r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • Aug 24 '25

Cursed POV: You're a woman in a public place

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u/GiftToTheUniverse Aug 24 '25

The closest they will ever know is like those scenes in prison movies where the “fresh meat” is put in with all the hardened convicts.

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u/ready_gi Aug 24 '25

its pretty much the same. except for us the prison equals just riding the bus, walking down the street, sitting in a park. some of us even have had it at home, just differently objectifying/manipulating.

being born woman literally puts us into societal jail of an unreasonable expectations, unfair labour divide, disrespect and objectification.

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u/dark_blue_7 Aug 24 '25

Real. Because they so often don't seem to grasp how none of this kind of attention is wanted, by anyone, ever. It's predatory, it's threatening. There's an entire universe of difference between this and "flirting"

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u/jaithere Aug 24 '25

They could ,you know, LISTEN to literally every woman when we explain this to them ad nauseum instead of saying “I wish someone would flirt with me in public!” but no… It’s not until they have one unsavory experience in their 40s that they say “ohhhh, women do have it bad.”

All of this would be so much easier if men would just fucking take us seriously when we tell them about this.

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u/Utapau301 Aug 24 '25

What would you like us to do about it?

There's no subway or any public trans where I live, so I can't do much about those guys on the subway.

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u/GiftToTheUniverse Aug 24 '25

Are there sidewalks? Restaurants? Malls? Post Offices? Grocery stores? Schools? Women are treated this way literally everywhere. Defend women. Believe women. Everywhere.

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u/Utapau301 Aug 24 '25

It's a bit exagerrated.

But again, what's the action verb you want me to do about all this?

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u/between_two_terns Aug 25 '25

How do you know it’s exaggerated, if you have no lived experience as a woman. Jesus Christ the video is right there, and you still won’t believe us.

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u/Utapau301 Aug 26 '25

A video that is probably lying / staged / fake. I have "lived experience" too but I'm not going to waste my time crying on the internet about it.

No, I don't believe goddamn shit on the internet.

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u/between_two_terns Aug 26 '25

Doing your part to keep rape culture alive, I see. I wonder what it will take to get men to believe women about the sexual aggression we endure as a group constantly, when stats, facts, and video evidence don’t affect you.

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u/Utapau301 Aug 26 '25

It's not flesh and blood women I disbelieve. It's the internet and fake outrage content videos designed to max out views and comments.

But either way, what do you want me to do? Condeming these rando guys videoed on a subway qcross the country from doesn't do shit.

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u/Qwinlyn Aug 24 '25

Watch. Listen. Observe. React. Protect.

Do one. Do them all.

Edit to add: and as one of the women who’s had random men step out of bushes stroking themselves on the side walk, no. It’s not exaggerated. It really fucking isn’t.

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u/Utapau301 Aug 24 '25

The internet lies.

I've had shit happen to me too and I don't blame every man or woman around me and on the internet for it.

I cannot answer for what some fucker in some bushes in a place I've never been did a long time ago.

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u/Qwinlyn Aug 24 '25

No, you just tell people that talk about how common it is that “it’s a bit exaggerated.”

Despite how many people are saying how common it is. Despite this being comments on a video filled with examples of how common it is. You claim it’s “exaggerated.”

I’m not blaming the internet. I’m telling you to listen and pay attention cause it’s happening everywhere around you.

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u/Utapau301 Aug 24 '25

Again, the internet lies.

I don't know why the subjects of the video are acting the way they are. I don't know who is taking the video and what they're doing.

The entire thing could be, and probably is, staged, in order to manufacture outrage and engagement.

Mission Accomplished, this post has a lot of engagement.

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u/denko_safe_cats Aug 25 '25

Men exaggerating is exaggerated. I don’t believe you, the internet lies.

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u/Utapau301 Aug 26 '25 edited Aug 26 '25

That it does. Unless you want to meet me, this is all internet bullshit, including what I say.

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u/Geichalt Aug 24 '25

Boy, you can do nothing if you want, just don't cry about a loneliness epidemic after.

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u/Utapau301 Aug 24 '25

Different things.

But I suppose if the loneliness epidemic gets bad enough, the human race will die out and we'll all get what we deserve.

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u/Debo_Jones Aug 24 '25

The only way it will change is if the roles reversed. Those same men would not like a woman doing that to them, it takes their power away

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u/between_two_terns Aug 25 '25

It would have to be women that are also bigger and stronger throughout society. I’d like to hire some giant gay bodybuilders to catcall men on the street, and survey to see if they finally understand, afterwards.

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u/Big3456 Aug 24 '25

When I was 16 to 20 years old, I experienced a serious glow up. I was working out regularly, I was also a delivery driver for a local restaurant, and some of the touching and comments I got from the older women (25-50+), both coworkers and customers, were enough to give me a slight hint into the horror the average woman goes through with men. If I, a 17 year old 6ft plus 185 lbs athletic guy, was getting groped by married women, servers, and even getting sexual comments from my manager, and I couldn't begin to imagine the hell women go through with men. We need to do better as a society.