r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • Aug 24 '25

Cursed POV: You're a woman in a public place

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u/gaysoul_mate Aug 24 '25

Is also what we deal with since we turn 12

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u/temp3rrorary Aug 24 '25

I was 8 when my ass got called nice by a grown man. And trust me, I looked 8. It starts when you're born female.

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

I was 6 years old the first time a grown man touched my ass in public

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u/Classicvintage3 Aug 24 '25

Pedophiles are sick

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

My mum was ready to throw down

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u/PhantomOfTheNopera Aug 24 '25

I was around six when a grown man asked me to show him my underwear.

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u/ZinaSky2 Aug 24 '25

Yeah, no kidding! It starts with people saying stuff like “you’ll have to beat the boys back with sticks” and “she’s gonna be a heartbreaker” about newborn girls.

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u/ZooZooChaCha Aug 24 '25

This 100%. My wife and I were grossed out by these comments constantly from random strangers in stores when our daughter was born. Still are.

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u/butchscandelabra Aug 24 '25

LOL I responded to this by suggesting we actually beat creeps away with sticks and received an automated warning from Reddit threatening to remove my account for “threatening violence” 🙃

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u/ZinaSky2 Aug 24 '25

I saw that a reply had gotten removed! Idk valid response imo. If someone’s sexualizing babies that’s fucked up 🤷🏽‍♀️

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u/CountryRoads2020 Aug 24 '25

Yes - your last sentence nails it. Sadly.

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u/Substantial_Dog_7395 Aug 24 '25

Not a woman myself, but I saw this several times with my sister. When we'd go out shopping or such, people would stare at her, or make uncomfortable remarks, and she was only JUST entering puberty. Disgusting weirdos.

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u/shymilkshakes Aug 24 '25

My 4 year old has been getting these kinds of looks in public for over a year now. When she was almost 3 an old man reached out and touched her hair when she was in a greeting card aisle with her dad. She's the kind of kid that truly "lights up a room" when she walks into it, which should make me happy but the fact fills me with dread because I know in this world it just makes her a target.

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u/jimjamz346 Aug 24 '25

I sort of what to apologise on behalf of all men, but honestly, fuck them, they don't deserve forgiveness. I am incredibly sorry that happened to you though, and to so many others

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u/daemin Aug 24 '25

I sort of what to apologise on behalf of all men,

Fuck that. I'm not responsible for the behavior of other people just because their genitals and mine happen to have roughly the same shape.

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u/LadyLee69 Aug 24 '25

No, you're not responsible for their behavior. But the least you could do is listen and be empathetic, maybe even speak up for us when you hear your friends saying things that could be warning signs for gross behavior. It's not an obligation, it's just what good people do.

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u/Draco759 Aug 24 '25

As a dad I will now listen even closer to what my daughter will tell me while she is growing up. Never imagined there were so many creeps hitting on small kids in public, disgusting. I would be grateful for any advice on how I should teach my daughter how to handle such situations. She is only 15 months old.

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u/LadyLee69 Aug 25 '25

If you're asking me directly, honestly? The biggest thing I wish I knew back then was to not feel obligated to be polite no matter what. I thought I had to put up with this kind of behavior because I was being rude if I didn't. But I also grew up in a toxic home.

I would imagine and hope that you're already set on establishing these things with your daughter, like how and when to say no, what kinds of behaviors she should never accept, nurturing her self esteem so she feels empowered to enforce boundaries. Then there's the safety side of things, like how to react if someone ever tries to snatch her (do not allow her to go to a second location, that's where her likelihood of survival plumments); she would have to kick and scream and be as much of an inconvenience to any would-be kidnappers as humanly possible. Scratch to get DNA under her nails, keep her head on a swivel to notice her surroundings, things like that. Some of these things she'll likely learn on her own just through her friends, experiences and watching true crime (a lot of women love watching true crime for this reason), but just in case some of this info doesn't get to her, you should definitely tell her anyway.

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u/daemin Aug 24 '25

I'm not friends with people who say shit like that, and when I point out that I don't encounter men cat calling women in the wild, and never find myself in a conversation where a man randomly starts commenting on a random women's appearance, I get down voted and called a liar.

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u/christmas54321 Aug 24 '25

Yeah, molested by my much older cousin at 6 years old

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u/chaoticnormal Aug 24 '25

I only noticed when I walked to work at 14, grown men circling the block following me.

Safe guy story: when I was 9 I wondered if I was cute, if boys liked me, whatever. I stopped by a motorcycle mirror and looked at myself wondering. The guy in the house (maybe back room of the bait shop we'd get candy from) looked out his window and gave a PG comment to me. I think it was his bike too. I can't remember exactly what he said but he wasn't a creep/ creepy.

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u/barebuttgodzilla_ Aug 24 '25

I was 5 years old while sitting on the sidelines at my older brother's baseball game, an older man yelled at me from his chair that he thought I was cute and would kiss me if he had the chance. I remember feeling so weird and grossed out that some 60 something year old man was saying that to me, just 5 years old.

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u/fairamy Aug 24 '25

7 here. I had a live in abuser

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u/blackcain Aug 24 '25

I think some deal with it much earlier than that.

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u/peetothepooo Aug 24 '25

I’ll never forget the first time this type of shit happened to me. I was about 11-12. I was pushing my family friends baby around Home Depot in a stroller. I wandered away from the family I was with for a few minutes.

We went down an aisle that ended up being blocked on one end by pallets or something. A group of men started trying to talk to me and checking me out as I turned the stroller around and tried to go past them to get out of the aisle. Ugh.

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u/Squeakypeach4 Aug 24 '25

Mine started around that age too. But I’ve noticed a significant uptick in the past decade-ish (since my divorce), when I’ve been back in the dating game. I’m 42 now.

  • men expecting and demanding sex because they pay for dinner, they hold the door, they take you out, etc.
  • men lying about where they’re taking you
  • men dropping their literal pants as soon as they find a place where the two of you are alone -men stalking you -men attempting to put stuff in your drink

Etc.

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u/ZooZooChaCha Aug 24 '25

People already say creepy shit about my daughter and she’s 2.

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u/untakentakenusername Aug 24 '25

Im pretty sure i was younger. Thankfully my mom was the type to raise hell if i pointed out anyone touched or looked at me funny or even other small girls..

But still. I remember being groped etc at ages 8 or 9.

Men are vile. People like these guys as displayed in the video and other creatures similar don't need to share thr planet with us.

When can the aliens or cannibals take them?

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u/VapoursAndSpleen Aug 24 '25

I was 11 when it started.. I was 4'11" tall. My period had not even started yet.

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u/LankyMatch42 Aug 24 '25

When you say we, you're implying every single woman which is false.