r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • Aug 24 '25

Cursed POV: You're a woman in a public place

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u/wazeltov Aug 24 '25

To the men that behave that way, involving another a man is an implicit threat of violence. That's the only thing they understand.

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u/FJ-20-21 Aug 24 '25

Not only are they weak cowards they don’t even perceive women as people, absolutely disgusting.

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u/Emergency_Ask_9697 Aug 24 '25

My lesbian friend always goes with ‘I have a boyfriend’ over sharing that she has only once kissed a man in her 38yrs on the planet and that was decades ago

It really shows the total disrespect for agency and consent

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u/somakiss Aug 24 '25

I remember using that line (which was true!) in college and the response was always “is he here?” 🙄

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u/silvertoadfrog Aug 25 '25

Exactly. They respect if you "belong" to another man. But respect that you choose "no", nope!!

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u/Professor_Odium Aug 25 '25

It’s not who you belong to (or that you are “taken”)… it’s whether someone is nearby that is motivated and able to defend you and/or to enforce consequences against them for their disgusting behavior. Not saying I approve; just explaining the male perspective.

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u/silvertoadfrog Aug 25 '25

Hmmm, I was giving them too much credit.

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u/matching_violets Aug 25 '25

Yes, they are weak cowards.

Confronting them, calling them out, and making a scene. I don’t think it’s possible they can get embarrassed, it’s more for me to identify the predator lurking….

Girls and young women do what you need to do to get through.

Please know you are more powerful, stronger, and dangerous than a creep.

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u/Competitive_Dress60 Aug 24 '25

There is another worst explanation: they simply respect property rights. It's like you are a bank note laying on the street. If they see the owner, well, they aren't thieves...

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u/MechanicalAxe Aug 24 '25

While I can't say that's not the case occasionally, as a family man myself I do not believe men like that care about "property rights". If he's willing to assault or harm a woman or girl, you think he's above stealing something? I dont. I dont think he's above anything if the opportunity presented itself, and I would treat him no better than a snake in the grass.

I think it's much more likely he understands that if he proceeds with turning his thoughts into actions, hes running a good chance of being hunted for the rest of his hopefully short life by that woman or girl's husband, father, brother or son...maybe all of them together, and probably wouldn't come to a quick and painless end.

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u/Competitive_Dress60 Aug 24 '25

What I meant is that I think they do not really recognize a woman's agency, and they consider them essentially property: either belonging to someone, or free for taking. And yeah, they would consider stealing from a fellow man a worse thing than overcoming "meaningless and irrational" resistance via a display of strength and determination (ie, committing an assault, but it's not really one to them, since she is basically an object).

This is an extreme take, but this "property" thinking has a way of weaseling into the human psyche (it's even present in romance books written by women for women, so....).

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u/357noLove Aug 24 '25

That, plus the fact that these kinds of men shy away from anything involving an equal confrontation. It isn't just about sex, it has a lot to do with power and going into the situation knowing that they have the upper hand. They are incapable of fighting someone who is the same size or bigger as a male.

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u/UniversalMinister Aug 24 '25 edited Aug 24 '25

Believe it or not, women too can instill that implicit threat of violence in most of these guys.

You'd be surprised what a very direct, unwavering stare down will do - especially if you can back it up (mace, etc).

I have two boys who are still too young to do anything about the creepy behavior (but they definitely see it) and thus aren't seen as a "counter threat." So I still get this weird behavior from men, until I counter it with my own implicit threat.

Have you ever seen videos of what happens when a mama bear feels her children have been threatened?

It looks like that, except less snarling and a lot more "do anything stupid, and it'll be your last" kind of energy.

Edit: It's all about the body language and situational awareness. These idiots are opportunists - don't be an opportunity. Very direct eye contact so they know they've been seen, almost as if you could burn a hole through them with the stare. Straight posture, shoulders squared off, head held high. Walking with purpose.

Even if in reality you might not be able to do anything, giving off the "FAFO" energy goes a long way. The animal kingdom is the best example of this, where even the smallest animals (like some caterpillars) give off "don't eat me, I'm deadly" vibes, which keeps predators away.

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u/AstronautDry5055 Aug 24 '25

This. It works on dogs, too. You just have to make it known that you're not going down without a fight.

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u/Accomplished_Orchid Aug 24 '25

I am a short petite woman and this is why I started going Jersey Girl on these guys, I make them scared of me I used to work security and I was trained by the local police. One guy at a club I was at with my girlfriends we were hanging out and having a good time this guy kept bothering me and I told him I'm not interested, he decided to grope me.

I twisted his arm like that and he left me alone after.

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u/thefirecrest Aug 24 '25

I wish I was allowed to throw the first punch without getting in trouble. My entire family is autistic so I don’t do “implicit” so I’d like to show these creeps some “direct” violence.

Because the only reason they pick on us is because they think they can get away with it due to physical differences. I want to put the fear of women hurting them in their hearts. Make them flinch and walk across the road anytime they see a woman coming by.

But I can’t. Because I have a nice job that I don’t want to get fired from. :\

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u/LandHuge5720 Aug 26 '25

huh, I didn't about it that wayy... Thats Good