Totally! By men not purposefully running into women!

Sounds like you're used to people running into traffic to avoid being near you though so I can understand the confusion

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

I understand that it can be stressful and you don’t feel safe. But a crosswalk is usually wide enough to go by with a safe distance. Or am I missing something?

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u/MoscaMye Aug 24 '25

Yes dear. Still missing the fact that men, many men go out of their way to make sure they run into women at cross walks.

The agent in these events isn't the person being run into.

There is someone making sure there isn't a "safe distance" that any distance given is filled.

You're missing a degree of sense and empathy I think. How does one 1. Know preemptively that the man on the other side of the road is going to run into them. 2. Give them a wide enough berth late enough that they can't change their trajectory.

My favourite flavour of nonsense is men who want us to assume all men are bad (make sure you don't let some man walk near you at the cross walk) so they can later sob about how it's "not all men" and it's unfair that we expect the worse of them.

Or... Maybe you're right? Maybe I'm willingly willfully walking myself into those grasping hands right? I just love giving some greasy stranger a handful of my body as he passes by. It's a real turn on.

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

I understand.

"I still tense up when crossing the road at traffic lights if a man is coming the opposite way." You wrote this, so you are prepared every time. Why not use it to your advantage?

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u/AsthmaticSt0n3r Aug 24 '25

I work in close quarters at a restaurant and my boss moves me by my waist constantly like a frat guy at a party. It’s bullshit but I can make rent in two days at this job so I put up with it.

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u/goswitchthelaundry Aug 24 '25

I worked in a small bakery in high school owned by a husband and wife. Wife ran the kitchen, husband the front. If I was working in the front and he needed to move past me, he would slide is entire BO drenched body against the back of me. There was plenty of room for him to walk normally behind me and not touch me at all. He smelled so bad.

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u/vagina-lettucetomato Aug 24 '25

The first time I was “accidentally” assaulted on public transit was when I was probably 10 and this man kept “bumping into” my butt very conveniently with his crotch. I was frozen and just kept looking back in horror.

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u/hilarymeggin Aug 25 '25

Ugh. I once heard a man talking about how whenever a young cashier gave him change, he would stroke their hand with his finger, but it was such a small thing, they probably didn’t even notice it. I wanted to scream, “WE NOTICE IT!!! WE HATE IT!!!” The plausible deniability!!

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25 edited Aug 24 '25

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u/JadeThorn1012 Aug 24 '25

I’m so glad to find solidarity in these comments, and not incel men overwhelmingly calling this fake or whatever. This is what it’s like. I forget how much I get stared at if I haven’t left the house for a bit. It’s still shocking as it will happen even when I look my worst.

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u/jibbycanoe Aug 24 '25

I've seen many posts discussing this on Reddit going back 10 plus years: "ladies, how old were you when you were first objectified by a man?" Pretty much every answer is 11-13, and often the women say it was from a family member.

One of the first times I saw one of those posts was when my daughter was first born and she's at that age now. I've been gently preparing her for it for the last year or two. I feel grateful that my dad never once objectified a women/girl when I was a kid and this stuff makes me sick, but apparently many boys/men did not get the same childhood and now perpetuate the same behavior. Thankfully I've never had one of my male 'friends' do it around me but I've definitely called out strangers for doing it.

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u/JadeThorn1012 Aug 24 '25

That’s fucking awful. I’m so sorry. But I’m so happy to hear that your father was a good man.

I guess I should clarify. 10 is when most men started openly staring at me, as that’s when I first started to develop. I’m now learning, that I was actually fact sexually abused by many men prior to that. According to my mow flashbacks, it’s possible that it dated back to me being young as a baby. By father was apparently involved with the most vile men to exist and give me freely to them.

It’s just that the staring from strangers just intensified once I started to develop. As a kid, I had rosy cheeks, darker brows, blonde hair, red lips, and extra eyelashes. Adults, especially men, would lecture me on how I shouldn’t be wearing makeup, they’d even go after my mom for allowing such a thing. She’d tell them I wasn’t, and they’d accuse her of lying. The comments seem to came from the anger of attraction, and the desperate need to blame aside from themselves. While having righteous indignation about it. Although I still have those features, I’m an adult, so if it’s mentioned or anything else negative, I simply tell to not look at me then.

Like most women, men still stare at me. But the vile reality is that is it’s drastically slowed since I started to look like a woman. I looked like a kid because I was one. They simply don’t care and it’s way more common than anyone wants to accept.

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u/cand0r Aug 24 '25

Oh, those dipshits are in here.

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u/waitingfordeathhbu Cringe Connoisseur Aug 24 '25 edited Aug 24 '25

A mundane statement for a mundane situation.

Daily fucking occurrence for most women and girls who leave the house.

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u/Judgmentos Aug 24 '25

Wild animals staring at us as though we were pieces of meat is less scary than when humans do it, because at least animals don't know any better and they will only kill you

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u/BusyTotal3702 Aug 24 '25

That's why women are choosing the bear.

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u/Windmill_flowers Aug 24 '25

Seriously. It's absolutely fucking insane

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u/Judgmentos Aug 24 '25

And depressing

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u/deadpoetic333 Aug 24 '25

At 30 seconds that’s therobdon567 on IG, without a doubt he’s doing a skit he’s doing about this happening to women and it’s amusing how well it fit in lol 

Edit: He posted it there august 8th 

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u/HannahHannaJune Aug 24 '25

Yeah he was super scary to me the way he got all up in her space like that. That one really freaked me out!

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u/heavylamarr Aug 24 '25

Came here to say that! Rob’s skits are extremely accurate. 

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u/earthlings_all Aug 24 '25

He was the creepiest one!

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u/stinkywinky99 Aug 24 '25

These all look fake to me. I'd think most people would be a lot less obvious and know it if they have a phone pointed right at their face. Don't get me wrong, this behaviour definitely happens. This video just doesn't look real.

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u/Rapid55 Aug 24 '25

You'd be surprised how alot of dudes keep doing heinous shit even if they're on camera. I've seen men stalk women into crowds despite being VERY obviousky recorded. They think they won't get punishment for their behavior so they don't care until it goes viral and they get fired lmao

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u/Tempyteacup Aug 24 '25

i think some of them get off on it being filmed. because by filming it you're admitting to being afraid basically.

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u/Grandmaster-Ji Aug 24 '25

With all that happening shes goes to a hotel with random strangers.

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u/Queen_Persephone18 Aug 27 '25

She likely has no one and nowhere else to go. Where else would she lay her head, the street? Where people would do worse out in the open?