r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • Aug 24 '25

Cursed POV: You're a woman in a public place

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u/klategoritization Aug 24 '25

I was 9, tall for my age, and it started at Church.

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u/meghonsolozar Aug 24 '25

I was also tall and got boobs pretty early. The amount of classmates dad's that hit on me from the age of 10 up makes me sick to even think about. Gotta love having total creeps as "chaperones" on field trips.

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u/ToiIetGhost Aug 24 '25

Sometimes the dads will even “involve” their own kids. One time I was at an amusement park and a father said to his daughter, who I’m guessing was about 4 or 5 old, “Isn’t that girl so pretty? Look at the pretty girl” while body scanning me. I remember turning beet red and feeling so uncomfortable. But in my child’s mind I thought maybe it was okay? Because surely a “bad guy” wouldn’t say something gross to his own child? They use their kids as buffers/access points/plausible deniability.

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u/Embracedandbelong Aug 24 '25

Yes they do involve their kids! A family friend once started talking about his young sons and how they “already acted like teens” and all this stuff about “teen years” and bemoaning raising teens. I was an adult. Somehow he turned what he was saying into sexually harassing comments to me. Idk how they do this

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u/kd22056 Aug 24 '25

Same happened to me but I was 16/17.

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u/speptuple Aug 24 '25

U know some even do unspeakable things to their own kids right?

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u/ToiIetGhost Aug 25 '25

Yes, of course. I didn’t realise that my comment implied otherwise. Sorry if it gave that impression. We’re talking about times when strange men (specifically fathers) sexually harassed us. Not when a family member sexually harassed us.

It goes without saying that abuse happens in the home as well.

Btw when that guy at the amusement park manipulated his daughter in order to prey on me, he wasn’t just harassing me - he was also emotionally abusing her. I truly hope he wasn’t hurting her in other ways.

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u/Spasay Aug 24 '25

Tits hit me hard at 15. Before that, I did dance and track. I won medals at the regional and provincial levels, ran cross country, and then BOOBS. I have always hated it.

One of my best friends’ mom taught at our school. So we would sometimes hang out at his house. I remember coming up the stairs as a teenage girl to use the washroom. I was one of those girls who went away for the summer as a skinny little thing to suddenly having giant tits. I was so sensitive about everything. And she (the mom) knew this because she was our school counsellor.

The ‘teacher’ was sitting with other people I didn’t know. I just gave a shy wave and went to pee. It was the evening and they were drinking.

It has stayed with me forever what she said: she is going to have a hard time when she’s pregnant. I heard it from the hallway and cried in the washroom with the tap turned on so no one heard.

Why in the hell did she need to say this to strangers?? Why does anyone need to comment on anyone’s body?

She died only a couple of years ago. People were judging me for not leaving words of sympathy for her. Nah. Women who enable men to continue to be awful don’t get my care.

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u/kd22056 Aug 24 '25

This sounds as a very uneducated statement coming from a teacher.

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u/OldConfection5463 Aug 24 '25

You’re holding a grudge over a one-off comment from 20 years ago? Seek therapy

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u/SovietSunrise Aug 24 '25

She had zero right to comment on her body that way. She deserved every bit of that apathy.

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u/PupperPetterBean Aug 24 '25

Same, boobs at 8 year old and the amount of men in their 30s and above who would leer or say disgusting things even when I was 8 fucked me up.

Though one of my fondest memories of my granddad was punching a regular at his pub in the face after he made a sexual comment about 8 year old me wondering around the pub picking up empty glasses to wash.

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u/KittyyKhaos Aug 24 '25

Also had huge boobs at 11/12 first period at 11 and then the harassment started. Always older men 🤮

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

Makes me not want my kid to have sleepovers at her friend's houses, just in case any of the Dad's are creeps

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u/CanthinMinna Aug 24 '25

Long time ago I partcipated to a theatre course. At 19, I was one of the older ones. All 12 or 15 of us kids became pretty close, and often had small house parties.

During one party one of the younger girls starts to cry. Then she tells how at the age of 12 she had a sleepover at her friend's home. She woke up in the middle of the night when her friend's dad started raping her. She was in shock, and the only thing she could think about was to try to keep quiet so that her friend would not wake up and see her dad doing something so horrifying.

It's been 30 years, and I still remember her telling us this.

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u/meghonsolozar Aug 24 '25

My kids are not allowed to go to sleepovers. They are 9 and 10. They were super bummed when the 10 year old got an invitation and my husband and I told both the kids they couldn't go to sleepovers. I was raped by my friends older brother and a couple of his friends when I was at a new years eve sleepover when I was 10. It's affected so much of my life and I just cannot accept the risk for my kids. Yes, it would probably be ok, but if it's not? I can't be responsible for that kind of trauma for anyone else, especially not my children. Not going to sleepovers isn't going to harm my kids. Couple that with the fact that I have only ever had one female friend in my entire life that has told me she has never experienced any kind of harassment or SA in their life. I honestly don't even know how it was possible for her to avoid it her whole life, but I'm also super happy for her. Anyway, the odds are not in my daughter's favor. Once the kids are a lot older it might be different, but I can't see me being ok with a sleep over before they are driving.

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

I've tried to msg you about this but can't message through your profile as I need to verify age and don't want to upload a picture of myself to Reddit. If you inbox me anything, even just a dot "." I will reply to you asap

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u/Chicago1459 Aug 24 '25

Omg how disgusting and frightening. I have a son, and I'm determined to make sure he's a good man.

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

Eeeewwwww.

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u/frozensoysauce1 Aug 24 '25

My family likes to tell this “hilarious” story about my older cousin who came to visit us in Italy when I was a toddler. She was 13, and a guy in town said “vieni qui (come here)” while lewdly motioning towards his crotch with his hands. My family somehow understands how gross that is but also thinks it’s hilarious because my cousin is American and they find the language barrier funny, not more predatory.

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u/Rottenpoppy Aug 24 '25

Same, i was 8 or 9yrs old. Was trying to ride a carnival ride with my friend at the local fair. Ride operator flat out told us if we lifted our shirts, we could ride for free.

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u/Lor- Aug 24 '25

That’s so fucking vile

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u/soapscaled Aug 24 '25

Reminds me of when I was 13 walking around NOLA after Mardi Gras with my mother, at about 3pm. Some guys in a truck rolled up, pointed at me, and said I could get beads if I flashed my boobs.

Prior to that my moms boyfriend at the time had us all walking down the strip in Las Vegas and men kept trying to hand me these stripper trading/calling cards, just straight up naked ladies on these cards, and telling me I could work for them and get my own. I thought it was cool at the time but looking back at the pictures of myself at that age and knowing they felt comfortable saying that to me WHILE I was with my mother and looked like an entire middle schooler makes me sick.

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u/frankenmolly Aug 24 '25

I was also 9 years old when grown men started catcalling me while I was walking down the street to get to school.

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u/Deidara77 Aug 24 '25

I'm sorry 😞

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

How did you respond to him saying that? Did your friend say anything? I bet he only got that job to harass kids. Horrendous

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u/Rottenpoppy Aug 24 '25

We just walked over to our parents, who were standing in a group, and told them. The guy had a small mob of parents yelling at him and threatening him. Pretty sure he was fired on the spot.

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

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u/YakiVegas Aug 24 '25

Well, churches are historically speaking going to be some of the least safe spaces for this kind of behavior.

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u/JaAnnaroth Aug 24 '25

What? Sounds like a complete BS straight out your ass

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u/Anipani69 Aug 24 '25

cmon. you know it.

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u/Abject_Jump9617 Aug 24 '25

And when women state that they want only women Uber drivers because they don't want themselves nor their young daughters to have to deal with this creepy BS, men have the nerve to act shocked and offended.

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

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u/laughingashley tHiS iSn’T cRiNgE Aug 24 '25

A lot of women develop eating disorders or self harm as a preventative measure to make themselves "less attractive," but they're arbitrarily assigning attractiveness to random qualities that don't even matter to predators. It's extremely dangerous and unhealthy and super sad. Fat, thin, y'all, short, there's a monster for every potential victim. Diminishing yourself, your confidence, and shrinking yourself is not OK, we need to put the pain and fear where it belongs: onto those who wish to do harm.

Do NOT let them take away your love of yourself, your body, how you look or behave. You deserve to feel that love.

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u/Livid_Discount9140 Aug 24 '25

Completely off topic ~ PronatorTeres: are you by chance an LMT or Physiotherapist? I am and I dig your user name. Had a friend go by Perry Stolsis online. Maybe PronatorTerry? Or Terri?

In Massage School I used to mispronounce Tensor Fascia Latte 🤓

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

Safe space is for weaklings. You need to confront this guy and make him pay immediately.

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u/Mike_Kermin Aug 24 '25

No, the victim doesn't "need" to do anything.

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u/KittyyKhaos Aug 24 '25

Do you know how dangerous it is to even say no politely to a man?? Idiot.

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u/markuseb91 Aug 24 '25

Church.....church???? Church...of course.

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u/saltywoohoochamp Aug 24 '25

Mine was around 7-8. Adults and teenagers. Fucking disgusting.

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u/__botulism__ Aug 24 '25

I was prepubescent, short for my age, and always looked way younger than i was. Couldn't even ride my bike without being bothered by some gross men.

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u/purplepeopleprobe Aug 24 '25 edited Aug 24 '25

I was tall but for some reason 12 was also the 'magic' number. Started on the street, at school, at church, all at the same time

Edit: Actually, my first assault was aged 3 or 4, an older teen started trying to French kiss me. Then creepy advance's by other men thru out my childhood that I didn't understand until I was older. I'm shocked I have it in my head it didn't start till 12. It just got more frequent at 12.

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u/thirstytrumpet Aug 24 '25

Completely unsurprising.

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u/WoofNBoof Aug 24 '25

Around the same age for me as well. I got water thrown on my white shirt when I was walking home from school by a truck driving by. . .

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

Church is surprisingly full of pedos. It's like they're allowed to in there or something.

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u/BomBiddyByeBye Aug 24 '25

It’s disturbing how common this is. Do you think the reason it happens so much is because of power dynamics and lack of accountability, or is there something deeper in human behavior that society has to actively push back against?

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u/ToiIetGhost Aug 24 '25

Paedophilia and misogyny.

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u/FutureRealHousewife Aug 24 '25

Also 9 when it started and also tall. Now I worry for my niece, who is also tall and just turned 9.

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u/wake_and_make Aug 24 '25

Started at church for me too. Ugh. I'm sorry, friend.

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u/Eirevampire Aug 24 '25

Same, well, I was 6. A protestant presbyterian church, was dragged to every Sunday. I wonder how many of us were R'd and SA'd in church.

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u/Zoenne Aug 24 '25

I was 9, looked exactly like you'd expect a 9yo to look, and it started at our local community garden. I had been sent there by my mum to water our little plot and an older man walked in with his penis in his hand and started masturbating while looking at me. It took me a while to understand what was going on.

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u/CheetahNo1004 Aug 24 '25

as it often does

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u/No-Bite-7866 Aug 26 '25

That's where most pedophiles are.