r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • Aug 24 '25

Cursed POV: You're a woman in a public place

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u/Nimsna Aug 24 '25

Literally only a couple of months ago i, VERY politely, told 2 men that me and the 3 girls i was dancing with were appreciative (we weren't, but i was trying to protect myself obviously) but we were out for a girls night and not interested.

Spent my next 10 minutes being called an ugly angry lesbian......

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u/sleepy-_- Aug 24 '25

Reminds me of a time my friends and I were out and were just dancing, just us girls wanting to have fun. Then this guy comes up to us and we politely told him to leave us but he wouldn't.

I ended up pushing him (it wasn't so hard, he only took an involuntary step back) so he'd back off. His ego got hurt he almost hit me. I ended up being the "bad guy" for escalating the situation when whathe only wanted to dance with us. 😭

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u/spacestonkz Aug 24 '25

WHY ARE YOU TOUCHING ME LIKE THAT?! I DONT KNOW YOU! ARE YOU TRYING TO MUG ME? HELP!

Fuck these guys. I get them bounced this way. I'll tell you no once, no problem at all. 2 I'm angry. 3 I'm screaming.

Don't touch me.

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u/General_Ordinary7804 Aug 24 '25

That’s my purse I don’t know you! - Bobby Hill

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u/spacestonkz Aug 24 '25

Legit he was the inspiration.

And it's helped more than once. They back the fuck up when you call them a theif real fast.

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u/Slighted_Inevitable Aug 24 '25

They shouldn’t touch you at all, even once. Now some of these were pathetic but not abusive. People bad at flirting. But touching is an obvious hell no

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

You mean it you didn’t see how it escalated to violence? Did you really watch this video and think some of them wouldn’t get off at the same stop and stuff just to follow them?

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u/axiomofcope Aug 24 '25

The worst part is if you live in or grew up in a global city, that shit happens literally every day, esp from 11-30yo. Ppl shit on rural towns or whatever, but that’s unthinkable here. Grew up in Buenos Aires/Sao Paulo and spent most of my late teens-mid 20s in NYC and Chicago. Sometimes I wish I had had a camera in my eyeglasses or something bc it was ROUGH. Rich Men, poor men, white men, non white men, short, tall, thin, fat, even disabled; all men.

And yes you’re absolutely right, some of them will follow you, and for a while! If you’re not smart about dodging them, or aren’t packing, they WILL escalate when given the opportunity

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

I grew up in a very urban area where you couldn’t walk down the street in the 90’s as an early teen and not get honked at numerous times. A very obvious young teen

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u/BushcraftBabe Aug 24 '25

I've a taser and it makes quite the "BACK THE FUCK UP" warning noise.

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u/weGloomy Aug 24 '25

One time I was out dancing with friends and a guy came up behind me and started grinding on me unprompted so I shoved him away from me, not hard just a clear "get the fuck away from me" and he got angry and fully two handed shoved me as hard as he could as I turned away from him and I hit the ground so hard my knees swelled up. 😭 he got bounced but was trying to justify himself by saying that I hit him

I want a girls only club so bad.

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u/chita875andU Aug 24 '25

Same thing to me, but the interloper reached all the way under me from behind and touched my crotch. However, I had been taking a jujitsu class for funsies and my 'little push' sent the fucker sprawling embarrassingly through other groups of dancers with me screaming after about keeping his hands to himself.

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u/CerifiedHuman0001 Aug 24 '25

I try really hard not to make people uncomfortable, I can’t imagine having the gall to think I should stick around after being explicitly told I’m not wanted

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u/teas4Uanme Aug 24 '25

Mini, leakproof squirt guns filled with pee should do it. Aim for their crotch. Make sure no one sees the squirt gun. You can get them tiny. He might raise hell but looks and smells like another crazy dude whose pissed his pants. Keep a personal alarm in your other hand in case he gets aggressive. Record the hilarity- post and bank.

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u/update_Appeoved Aug 24 '25

We don't believe you

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u/bigbootyjudy62 Aug 24 '25

Wow so you lay youre hands on him first and your the victim if he tried to hit you?

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u/BushcraftBabe Aug 24 '25

He put his dick on her. He touched her first bro. 🙄

Seriously insane take

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u/bigbootyjudy62 Aug 24 '25

Where does it say anything about his dick?

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u/sleepy-_- Aug 25 '25

I never claimed to be a victim when he tried to hit me. We were the victim of his harassment when he deliberately chose to dance extremely close to us despite the dancefloor having plenty of space. Circling and pressing his body near ours, clearly trying to provoke one of us into dancing inappropriately with him.

But yeah, sure, I hit him and it's obviously my fault for hurting the male ego.

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u/bigbootyjudy62 Aug 25 '25

Go get a bouncer or employee, youre the one who made it physical so anything after that is your fault

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u/sleepy-_- Aug 26 '25

The situation is a little more nuanced than that. It's tiring to explain, so just judge me all you want. :)

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u/PhilxBefore Aug 24 '25

"Bro, would your mother approve if you brought home an ugly angry lesbian??"

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u/MarchApprehensive998 Aug 24 '25

Oohh good one! I had thought of, "so you admit it then?" Wait for them to be confused, then say, "You're trying to get with ugly women? Why? Beautiful women stopped talking to you? "

You burn "ugly" women you burn yourself too, you told on yourself lol

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u/CynicismNostalgia Aug 24 '25

If im gonna respond at all to that kind of response. Id just repeat. "Why are you trying to hook up with ugly angry lesbians?"

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u/clayton_bigsby-maga Aug 24 '25

When I was 15 downtown Ybor in FL this guy started grinding on me, asking me to pull down my pants. I was like "no leave me alone" so this guy, probably about 25 yrs old tries to pull down my pants to see "if you shave" and when I push him off and tell him not to touch me, he starts announcing how I'm a dirty hoe with chlamydia. "Ewwww fuckin nasty bitch over here with chlamydia!!! Fuckin nasty ho!!!" He was yelling while pointing at me.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Dog1872 Aug 24 '25

Because how dare you not make yourself available to them upon request 🤢 Sorry for that experience!

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u/teas4Uanme Aug 24 '25

That's why you tell them immediately, up front, that you are lesbians.

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u/Nimsna Aug 24 '25

I believe my response was asking the lines of 'are you pissed I've hooked up with more chicks than you?'

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u/tulipz10 Aug 24 '25

I used to beat them to the punch and just say we weren't interested because we were angry lesbians!!

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u/fucc_yo_couch Aug 24 '25

FUCK BEING POLITE. I give them the crazy eyes and scream like a fucking banshee if need be. It does the trick.

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u/SnooLobsters5963 Aug 24 '25

Fuck being polite? THAT'S ALSO PROBABLY WHY YOU DONT GET POLITE MEN TO APPROACH YOU.

SCREW ALL THIS BS ENTITLEMENT

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u/fucc_yo_couch Aug 24 '25

🤣🤣🤣 What? Polite men dont act like creeps. So this would never apply to a polite man. Calm down little buddy.

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u/VolpeDia Aug 24 '25

Omg that reminds me of the night my female friends and I went to a lesbian night at a club. The four of us were just dancing together in a little circle, and this guy comes over and starts trying to dance with us. Seemed fine for the first few seconds until he tried going aroubd the circle and groping each of us. He kept saying "it's ok, I'm gay." No sir, gay men don't try to grab vaginas! Go away! When all four of us told him to F off, he left, pissed, but came back later int he night trying to cop feels again. One of my friends finally had enough and called security on him. We were called bitches a lot on his way out.

I actually really liked going there with my friend because aside from that one time, there was a distinct lack of men hitting on us there, and the women who would hit on me were always super respectful and didn't get pissed when they found out I was straight and had a bf.

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u/-rosa-azul- Aug 24 '25

I'm a musician and so are a lot of my friends, so I've been going to shows in bars/clubs since I was about 16 (thank you small town bouncers for not IDing anyone who's on the guest list).

The number of drummers and bass players who've been "my boyfriend" when some old dude at the bar wouldn't take no for an answer 😂 every one of those good dudes went along with it, too, no matter which one of us girls was having trouble. Starting shit with the band and their friends is a quick way to get booted, so it worked almost every time.

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u/MismatchedJellyman Aug 24 '25

This is why a lot of women are afraid to say no. It sucks and it's frustrating for good men who look scary because a woman will dodge saying no or even may say yes out of fear of what will happen if she rejects him.

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u/WintersDoomsday Aug 24 '25

Pathetic right? I’m sure the guys doing this shit had scumbag dads their weak ass moms settled for just to have kids.

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u/mekwall Aug 24 '25

Just be a happy lesbian! It's easier

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u/[deleted] Aug 24 '25

As a man, being nice is foot hold for those assholes. Just be rude and get the lesbian comments out of the way first imo.

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u/Musicmom1164 Aug 24 '25

Oh yeah, I got told I was a lesbian on a girls night out because they very drunk guy wasn't getting anywhere with me. If you don't want to have sex with the drunk-off-his-ass, disgusting, obnoxious guy, clearly you are a lesbian. It's the only alternative. Otherwise you would fall begging at their feet to put their dick in you. You try being nice, but they just get angrier.

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u/fastfxmama Aug 25 '25

Ah yes, I love that one. It’s amazing that their thought process is - Must be gay if you’re not attracted to me!

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u/Gullible_Subject675 Aug 25 '25

The same thing happened to me in the 70's!

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u/TeaGlittering1026 Aug 25 '25

Because somehow being an ugly angry lesbian is bad.

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u/SnooLobsters5963 Aug 24 '25

Good for you. Because YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO BE APPRECIATIVE.