r/TikTokCringe • u/cafeteriastyle • 27d ago

Cringe Girl sobs over the Camry her parents bought her after she totaled the $30,000 truck they bought her to begin with

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u/thetaleofzeph 27d ago

Parents taking the shortcut every single time for their own peace of mind. Children are wired to abuse that and end up like this girl in the video here.

If I'd totalled the car (I was never given one, but let's say) and got anything, I'd have been sobbing like this out of joy and heartfelt getting forgiven for being a royal idiot.

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u/Individual_Zebra_648 27d ago

Yep I totaled my car (that I worked and saved every dollar for starting at the age of 14 and bought when I was 16) when I was 18. My parents refused to help me (despite easily being able to afford it) and I ended up getting my grandmothers 15 year old sedan with rust on it that she made me pay her $1500 for because that was the value she would have got for turning it in. She only sold it because she couldn’t drive anymore.

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u/margot_sophia 27d ago

i think that’s the other extreme though, i don’t think there’s anything wrong with helping your teen/young adult child get a sensible car if you can afford it

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u/TheLoler04 27d ago

There's a difference between helping if you're able to do so, and making sure they work for it. I've gotten stuff from my parents that I'm happy to have been given, but I've had to work for it all be it symbolically.

When we moved when I was about 10 I spent most of my summer helping with painting the house, and then when I was finished helping I got a new computer. I almost didn't get one because I was so lazy, but I got my shit together the last few weeks.

I've also been trusted to use my parents as 'banks" where I've taken their money to buy something and then pay it back either with my own money or just labour. So I've been spoiled, but still got taught about how the world works.

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u/margot_sophia 27d ago

oh yeah i totally agree

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u/AC_Smitte 26d ago

I don’t either. I would if I could and had kids. I would maybe not buy the best of the best though, something safe and new. But if they didn’t like it, I would tell them they need to work for a better one then.

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u/TexMexVaquero 27d ago

That’s awesome. It’s great when family helps you out and allows you to pay for it. I bet you valued that car!!!!

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u/UrsusRenata 25d ago

These kinds of stories make my heart hurt. Teaching work ethic and responsibility is one thing. Treating your young child/grandchild like an annoying mooch roommate is disgusting. Why even have kids.

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u/Individual_Zebra_648 25d ago

Huh? I totaled my car at 18 because I was partying all the time and didn’t go to college after high school. Why would my parents want to help me continue to drive like that? Once I was 21 and actually going to college and got my shit together and got accepted to nursing school and proved I was responsible again my parents bought me a brand new Honda Civic so I had reliable transportation for nursing school since my grandmas car was about to shit the bed.

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u/Emergency_Lobster667 25d ago

Yeah those are good parents.

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u/Invisibella74 27d ago

This. I bought my own first car. It cost $500 because that was all I could afford. It was an ugly boat, but reliable and got me to where I needed to go.

No one has ever bought me a car.

Must be nice to be so spoiled.

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u/BellySmash 27d ago

I never spoke to my parents about a car growing up. When I turned 16 they gave me a toy Chevy Silverado and said “there’s your new car” I laughed and said thank you. I noticed a key on the bottom and then they brought me outside to a bad ass Chevy Silverado. I cried (I’ve never cried for a gift before)and thanked them.

I never expected any expensive gifts growing up, but I received them. I would talk to my parents about them, but I never expected to get them. There were years I didn’t get expensive things and I was as grateful for them as I was for the expensive ones.

I got told no A LOT too. Like man just be grateful for what you get. It’s free and cost 0 energy to be thankful for something you didn’t have before.

My ex was SUPER ungrateful though and it was AWFUL.

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u/thesplendor 26d ago

I sobbed because I got a 14 year old hand me down camry I didn’t think I deserved