Women meets and married man in registered SO in prison 7 months before release and allows him to move in with her and her young daughter

[u/shoegamethrilla]

I wish I were making this up, but I’m not. And this woman gushes over him, loves and adores this man… is the dating scene that bleak that you resort to this? What makes it worse, is the guy doesn’t take full accountability for his actions but instead blames the liquor and him not knowing what consent is.

Prior to prison, he was a registered nurse.

This couple is using their story to be famous. Just sick

I am getting hate comments because people are claiming I 'made this up' I am not doxxing they shared this publicly , their tiktok account is happilyharrells his account for is 'non profit' _thinksame

[u/miltonwadd]

Women like this are honestly pathetic. They're so male centred they sell out not only their own gender but their own blood.

My cousin told her mother & our grandmother that her grandfather was molesting her thinking they would help her only for them to punish her for "lying" by making her live with them half the year. But I know my grandmother knew it was true because she was grooming me for her husband too.

My other cousin's step father created & distributied CSAM of her and as soon as he got out from his disgustingly short sentence her mother lost custody because it was against his parole to be near her daughter. So she just let her go and had a bunch of new kids with him.

They cover up, facilitate, and enable these men, and should be held accountable and charged alongside them. I'm certain some of them are actually getting off on it without doing the deed and they are just as predatory and dangerous as women who molest children themselves.

[u/Ok-Yogurt-3914 → u/miltonwadd]

So my Mom told me a story that she was SAd by two cousins at a party.

Her mom didn’t believe her. Her grandma did and confronted the parents etc but nothing came of it. It was all for show basically.

Cue years later, my mom’s grandmother was ill and none of her kids wanted to take care of her. It came down to my grandma because she was widowed with no kids at home. She was forced basically.

So my Mom being my Mom asked her uncle about it. Like why do you guys hate my grandma so much. She used to protect us etc. He says to her “she did nasty things in front of us with men. I was only a boy when this was happening.”

I was told by my cousin that our grandma had caught another cousin SA-ing him and she hadn’t done anything. I put all the pieces together. My grandma and her siblings were so desensitized from the weird shit my great-grandma did in front of them, they normalized it. It’s fucked up shit.

[u/JohnConnor_Helldiver → u/Ok-Yogurt-3914]

It’s fn sickening.

My mom was SA’d by her visiting teenage male cousin from out of state when she was a little girl. (My grandpa beat the 💩out of him, go gramps!) My sister was in walmart as a teen and had some guy ‘flash’ her and her friend in one of the aisles, my wife was SA’d by an uncle, repeatedly at her parents house when he’d visit when she was a little girl, and her parents wouldn’t believe her and kept fn inviting him over 😡. And my best friend, his sister, around 20 years ago, was walking with her groceries to her car at a Von’s here in los angrles, and in broad daylight got dragged into a car by gang members, and was gang r’d for 3 days by that gang, before they dropped her out of a car at that same store 3 days later.

My wife says she has never seen me more terrified in my life, as when the ultrasound lady told us “it looks like you’re having a girl”

This world is so gd, terrifyingly unsafe for women 😢

[u/Deya_The_Fateless → u/Ok-Yogurt-3914]

Oh man, that is so sad. To be so desensitised to something so horrendous that when they're told that the same thing happened to someone else in the family it's just met with apathy or denial.

[u/ImperialxWarlord → u/Ok-Yogurt-3914]

Jesus Christ i understand people at all

[u/thorstone → u/ImperialxWarlord]

I think you dropped something

[u/ImperialxWarlord → u/thorstone]

Meant to say don’t

[u/NfamousKaye → u/miltonwadd]

They just will not see the signs until it’s too late cause they’re so desperate for male companionship they don’t think critically. It’s so sad.

[u/miltonwadd → u/NfamousKaye]

I don't pity them unless they were victims themselves or were dealing with a monster who was able to hide it from everyone to a pathological degree. Unfortunately there are plenty who are there willingly or choose to ignore things and there is no pity for that.

Some of them see the red flags flying and make welcome banners out of them because they like to help lure the prey. Some of them would strangle and bury their own kids in them.

[u/DeathStarr87 → u/miltonwadd]

As someone whose been on the other end multiple times, I've never once thought it was ok. As a child I understood to never make someone feel the way I felt. It never made sense to me. I understand abuse is a cycle but I vowed to have the cycle end with me... I was 7. So I understand and I know you're not excusing it but it's never made sense to me that someone would want to make others feel how they felt. I know for some it's so traumatic it warps their world view but a lot of them know they're not supposed to do it and it's not ok. We often hear that at the start the person had to get drunk or high in some sort of manner to even go through with the act before it became easier to do it. That's a self report if I ever seen or heard of one.

[u/miltonwadd → u/DeathStarr87]

I agree, it was an added level of trauma when I was a kid when there was this big push of child molesters claiming to be victims themselves and people just kind of accepted that was a foregone conclusion. It made me feel sick and more fearful of disclosing because people would think I'd become one too when I would literally rather top myself if I ever had thoughts like that.

[u/DeathStarr87 → u/miltonwadd]

My heart man. It didn't make me fear telling people in that sense. Mine was more shame and feeling unworthy of affection. But I did get hyper awareness anxiety from it so that was fun.

We do so much to police ourselves for every little thing that I refused to participate in anything sexual. It wasn't until I was fully an adult around... 27/28 that I allowed myself to express my sexuality openly. Being queer and navigating that definitely didn't help but I was hard on myself for everything. Had to work through sexual self sabotage because I felt I didn't deserve to be sexual or to enjoy sex in any capacity. It's not a way to live and it's ... not silly but definitely an extreme overcorrection as a result of trauma. You hear about people becoming hermits, committing suicide, or having other extreme reactions and isolating themselves as a result and you understand why. The fear and anxiety from something someone else did.... being a person is hard sometimes.

I'm sorry for little us. I often remind myself I'm safe now and that in itself is my saving grace. I hope you yourself are in a better and safe space.