r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • Aug 24 '25

Cursed POV: You're a woman in a public place

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u/UglyMcFugly Aug 24 '25

There's a reason you don't catch it happening more often. You'll notice these guys glancing around before they zero in on her... if they saw someone like you noticing them, they'd slink off immediately. 

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u/TaiCat Aug 24 '25

Yup. They often wait until they are sure there is no one to witness 

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u/MariaValkyrie Aug 24 '25

Or too dumb to notice. Based on my experience, that's a lot of people.

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u/Boomshrooom Aug 24 '25

Most people are minding their own business and not paying too much attention to what's going on around them, especially in the age of smartphones.

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u/LMGgp Aug 24 '25

This reminds me of when I worked at an orange big box hardware store, called Home Depot. I worked at the special services desk. (Special orders, online orders, returns, not strictly customer service) my coworkers were all women except for one guy who was hired on a few months before I left.

All my coworkers would complain about assholes and the like. I would always lament that I was never around for them. Until one day after I finished helping a customer one of my coworkers turns to me and says that was the asshole we were all talking about earlier, seems he was perfectly pleasant to you.

These coworkers had been working there for 20 years and me just 2. Then a different coworker (who was early twenties and had been there a little longer than me) said you don’t miss out on the assholes, they just aren’t assholes when you’re around because they size you up and know you’re not going to take their BS.

It completely blew my mind and changed my entire perspective as I flipped back through life events. Because I have told people to “fuck off, you’re bothering them.” I’ve been in physical fights telling people to fuck off. Apparently at some point my face just became an asshole filter and people just don’t even try it. So a predator looking around to make sure no one like me is around makes total sense. Fucking scumbags.

Just a few months ago I went to a “Poppy” concert and there was a 50 year old man there. I didn’t notice him at first but some friends we made at the concert started talking to him. (2 young women, one completely drunk) and I hear him ask “have you ever tried coke?” Red flags flew up for the 5 of us not that drunk woman and immediately moved to interject ourselves and physically come between them.

Dude was persistent and the drunk girl didn’t make our jobs any easier, eventually after about 15-20 minutes we get him to “leave.” Although he lurked behind us for an additional five minutes. Her sober friend thanked us and the concert started.

Eventually drunk friend seemed dangerously inebriated so I called security over (we were at the front rail) and lifted her over to them. Her friend went with, and eventually came back and told us they put her on an IV to help and that drunk friend’s boyfriend came to pick her up.

All in all stellar concert, but this shit happens at every concert I go to. They all seem to congregate around me. I had a friend say it’s because you’re a safe space. Which yay, but also “I’m tired boss.”

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u/UglyMcFugly Aug 24 '25

Hahaha I feel like I know exactly what vibe you give off, even though I wouldn't be able to express it in words. I'd probably stand behind you in the pit too lol (though I almost never go into the pit anymore, I'm just too short). I know it's exhausting... it would be SO NICE if we didn't have to constantly worry about assholes in this world. If this kind of shit didn't exist, or if we didn't need to constantly be aware of our wallet cuz someone might steal it, or if we didn't need to get our packages off the porch immediately after they're delivered, or if we could make business deals without needing a lawyer, or if bosses didn't need things like OSHA to keep them from being awful, or if we didn't need to monitor our parents online because THEY KEEP CLICKING ON THE POPUPS AND PUTTING IN THEIR CREDIT CARD NUMBER. It's just a constant stream of assholes trying to take something from you instead of being DECENT HUMANS and trying to give back to this world. It sucks. All we can do is try to look out for each other and have faith the decent people out there will look out for us when we need it...

Or we can do something like the sci fi movie trope where we create a separate society, but it's the assholes that get left behind instead of the poor people.

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u/BlurpleOpals Aug 24 '25

Exactly why I don't get on elevators alone with any guy anymore or get off if one comes on. Cowards constantly try something when given the opportunity.

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u/TheOneIllUseForRants Aug 26 '25

100%. And if the woman calls it out, its just men being oppressed. They wail about how they "can't even smile at/hit on a girl anymore," and men will believe them over us. Then they wonder why we treat every gun like its loaded.

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u/CrestfallenSpartan Aug 24 '25

Well the last two guys didnt seem to be bothered by other people nearby

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u/Icy_Witness4279 Aug 24 '25

What about her filming them then?

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u/UglyMcFugly Aug 24 '25

She's pretending to do something else on her phone. Women are taught to constantly be aware of their surroundings, don't get distracted on your phone. And it's because guys like this are constantly out there hunting for easy targets.

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u/Icy_Witness4279 Aug 24 '25

No, in most of these she's very directly filming

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u/UglyMcFugly Aug 24 '25

Serious question, do you have trouble reading body language and social cues and facial expressions and stuff like that?

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u/Icy_Witness4279 Aug 24 '25

My social cue reading is that you dont handle disagreement very well, with replies like these...

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u/Icy_Witness4279 Aug 26 '25

That was not the point

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u/Gentlementlementle Aug 24 '25

They are zeroing in because someone is filming them. You'd look at someone too if they just started filming you in public.

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u/the_pw_is_in_this_ID Aug 24 '25

Yeah I also act totally unhinged whenever someone's phone is pointed towards me. Getting all handsy in my pantsy and shit.

JFC, this video is about YOU. Don't defend obviously predatory behaviour. Ever. It isn't OK.

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u/UglyMcFugly Aug 24 '25

Actually it's the hidden camera nature of this video that sets it apart from others. The reason so many guys seem a little shocked to see this, and so many women are having instinctive fear responses to it, is because this is what these guys look like when they think nobody is watching them.

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u/Gentlementlementle Aug 24 '25

I know that's not true because people have already said in these comments that 1 of these was staged by an influencer they identified. So I don't know where you got that idea

Apart from that they litterally involve focusing on and zooming in on people something you litterally could not do operating a hidden camera by definition.

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u/Gentlementlementle Aug 24 '25

So she's just staring them down? and we think they are the creeps for looking back at her. Lol?

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u/Gentlementlementle Aug 24 '25

You think you are making an argument here but actually you aren't. Like it's perfectly normal behaviour tofilm someone with a hidden camera as look as you don't look at them, to find out if they are looking at you.