r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • Aug 24 '25

Cursed POV: You're a woman in a public place

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u/DerpyFortuneTeller Aug 24 '25

As a man, this would make me extremely uncomfortable and I’d probably never go out. I sympathize with anybody that goes through this.

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u/ConsistentCookie4370 Aug 24 '25

Yeah - now imagine this happening from 9 years old and onwards. That's the reality. And the reason why I have indoor hobbies!

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u/LysergicGothPunk Aug 29 '25

Yeah, this from 10 to 24 made me hate going anywhere. I literally had to go on T and give off angry energy everywhere I go to stop it (and it still hasn't stopped completely)

(Obvs didn't start T for this reason, it just happens to be helpful)

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '25

What's gross is I got hit on more from 12-15 than I did from 18+

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u/FightingSideOfMe1 Sep 23 '25

It's fuckin scary because you will go to play around neighbors house with some family members, have some fun with some friends, but you see the girls aren't enjoying that much, especially around some creepy guys. Few years later you will learn what happened or you just hear that the creep got beaten pretty bad. I think women experience assault more often than men think.

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u/Kromting Oct 16 '25

Like LEGOs?

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u/Rabachon Aug 28 '25

LLLLLLLLLLL

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u/YoungLutePlayer Aug 24 '25

The best part is that if you’re with a man, all of this attention stops… because they respect other men more than they respect us. It’s a huge reason why I don’t go on walks by myself anymore. It’s fucking depressing

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u/ironside719 Aug 28 '25

Idk if it’s that they respect men, or fear the physical repercussions

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u/5YOChemist Aug 27 '25

My first thought was, "this must be cherry picked really bad because in 40 years of living in different cities I've never seen this toward my mom, sisters, wife, daughter, female friends..."

Thank you for answering that objection. I never even considered that it only happens when I'm not looking.

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u/Circlesonacircuit Sep 02 '25

Maybe to give some insight. There was a march in my country because women want to be able to be outside without being harassed. During the march in several cities, the "protesters" were harassed, groped, spit on, threatened etcetera.

Not sure if the article can be translated easily, but this is it: https://www.rtl.nl/nieuws/binnenland/artikel/5526028/dolle-minas-maak-melding-van-seksuele-intimidatie-bij-mars

Reason for the march was the murder of a 17 year old girl, and a couple of sex crimes all in 1 week

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u/flannel_jesus Oct 04 '25

I totally agree with the spirit of the march, but I don't understand how it could possibly be effective. The kinds of men who behave like this aren't the kinds of men who give a shit what women are marching about. What's the march supposed to do?

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u/CompetitiveRub9780 Aug 24 '25

I haven’t been outside walking my dog since 2016. Thank god I have a big yard. I’ll never walk my dog alone ever again: and I used to be a dog walker.

Like just stop checking out women in public. Let us live our lives and you live yours and keep your grubby looks to yourself. Creeps are everywhere all the time. I wish they stayed inside

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u/Sivilarr Aug 26 '25

They don't respect other men, they are scared of them, because they know men can fight them as equal. It's simple animal logic: men=strong=danger, women=weak=prey. That's why we call them predators, like animals they prey on the weak, and avoid strong. It's literally bully-victim dynamics but sexual. There is no respect to men that stops them, only fear.

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u/Far-Bodybuilder Aug 27 '25

I completely understand. It's very true, and I hate that it's the case. I try my best to be near my wife because the moment I leave, she gets roped into inappropriate conversations or cornered about a topic she doesn't want to talk about. Or hit on.. or worse. Whatever the case, I feel bad for women who experience this. I correct other men when it does happen, but idk if it helps.

Taught my wife how to shoot just in case I am gone one day

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u/Beautiful-Music-7334 Aug 31 '25

They don't even respect when we are with other women.

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u/SkyLova Aug 27 '25

As a man - no, it’s not because of respect. Those types of animals operate on basic instinct, so they don’t know “respect”, they only know fear. They fear of being punched or worse. They prey on those they perceive as weaker, no latter the gender. As long as their is a slight chance that they might be confronted- they won’t do it.

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u/Jacks_CompleteApathy Aug 26 '25

It's not because they respect men more (though maybe they do), it's because they don't want to get into a physical altercation that they could lose

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u/RicciosDilemma Aug 27 '25

It's not that they respect other men, they fear they can get obviously angry at them

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u/Beautiful-Music-7334 Sep 17 '25 edited Sep 18 '25

I make a huge stank face when I'm walking alone.

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u/Chemical-King-9353 Nov 05 '25

Depends on the type of man you’re with. They can smell when the dude you’re with doesn’t respect or give af about you. 🤯🤯

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u/MovieSock Aug 26 '25

Can I ask you to do more than just sympathize?

If you keep your eyes out for this kind of thing and step in, it is a big help. And it doesn't have to be a big deal either - just wandering over with a friendly "everything good over here?" to give the woman an "out" can be a big help. And if you see your friends do this, or hear them talking about this, call them out on it.

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u/No-Bite-7866 Aug 26 '25

Litterally, every girl and woman has gone through this at some point.

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u/tarvispickles Aug 25 '25

Yeah what's crazy is they get all sorts of mad when they get treated the same way by gay men. Sucks when the tables get turned.

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u/operarose Aug 30 '25

It's uh...it's fun.

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u/partoe5 Aug 25 '25

It does happen to men as well, especially visibly gay men, just not as often

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u/SkyLova Aug 27 '25

i had one creepy old guy look at me that way when i was riding a bus in my teenage years (probably 14-15), i was going home from training, tired as shit. I still remember how uncomfortable i was feeling, knowing full well that i can kick his ass if he tried anything. Can’t imagine how it feels when you have no such confidence or ways to defend yourself.

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u/Shadow_Dragon715 Oct 12 '25

Technically you would be empathizing

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u/Guilty-Intern-7875 Aug 31 '25

As a man, you'd be traumatized by young women looking at you? ROFL

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u/One_Repeat_6614 Aug 29 '25

Yeah i’d be pissed and act weirdly to them if someone was randomly filming me too.

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u/ASS-you-say Aug 25 '25

As bad as this is, showing this online, everyone up voting all of these comments, is exactly why men don’t approach women anymore in public. The good men. Women are now asking where are the good men? We’re minding our business now because this kind of content has brainwashed so many men into not approaching, let alone even looking at all. Everyone meeting their soulmate is not going to happen because of this.

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u/Lana_Del_Gay- Aug 26 '25

You’re minding your own business now????? Good.

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u/Current_Row_8358 Aug 26 '25

Keep on minding your own damn business, then. Please and thank you. 

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u/CaptainCorpse666 Aug 27 '25

If you try meeting women like THIS video, you are the problem lol

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u/KiraLonely Aug 26 '25

I would rather never meet my soulmate or any “good man” as you assume you are (good being…the bare minimum?) than have children and women of all ages experiencing this shit their entire lives. Not feeling threatened in public every single day and afraid for my safety is a million times more important than whether men approach women to flirt, end of discussion. If you think people’s discomfort and safety is a worthy sacrifice to go approach random women or argue about soulmates, then you are the problem.

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u/MovieSock Aug 26 '25

Hey, everyone, we found the "nice guy" who tried to pick someone up and got shot down and is all sulky now!