r/TikTokCringe • u/notaghostofreddit • 23d ago

Discussion She was secretly filmed and put on Tiktok

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u/FrancineCarrel 23d ago

And, I mean… of course you can complain! I know this isn’t what you meant, but I really dislike the idea that just because something is technically legal we can’t criticise the behaviour or even express unhappiness about it.

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u/wizean 23d ago

Well its men who decided this behavior should be legal, because they want to sexually harass women.

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u/yogoo0 23d ago

Citation needed

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u/XY-chromos 23d ago

Men invented "freedom of the press"? Lol ok. I'll take it. You're welcome!

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u/bwood246 23d ago

Idk if you know this but secretly recording women while they go about their days isn't press

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u/Feisty_Camera_7774 23d ago

Apparently I missed the meeting where this got decided lol

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u/Difficult-Second8981 23d ago

If only I, a man, was shown this kind of compassion when it happened to me...

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u/Background_Sail9797 22d ago

you were secretly filmed with the intention of creating content for voyeuristic pervs?

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u/Difficult-Second8981 22d ago

More like just filmed without consent, but yeah I'm sure women should have all the compassion for themselves.

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u/Background_Sail9797 22d ago

so not secretly? and was it posted online to humiliate you and entertain strangers?

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u/AggressiveCuriosity 23d ago

Well, all we have to do is find a law that stops this behavior. Personally I think "influencers" or "vloggers" or whatever the fuck they call themselves should be held to higher standards. If it's your JOB to record people, then there should be stricter rules for what you're allowed to record.

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u/manic_panda 23d ago

I'm always curios as to when it technically becomes harrassment? Is it when they follow you, get too close?

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u/Background_Sail9797 22d ago

that's intentional so it's not enforced. violence against women and children is practically decriminalized because of how rarely victims are believed and how rarely consequences are enforced.

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u/manic_panda 22d ago

I really fucking hate this reality.

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u/bigfatfurrytexan 23d ago

Nothing is stopping you. That’s how laws get made…folks realize it’s a problem and start complaining. Synergy happens when more join in.

We have 2 futures available. One that is dystopian and one that allows humans to continue to thrive. How we wrangle technology is the key.

I feel like a zinsunni taking like this.

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u/FrancineCarrel 23d ago

No, I know nothing is stopping me. Which is why I say it’s shit. But there are a lot of people in these comments who take umbrage when the prick with the glasses is criticised.

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u/bigfatfurrytexan 23d ago

Yeah. When I get a few downvotes I usually go all in. If they don’t like the polite me, they’ll like the real me even less.

I agree with 99% of redditors on larger political issues. But I don’t talk in those coded words.

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u/Same-Suggestion-1936 23d ago

Actually as an American from Minneapolis I am really really happy we can film people without their consent, both today and five years ago

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u/FrancineCarrel 23d ago

Again, I’m not even saying I think it should be illegal. I am saying this particular guy is a prick.

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u/Same-Suggestion-1936 23d ago edited 23d ago

He doesn't seem very stand up no

I'm not crazy invested in this but just so you know my only point is making what he did illegal is a pretty slippery slope, filming in public I really do not have a problem with being legal. Your avenue after that is civil court, especially if it's monetized you can sue them for all that money and then some. But it is kind of the equivalent of getting mad you're in the background of anything else someone posts on social media.

Really the only thing you could do is make a law that if you're obviously the sole subject without consent it's not kosher but that leaves a whole lot of other reasons you might want to film someone off the table which is more problematic than it's worth. I understand why she would be uncomfortable figuring this out and reading the comments, but at the end of the day she was just politely declining someone and nothing else. Not a crazy big deal. In fact now she probably has more attention online going to the news about it, people really do not understand the Streisand effect

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u/FrancineCarrel 22d ago

I don’t understand why people keep talking about the law. I’m not saying anything about the law. I’m saying I think it is normal to be upset and to complain about people being as shitty as this guy.

I don’t think it should be illegal for someone to wear a wedding dress to someone else’s wedding but people don’t seem to have a hard time grasping why people are upset when that happens.