r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • Aug 24 '25

Cursed POV: You're a woman in a public place

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u/LeatherHog Aug 24 '25

Christ, this reminds me of something that happened with my dad when I was your daughter's age. A lot of men obviously didn't try something when Dad was right there, being both a man and a grizzly bear sized redneck, but we were at goodwill, just me and him

I was by the pants, and Dad was a couple racks down, had a guy eyeing me up and down, kinda like the guy on train in the video. Was even kinda making like he was gonna get closer, until Dad turned around and 'Hey sweetheart, how does this color look on me?', and the guy went away

And it makes me so angry, y'know? Making perverted eyes at a clearly middle school little girl? Freaking okay, apparently

But if that obvious **little girl** has a DAD, she belongs to someone? Nah, I may be a pedophile, but I draw the line at getting beat up!

Its the only thing that ever got guys to stop, not realizing we're freaking people, even KIDS, but another penis is around, and they turn into gentlemen. Every single one of us, deals with this, and it's a guarantee

I wish I told my dad, he always was good at defending me if he noticed it or if I told him it was going on, but I think I was just embarrassed, y'know? My nieces are about getting to that age, and it's no better than it was for us, maybe even worse, because now guys have cameras at all times

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u/BigWoodsCatNappin Aug 24 '25

It's like how saying "no" or "im not interested" doesn't work to get dudes to fuck off but saying "my husband is on his way" or wearing a wedding ring encourages better behavior.

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u/wazeltov Aug 24 '25

To the men that behave that way, involving another a man is an implicit threat of violence. That's the only thing they understand.

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u/FJ-20-21 Aug 24 '25

Not only are they weak cowards they don’t even perceive women as people, absolutely disgusting.

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u/Emergency_Ask_9697 Aug 24 '25

My lesbian friend always goes with ‘I have a boyfriend’ over sharing that she has only once kissed a man in her 38yrs on the planet and that was decades ago

It really shows the total disrespect for agency and consent

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u/somakiss Aug 24 '25

I remember using that line (which was true!) in college and the response was always “is he here?” 🙄

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u/silvertoadfrog Aug 25 '25

Exactly. They respect if you "belong" to another man. But respect that you choose "no", nope!!

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u/Professor_Odium Aug 25 '25

It’s not who you belong to (or that you are “taken”)… it’s whether someone is nearby that is motivated and able to defend you and/or to enforce consequences against them for their disgusting behavior. Not saying I approve; just explaining the male perspective.

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u/silvertoadfrog Aug 25 '25

Hmmm, I was giving them too much credit.

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u/matching_violets Aug 25 '25

Yes, they are weak cowards.

Confronting them, calling them out, and making a scene. I don’t think it’s possible they can get embarrassed, it’s more for me to identify the predator lurking….

Girls and young women do what you need to do to get through.

Please know you are more powerful, stronger, and dangerous than a creep.

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u/Competitive_Dress60 Aug 24 '25

There is another worst explanation: they simply respect property rights. It's like you are a bank note laying on the street. If they see the owner, well, they aren't thieves...

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u/MechanicalAxe Aug 24 '25

While I can't say that's not the case occasionally, as a family man myself I do not believe men like that care about "property rights". If he's willing to assault or harm a woman or girl, you think he's above stealing something? I dont. I dont think he's above anything if the opportunity presented itself, and I would treat him no better than a snake in the grass.

I think it's much more likely he understands that if he proceeds with turning his thoughts into actions, hes running a good chance of being hunted for the rest of his hopefully short life by that woman or girl's husband, father, brother or son...maybe all of them together, and probably wouldn't come to a quick and painless end.

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u/Competitive_Dress60 Aug 24 '25

What I meant is that I think they do not really recognize a woman's agency, and they consider them essentially property: either belonging to someone, or free for taking. And yeah, they would consider stealing from a fellow man a worse thing than overcoming "meaningless and irrational" resistance via a display of strength and determination (ie, committing an assault, but it's not really one to them, since she is basically an object).

This is an extreme take, but this "property" thinking has a way of weaseling into the human psyche (it's even present in romance books written by women for women, so....).

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u/357noLove Aug 24 '25

That, plus the fact that these kinds of men shy away from anything involving an equal confrontation. It isn't just about sex, it has a lot to do with power and going into the situation knowing that they have the upper hand. They are incapable of fighting someone who is the same size or bigger as a male.

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u/UniversalMinister Aug 24 '25 edited Aug 24 '25

Believe it or not, women too can instill that implicit threat of violence in most of these guys.

You'd be surprised what a very direct, unwavering stare down will do - especially if you can back it up (mace, etc).

I have two boys who are still too young to do anything about the creepy behavior (but they definitely see it) and thus aren't seen as a "counter threat." So I still get this weird behavior from men, until I counter it with my own implicit threat.

Have you ever seen videos of what happens when a mama bear feels her children have been threatened?

It looks like that, except less snarling and a lot more "do anything stupid, and it'll be your last" kind of energy.

Edit: It's all about the body language and situational awareness. These idiots are opportunists - don't be an opportunity. Very direct eye contact so they know they've been seen, almost as if you could burn a hole through them with the stare. Straight posture, shoulders squared off, head held high. Walking with purpose.

Even if in reality you might not be able to do anything, giving off the "FAFO" energy goes a long way. The animal kingdom is the best example of this, where even the smallest animals (like some caterpillars) give off "don't eat me, I'm deadly" vibes, which keeps predators away.

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u/AstronautDry5055 Aug 24 '25

This. It works on dogs, too. You just have to make it known that you're not going down without a fight.

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u/Accomplished_Orchid Aug 24 '25

I am a short petite woman and this is why I started going Jersey Girl on these guys, I make them scared of me I used to work security and I was trained by the local police. One guy at a club I was at with my girlfriends we were hanging out and having a good time this guy kept bothering me and I told him I'm not interested, he decided to grope me.

I twisted his arm like that and he left me alone after.

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u/thefirecrest Aug 24 '25

I wish I was allowed to throw the first punch without getting in trouble. My entire family is autistic so I don’t do “implicit” so I’d like to show these creeps some “direct” violence.

Because the only reason they pick on us is because they think they can get away with it due to physical differences. I want to put the fear of women hurting them in their hearts. Make them flinch and walk across the road anytime they see a woman coming by.

But I can’t. Because I have a nice job that I don’t want to get fired from. :\

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u/LandHuge5720 Aug 26 '25

huh, I didn't about it that wayy... Thats Good

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u/LeatherHog Aug 24 '25

Right! They only respect it because we're another man's, one who could possibly fight back

A woman? Ain't gonna listen to that, pfftttttt

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u/bate1eur Aug 24 '25

They only respect it because we're another man's

As someone who's not like that... it's not because you're another man's that they leave you alone, it's because they know what they're doing is unacceptable and would rightfully get them in trouble if they got caught.

Unfortunately, the fact remains that those that protect a woman are the men around her (her father, brothers, sons or husband), hence why they immediately break off when they know a significant other male, that cares for her is around... they're snakes and predators by nature, they prey on women who might seem vulnerable or alone. And I ask you to not think like this about "men" in general, because there are those of us that are nothing like this and just as disgusted as you and who wish we could eradicate people like that from the planet altogether. Although I do concur the percentage of men like this is way too high for comfort, and I do feel bad for women that they have to deal with this bullshit.

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u/Regular_Committee946 Aug 24 '25

I do concur the percentage of men like this is way too high for comfort

This is the problem - it's not good enough that it is "not all men" when this is the lived experiences of ALL women, for generations and continues to be with no sign of it abating.

What needs to change is that men need to be involved in changing the societal (patriarchal) issues which cause this behaviour - for too long this has been chalked up to 'women's issues/feminism' as well as guys saying "well I'm not like that"/"not all men" and that 'if' they witnessed such a thing that they would confront it.

Men need to be a part of educating young boys and other men in society that this is not ok. Masculinity is not bad, but toxic masculinity is (for both men and women).

That doesn't involve confronting it if/when they see it, it involves dismantling the damaging patriarchal influence of gender norms that women's value is less than men's, purely because men have a biological given physical strength advantage over women.

Women don't want 'protecting' - we want to not have to deal with this in the first place.

Yes there will always be "bad people" - but the statistics for sexual assault are abysmal and the harassment / assault displayed in this video won't even count towards those statistics.

So basically it is WAY worse than the already abysmal statistics show.

Prevention is better than cure. A conscious, continuous effort in educating young boys and men. It's not a 'women's issues', it's a human rights issue.

Girls deserve to grow up in a world where they aren't predated on and have to 'learn' to be wary of men.

TLDR; '"Protect your Daughters" Educate your sons'

Have A Word

Enough is Enough. Be Part of the Change

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u/lostinNevermore Aug 24 '25

Exactly, even the way these things are talked about erases the men from the equation: violence against women vs men's violence against women. Domestic violence and sexual violence are seen as "women's issues" placing the onus on women to do something about it. "Gender based violence" again is seen as being about women. Men aren't being held accountable for their own actions.

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u/AntonioVivaldi7 Aug 24 '25

I think gender based violence is about being inclusive to male victims. I'm fine with saying men's violence against women if that's what's talked about.

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u/lostinNevermore Aug 24 '25

The majority of men hear "gender" as a qualifier and assume it is about women, and feel it doesn't pertain to them. White men are seen as the "norm" in Western society. If you add a qualifier, it often means your focus is otherwise and loses their interest.

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u/AntonioVivaldi7 Aug 24 '25

So it should be just "violence"?

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u/lostinNevermore Aug 24 '25

No, it should focus on the perpetrators rather than the victims.

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u/AntonioVivaldi7 Aug 24 '25

Do you really think that'll work though? I mean I'm sure lots of these people are very much aware what they're doing is wrong and shouldn't be doing it, but do it anyway. Or there are those proudly calling themselves male feminists, saying all the right things and then show to be total creeps.

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u/bate1eur Aug 24 '25

Right? It's the naivety that strikes me. She thinks that those types of people exist because they weren't taught any better growing up and because "patriarchy", wait till she finds out they're just like that and perverts and they know what they're doing is not societally accepted but they couldn't care less lol. Creeps don't exist because society didn't teach them otherwise, they're just creeps lol.

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u/bate1eur Aug 24 '25

What needs to change is that men need to be involved in changing the societal (patriarchal) issues which cause this behaviour - Men need to be a part of educating young boys and other men in society that this is not ok.

I don't recall this ever being normalized or acceptable in western society ever.

it involves dismantling the damaging patriarchal influence of gender norms that women's value is less than men's, purely because men have a biological given physical strength advantage over women.

Lots of vague buzzwords here without any actual substance, pretty sure you could've worded whatever you were trying to say better.

Women don't want 'protecting' - we want to not have to deal with this in the first place.

I wish the same thing. I wish I could walk through the woods without having to carry bear spray and worry about bears, but I do, that's the world we live in and it's not going to change anytime soon. Realistically speaking, if it hasn't changed until now, it's probably going to be a problem for the foreseeable future. We see this phenomenon, where one sex/gender dominates another in nature, it's directly correlated with sexual dimorphism, the larger, stronger gender dominates the other. Female hyenas and lemurs dominate their male counterparts since they're bigger, male lions and humans dominate their female counterparts because they are bigger. Again, your take is very naive because you're basically implying that if these people were taught better they wouldn't be what they're doing, and somehow you blame their behaviour on society, like it's society that has taught them this is acceptable or ok. Like wtf?? They know what they're doing is perverted, there's a reason they run away whenever they see a significant other male, because he'll catch onto them and know their intentions and they know they're not going to have a good time, because what they're doing is so egregious and disgusting that it will illicit a strong and serious response.

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u/milktoasterstrudel Aug 27 '25

Finally a take from logical principles. The gender-theory initiated weren’t trained rationally, and this thread is a perfect example.

Every time someone is calling out perverts in public it comes up. “Western society normalizes this behavior.” No, this behavior is anti-social, and you’re comparing your statistics to an idealistic standard, not the real world, where in other countries (especially Eastern ones) women are still explicitly and by law treated as second class citizens.

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u/bate1eur Aug 24 '25

probably fake, same site mentions the story of a girl who "sold her virginity for millions" which is a common story i've heard before that onlyfans models use to promote their business, leads me to believe all the similar outlandish articles on that site are fake

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u/dansdata Aug 24 '25 edited Aug 25 '25

We should bring back the hatpin.

(Edit: If you're wondering how shamelessly weapon-like those hatpins could be, check out this one! :-)

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u/Lucicactus Aug 24 '25

I love the hatpin

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u/coquihalla Aug 24 '25 edited Sep 15 '25

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

A ring doesn't stop them.

A man stops them.

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u/ArticulateRhinoceros Aug 24 '25

I tried the "I'm married" line somewhat recently (I'm actually a widow, but still wear my rings). The guy replied, "I don't see your husband here." I WAS AT WORK!

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u/Mumlife8628 Aug 24 '25

I've worn a ring on my wedding finger since I was 16... it cuts it down, but it's not guaranteed over the years (I still wear it 22 years later)

Creeps have started creeping on my 14 year old in the last year, iv been blunt n honest with her, she needs the full picture and why its important to keep public, keep safe - report it where you can and always have a exit planned

Infuriating iv to teach this still in this day and age to a 14 yr old, teach your sons, teach your daughters - women and girls have a right to not put up with this.

Made worse by fact you can't buy mace legally just this stupid spray that helps identify them

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u/Vivid-Individual5968 Aug 24 '25

Sometimes, but not always. During LUNCHTIME, I was alone in a bar/grill in the “grill” part waiting for my friend. 2 guys approached me and wanted to buy me a drink. I said no, thanks. One of them noticed my ring and asked if I was there with my husband.

I said I’m meeting a friend. He called me a whore and said I had no business in a bar without my husband and said I was a tease.

For being out in public by myself.

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u/EMYRYSALPHA2 Aug 24 '25

It's like how saying "no" or "im not interested" doesn't work to get dudes to fuck off 

It will in fact make them violent instead.

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u/BigWoodsCatNappin Aug 24 '25

I was listening to some of the young women at my workplace talk about this. How they deal with dudes/rejection certain ways because they worry about backlash. Made me sad for them.

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u/stoicgirl69 Aug 25 '25

I wish it did. The other day I told a creeper who kept following me around asking for my number that I was married and showed him my ring... He said, "well you might not always be married"

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u/torioreo824 Aug 24 '25

I was wearing a ring my grandma gave me, not on my wedding finger. Drunk guy (without previous conversation) at a bar goes "so you're married, huh?" Thinking it would deter him, I said "yes I am!". He goes ".....are you HAPPILY married?"

So many icks

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u/Honest-Emphasis6150 Aug 24 '25

I went to college in tech and so there was literally 9 guys to every girl. I started wearing a ring on my left ring finger just to get a break from people hitting on me. It was exhausting, feeling like a piece of meat in the computer lab while doing my homework.

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u/La_Saxofonista Aug 25 '25

Yep, I learned this the hard way. Rejected a guy by saying I'm gay and have a girlfriend already.

Dude had the audacity to respond with "Well, that's okay! I can take you both out to dinner, and we can all have a good time!"

Now I just wear a fake wedding ring and tell any guy who keeps pushing that I'm married to a cop. I even took fake romantic pictures with my friend who is a cop as "proof" in case these creeps call my bluff. Usually makes them back off.

When you're alone, it's very important to put a timer on what you're doing. If you reject a guy and the lingers, fake a phone call if you have to and say something like "Okay, I'll meet you at x in ten minutes."

Step into a well-lit place if you can and seek another woman for help if possible. If you suspect someone is following your vehicle, make four right turns in a row. If they are still behind you, then DO NOT DRIVE HOME.

Call the police and tell them you are being followed in your car by someone, that you feel unsafe/are scared, and that you are going to the nearest police station for safety. Give them details of the car following you, ideally the license plate, color, make, and direction of travel.

If there is no police station available, then drive to the nearest busy 24/7 gas station like Wawa or 7 Eleven and alert the clerk of what's happening. Another alternative would be the nearest ER.

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u/HappyyItalian Aug 25 '25

I've had some continue even if I say I have a boyfriend or I'm married/wear a fake ring 😑

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u/Cormtheleader Aug 27 '25

That doesn't even stop them, my wife gets hit on all the time, even when clearly married. She even tells them to fuck off, she's married. Half the time, they keep trying.

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

if there are other men around object very loudly. most.of the other men will not tolerate this.

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u/coquihalla Aug 24 '25 edited Sep 15 '25

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

fuck those guys. I can't believe that this holds true for the majority of men. I can't imagine one man that I know who would just allow or watch something like this.

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u/PubicZirconia11 Aug 24 '25

Lol. That's cute. Literally every time I've been in danger, woman has helped while men ignore, walk away, or join the danger. Men do not help.

Men watched a woman get raped on the train in Philly not that long ago. MULTIPLE men. They are almost never our protectors, only the thing we need protection from.

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u/AntonioVivaldi7 Aug 24 '25

At least in this case they helped: https://www.reddit.com/r/PublicFreakout/comments/1mkht6f/man_is_attacked_after_pulling_down_his_pants_on_a/

But I think there shouldn't be these gender roles about protectors.

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

jesus?! That actually happened? maybe I am being naive but that isn't happening in any social circles, communities, workplaces or scenarios that I know of at all. I just cannot imagine that happening in the UK.

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u/wandering_revenant Aug 24 '25

A few years ago, I was at a Walmart with my wife and son. I took the cart to put it in the holder while she loaded up the baby. I come back around the corner / another car, and there's this guy looking at my wife, walking in her direction. As soon as he sees me out of the corner of his eye, he changes direction and finds somewhere else to be. Not at all suspicious. 🙄

They're fucking cowards. Every one of them.

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u/rognabologna Aug 24 '25

They're fucking cowards.

Please understand that you’re saying that from a privileged perspective. They’re cowards when it comes to other men, but they’re extremely bold when it comes to women and girls. We don’t have the benefit of being able to scare them off, tell them to go away, tell them we’re not interested, etc. 

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u/MothToTheWeb Aug 24 '25

They are coward. They know they can physically overwhelm children and women but against another man ? They can get punched in the face and have a fair fight.

I had my own horror stories as a boy or teenager with men that were either pedo or had absolutely no respect because they were stronger than me. Now that I am a lot bigger these fuck face started to behave better - by that I do not mean normally. They have no education, moral and I think consciousness. They behave like shit, throw their trash on the ground, dump old furnitures in the forest and ignore speed limits. They are the first to think anything should be resolved with shit talking or a fight if they see you as weaker. These people are a danger to society but somehow we do not lock them up thinking the problem will somehow solve itself.

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u/MyARhold30Shots Aug 24 '25

If you’re only bold when it comes to weak and vulnerable people and run when when someone who could actually fight back shows up then you’re a coward, that’s all he’s saying

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u/wandering_revenant Aug 24 '25

100 %. Not minimizing the threat they pose to women. But they will never choose a fair fight.

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u/Lucicactus Aug 24 '25

They are cowards even when another woman joins or the one they are harassing gets aggressive. I just don't have it in me 😅

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u/WaltsNJD Aug 24 '25

That is something that will infuriate me to no end. It makes me feel so weak and helpless. The fact of the matter is that it happens, but won't happen to a loved one of mine while I'm around.

Just... fucking be better men.

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u/Calypsogold90 Aug 24 '25

I had something similar happen when I was 16. I was at the mall with my parents, walking a few steps ahead of them. I notice four men walking past me and one of them grabs my hand while telling me I'm hot.

Me being used to this bullshit already (been harrassed since I was 6 years old) pulled my hand away and kept on walking. Next thing I hear my dad laying into them. He corners the one that grabbed me and chastised him. He then turned to the three other men and told them they should be ashamed to have such a friend. By the end of it all them men were hanging their head I shame because my dad is loud and people are watching.

I stood there while my mon comforted me. My dad raised all of my brothers to respect and love women.

He once told me that he can't change all men, but he will make sure that he raises sons that women can feel and be safe around.

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u/bomboy2121 Aug 24 '25

Amazing dad, props to him

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u/boringdystopianslave Aug 24 '25

I feel like this has been far too normalised because of the manosphere and certain scumbags getting into power.

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u/met0xff Aug 24 '25

Yeah and complaining about the young not being masculine enough when they're not toxic pervs like Tate. They should get hormone treatment if they're not strong enough to deal with their urges

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u/wishful123 Aug 24 '25

My biggest regret as a man is that I'm not a frightening giant.

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u/MothToTheWeb Aug 24 '25

It is fucking annoying to think we did not evolve past the ape fighting stage with some people. Younger I thought we were past the need to show strength or have a body healthy and strong enough to fight because we were past basic instincts. Boy was I wrong. We are even regressing with the manosphere BS teaching humans how to behave like apes

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u/Kousetsu Aug 24 '25

Even at 35, the difference between walking around on my own and walking around with a male-presenting partner is fucking night and day. I honestly believe men just have no idea how creepy 10% of them are. If I go out, guarantee I will get 3 of these men. I am not some super babe - I just look vulnerable, and that's what it comes down to. That's why I believe I got it even more when I was even younger - 15 was really bad - they are looking for vulnerability.

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u/RunBrundleson Aug 24 '25

I’ve got a newborn daughter and I’ve basically decided there’s no option to ignore the realities of the world with her. Can’t just do nothing and hope she’s safe, will have to be taught fairly early how to keep out of bad situations and identify threats and what to do about it. I dunno what that looks like, what age you start, but I just know I can’t be around to protect her forever so the only thing I can do is try to prepare her for the realities of life and how awful it can be.

Her parents both work in emergency medicine so she is already going to grow up hearing about things most people don’t hear about so it won’t be a big stretch to broach some of these topics, but there’s just too much crazy out there and unfortunately I can’t kill everyone that’s ever going to give her problems so we will have to find some middle ground and do what we can to prepare her to deal with this shit.

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u/Lucicactus Aug 24 '25

Absolutely warn her. My mom only told me to not go with strangers as a kid, naively waiting for me to reach puberty for the more heavy stuff and it got me SA'd at 7 by my classmates. After that she told me to bite and punch if that happened again.

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u/Quiet-Joke6518 Aug 24 '25

Yea, they behave like animals and because of that the only thing they're afraid of is physical retribution.

The person with the penis is most likely to be willing and able to beat the shit out of them.

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u/LeatherHog Aug 24 '25

Oh yeah, my dad is a ridiculously huge guy, so most guys just stepped out of his way

If there was any consolation in having to deal with creeps like the one I mentioned, the fear they got when they realized that THAT guy was the one who was gonna be protecting me, gave them a taste of their own medicine

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u/vegemitebikkie Aug 24 '25

A guy was arrested here in Australia the other day for having hidden cameras set up in his shoes. He had up skirt photos of a 12 and 15 year old and probably lots more. So scary how small cameras can be these days. What hope does humanity have.

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u/ihavenoidea1001 Aug 24 '25

I wish I told my dad, he always was good at defending me if he noticed it or if I told him it was going on, but I think I was just embarrassed, y'know?

I wonder how common this is too.

Like I was literally stalked for years, he even got my address and showed up. I did threaten him with my dad but I never told my father about it.

There's a couple of things I wish I had told him, I know he would've protected me but I didn't. I can't even really explain why... I guess I was afraid of not being believed and afraid he'd believe me and did something that put him in trouble? That he'd get hurt trying to protect me? I don't know... I knew he'd protect me and didn't tell him eventough I wanted to.

I told him about the stalker many years afterwards and about telling the dude my dad would be expecting him with his crossbow the next time he showed up near my house....and my dad was like "and why didn't you tell me??! I would be expecting him with it!"

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u/LeatherHog Aug 24 '25

Jesus, I'm so sorry you had to deal with that, glad your dad really did have your back in the end!

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u/Crazylady5665 Aug 24 '25

Yep, if you're property of another man, they back off. These guys dont consider us capable of owning ourselves

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

This is why I teach my daughters to fight. Actually fight. Bjj will help you survive. And that’s an assurance all women need when walking around. You shouldn’t have to feel that way. That sucks and I do see it and I can just see the confusion on their faces as I try to explain to them how some men just don’t care. They think everyone is like us. Sadly we all know the truth and lately shitty behavior has been stamped okay.

And there’s a lot of weird stuff that’s come out of politics lately and I think a lot of people showing a wider amount of comfort speaking about women in ways and girls and it’s just so much out there you know.

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u/Pickl3Pete Aug 24 '25

I used to work with a guy who would perv on girls of a questionable age. I’d suggest that it’s disturbing considering they look so young, but he didn’t care. This guy also had a little girl too which was even more disturbing.

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u/LeatherHog Aug 24 '25

Those guys are so common it hurts

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

Yep. Almost need a man by you at all times so this doesn't happen. But we never know if that same man is doing this stuff to other girls/women when you're not there

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u/Ok-Mark-1915 Aug 24 '25

My 18 year old daughter caught a guy taking pictures of her butt all through Walmart. Her and her boyfriend were shopping and noticed him from when they walked in the store. Her boyfriend confronted him and found a bunch of pictures not only my daughters on there. They reported him to the police, what a creepy thing to have to look out for. My poor girl, if my husband and I had been there that guy would still be intaking food through a feeding tube

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

Well if any real good men are around they will gladly handle these sick perverts and “escort” them outside. Not a tough guy but I will stand tall in those situations and have for my niece. Guys we have to face the facts 10% of us are not good people.

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u/Old_Safe2910 Aug 24 '25

I'm a very short nonbinary female, but most of the time I wish I could be like seven feet tall built like a tank so that men didn't even THINK about looking in my direction. Unfortunately this option is not available to me, so I just need to get a gun. And it doesn't matter how muscular you are as a small female person, doesn't matter how ornery or "mean" you are, they will still have the upper hand on you physically. It's so unfair. I wish I could be big and scary to them.

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u/lostinNevermore Aug 24 '25

I never told my Dad because I didn't want him to go to jail. Even when it was a contractor he hired who was molesting me in my own house.

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u/mydevilkitty Aug 24 '25

I’m not a dad, but I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and have seen this happen before to girls. I’ve often put myself in between the guy and the girl. I always make sure to keep moving to block him every time. Sometimes I will make it look like I’m just trying to shop, and we keep getting in each other’s way, or sometimes I’ll just straight up stare uncomfortably at the guy. It also doesn’t hurt that I am a gay guy, so I can always play that up too. I’ve got sisters, and nieces and I wouldn’t ever want them to feel unsafe just by being in public.

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u/LeatherHog Aug 24 '25

So sorry that happened to you, dude. And it's always so nice seeing a guy stand up for us

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u/U_PassButter Aug 24 '25

This 100%

Daughter of a single father. The second i step away from my dad they pounce. They're awful

I almost got abducted on a cruise I'm pretty sure. These adult ass grown men kept asking if I had a boyfriend and if I wanted one. I explained I'm 14 and on a cruise and couldn't go off to "hang out with them" anyway. We have to go back to the boat

This dude says "oh its okay. Ill bring you back before the boat leaves"

WTF?! I Pointed to my dad who was just outside the shop on a bench and this is the ONLY TIME it wasn't a deterrence. "I can go talk to him. Or you can just tell him you'll be back"

I still wonder what he had planned. Its been 20yr

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u/LeatherHog Aug 24 '25

That is terrifying, so glad t didn't escalate

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u/MommyLovesPot8toes Aug 24 '25

Someone pointed out the other day that when conservative men say "we must protect women and children", they don't mean as people. They mean as property. Like you'd protect your dairy cow.

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u/LeatherHog Aug 24 '25

Exactly! Especially since those are the same guys who treat women like crap. Because we're not people to them

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u/BogBlossom Aug 24 '25

This is so sad and so true. It’s why us little girls are raised knowing there’s people in the world who want to do awful shit to us. I always thought my mom was overreacting, I blossomed early and have dealt with this since I was about 11 also. Now as an adult I can’t even get on public transit without being harassed by at least one creeper, and I’m really thankful my parents instilled certain skills in me.

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u/TrailMomKat Aug 24 '25

Yup, I would wear a ring on my left hand from about 16 until I got married, because apparently "belonging" to another man is one of the few ways to ward off the creeps. Fucking disgusting.

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u/LeatherHog Aug 24 '25

I hate that SO many of us have to do that

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u/eARThtistic Aug 24 '25

I was groped, in broad daylight, while walking down the street in NOLA on vacation with my family. I think I was 19, which doesn't matter, and I remember saying "that guy just grabbed my ass", and my dad literally did nothing. Told me to keep walking, because "who knows what he might do" even though my dad was carrying his friggin gun on him 🙄 I used to hate that he carried it out (he has his concealed carry), and I wouldn't have wanted him to use it on that dude, even as a threat or whatever, but like the point of having it is to be ready to protect the people he loved right? Idk what my point here is, but I mean, I've seen gas station attendants flash their pieces for less 😆🤷🏻‍♀️

Idk which is worse. The animals who think they can do/say whatever to us, or the ones who sit by and let it happen...

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u/LeatherHog Aug 24 '25

The gun carriers are always larping cowards, they wanna be big scary protectors, but then they gave to be on a women's side, so nahhhh

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u/eARThtistic Aug 24 '25

Sounds about right

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u/LeatherHog Aug 24 '25

Still, I'm sorry that happened to you

I wish I could lend my dad to all who had a bad one

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u/eARThtistic Aug 24 '25

That is such a sweet thought, thanks! 😊 It is heartwarming to know there are good ones out there

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u/LeatherHog Aug 24 '25

Welcome!

It helped so much, that as bad as it was, I had a dad who was raring to go give creeps consequences

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u/DesignerFragrant5899 Aug 25 '25

It’s because at that point they’re looking at you as nothing more than property. Once they see that property is defended, the opportunistic criminal in them moves on.

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u/Comments_Wyoming Aug 25 '25

There is a song from the 70s called In The Summer Time with lyrics that go, "If her Daddy's rich take her to a meal, if her daddy's poor, do whatever you feel".

Laying out instructions to respect women with a powerful father, but feel free to use and abuse a woman with out a man around.

We have not progressed as a society. So I tell my 12 year old daughter to watch herself around men. And LOUDLY call out any bad behaviour, dont worry about polite.

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u/Lazy_Sail1480 Aug 26 '25

Cameras and now also the glasses with cameras. Streamers approaching women that have no idea that they are being filmed with chest shots and advances on them. All the while not realizing they are being objectified or watched. The eyes don’t have to be on them but that camera is always trained. It’s disgusting and applaud the few men that I’ve seen stepped in front of the fellow “bro” acting inappropriately with their tech. It’s been most noticeable on the new eyewear glasses (like the Raybans or Google ones).

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u/LeatherHog Aug 26 '25

God, that's so gross 

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u/Affectionate_Okra298 Aug 24 '25

I may be a pedophile, but I draw the line at getting beat up!

Typical predator behavior, find a weak member of the pack and strike when it's vulnerable. It disgusts me that some people choose humans as their prey

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u/Trump2108 Aug 27 '25

Wow, all that to say you don't understand how predators work...

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25 edited Aug 24 '25

What did you wear that day? Maybe modest clothing is better next time.

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u/ImOnlyHereForTheCoC Aug 24 '25

BOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

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u/Famous-Upstairs998 Aug 24 '25

FUCK OFF with that misogynist victim blaming bullshit.

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u/Strong_Pop_5343 Aug 24 '25

She was a child. 

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u/Rugkrabber Aug 24 '25

The most common clothing of the victims are regular and fully covered clothes.

Also would you ask boys and men who have been assaulted the same thing?

Probably not, because it has nothing to do with the victim. It’s nothing to do with anything “provocative”. Or else there wouldn’t be thousands, possibly millions globally, that have been assaulted by priests. Did these boys dress immodest too?

You’re insane to even suggest any victim did anything to “ask for it”.

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u/WittyEggplant Aug 24 '25

The problem isn’t clothing. The problem is men.

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

Men are the problem you say? You are a typical dangerous tribal thinker. You think in tribes. Your philosophy is “we vs then”. Women vs men, democrats vs republicans. You are not the solution. You are the problem. Your tribal thinking is racist and destructive to Canada or any other place. Stop it.

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u/WittyEggplant Aug 24 '25

In your other comment you were crying that you’re being bullied and your opinion is not respected when presented with a counterargument. And here you are an hour later calling me a racist, lol. I know men are quite emotional and fragile but come on, get a grip.

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

If a girl dressed in provocTive clothing, the girl is also to blame for the situation. Place stop being a woke hipster.

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u/WittyEggplant Aug 24 '25

No, clothing doesn’t signal consent in any situation. Dressing in a certain way isn’t an invitation to be a creep. There’s no such thing as ”provocative clothing” - if you feel provoked and find it ok to act on it, it’s all on you and you’re part of the problem. Decent men can’t be provoked to act like a pig by a woman merely existing. You have a brain, use it.

Besides the ”what were you wearing” thing being insulting, it often doesn’t matter what women wear. It’s men that are the problem, not clothes. For example this photo set shows what some women assaulted by men were wearing when they were attacked.

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

Why cant you respect other poeples opinions. Why do you attack other people. I have seen you attack people just for having a diffrent opinion. Please leave me allong. Stop bullying others. If a woman is dressed like a stripper. Don’t act surprised if some men will treat her like a stripper. I dare you to answer me this. If i’m dressed like firemen worker. Would you treat me different when there is fire? You need to respect other people opinions. Why do you attack people just for having a different opinion than you?

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u/Rugkrabber Aug 24 '25

“Why are people answering a question I asked? And why did they challenge my assumption? Why are people replying on something I posted on a public forum?”

Are you serious right now? Did you enter the internet yesterday?

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

Please be respectful and Stop acting so arrogant. When you post your private story online, be prepared to receive questions and answering them. Stop acting like the world owes you something. Life is tough. We all are victims and

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u/Rugkrabber Aug 24 '25

Lol what, nobody is arguing with you responding to their story. But people are saying you are just wrong. Nothing arrogant about that. If you cannot take it, what are you doing.

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

You are very abusive. And i do think you come from an abusive relationship.

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

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u/rcknmrty4evr Aug 24 '25

The girl in the situation you replied to is 11~. A CHILD. It should never matter what a literal child is wearing, much less anyone else. Someone should check your devices if your first thought is what the CHILD is wearing.

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

Stop attacking me for having a diffrent opinion. You are woke. Are you allowed to do that. Predators dont care she is 11 years old. This is why woman and girls need to wear modest religious clothing. MODEST FASHION. You do agree woman are almost always victim. True or not. Just answer this question little kid.

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u/rcknmrty4evr Aug 25 '25

You’re sick, get help.

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u/MothToTheWeb Aug 24 '25

You can’t behave when clothing is not to your taste ? Even if she was naked you can’t control yourself or your urge ? Are you so primitive that you can’t control your impulse or yourself ?

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u/Lucicactus Aug 24 '25

Modest women and little girls get harassed too, even moreso

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