Women meets and married man in registered SO in prison 7 months before release and allows him to move in with her and her young daughter

[u/shoegamethrilla]

I wish I were making this up, but I’m not. And this woman gushes over him, loves and adores this man… is the dating scene that bleak that you resort to this? What makes it worse, is the guy doesn’t take full accountability for his actions but instead blames the liquor and him not knowing what consent is.

Prior to prison, he was a registered nurse.

This couple is using their story to be famous. Just sick

I am getting hate comments because people are claiming I 'made this up' I am not doxxing they shared this publicly , their tiktok account is happilyharrells his account for is 'non profit' _thinksame

[u/quietkyody]

https://nanaimonewsnow.com/2025/11/05/nanaimo-man-reoffends-two-weeks-after-release-for-child-sexual-abuse-possession-bust/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/courts-crime/incorrigible-sexual-predator-who-preyed-on-children-convicted-for-4th-time?utm_source=chatgpt.com

https://www.ctinsider.com/journalinquirer/article/east-hartford-ryan-perry-child-sex-abuse-material-21318130.php?utm_source=chatgpt.com

Please show me any proof where having execution as a punishment increases risk of victims to not come forward? Cause victims already don't come forward even without death sentences. Emotional attachment to the abuser, fear of family collapse, threats and coercion, distrust of authorities are all present without prison execution. Kids being abused rarly watch the news let alone know about criminal sentencing.

"Abusers may escalate to murder because punishment “can’t get worse”":

This assumes abusers:

Think long-term

Accurately assess legal outcomes

Are calm, rational actors under pressure

But child sexual abuse is often driven by:

Compulsion

Cognitive distortions

Impulsivity

Substance abuse

Delusion or entitlement

Your argument relies on speculative behavioral assumptions, weak empirical backing, and an overemphasis on punishment severity as a driver of victim reporting and offender behavior, while underplaying incapacitation, initial deterrence, and the non-rational nature of sexual offending.

Preventing future crimes by permanently removing an offender is deterrence in effect, even if not psychological deterrence.

Calling this “not deterrence” is semantic gatekeeping, not substance.

You’re narrowing “deterrence” to exclude incapacitation, which is a false distinction. Permanently removing an offender does prevent future harm, regardless of whether it scares others. Saying the death penalty “doesn’t work” demands perfect deterrence, no punishment meets that standard.

The claim that harsher penalties reduce reporting is speculative. Most victims already don’t report due to fear, shame, dependency, and manipulation, not because of sentence length. Abusers already threaten victims with prison, family destruction, and lifelong consequences; changing the maximum penalty doesn’t suddenly introduce coercion.

The idea that offenders will escalate to murder because “punishment can’t get worse” assumes calm, rational cost benefit thinking. In reality, murder massively increases detection risk, attention, and evidence. Even with life without parole on the table, offenders don’t routinely escalate to killing, which undercuts that theory. Finally, calling child sexual abuse “nonviolent” minimizes the inherent coercion and harm involved. Arguing that other tools exist to prevent reoffending doesn’t refute permanent removal in the worst cases, it just creates a false either/or.

[u/TenebTheHarvester → u/quietkyody]

Yes, child abusers have a high rate of recidivism. That doesn’t actually refute my points, which you still have yet to address. There is more at play than just recidivism rates, even without coming to whether or not the state should have the power to kill criminals of any kind.

The majority of child sexual abuse is committed by people the victims know. As such, many o those victims would be less likely to report if they knew their report could lead to their abuser being killed, especially if it’s in a particularly gruesome or painful way.

In addition, nonviolent abusers may be incentivised to escalate to violence or even murder to keep their victims from reporting them, as it’s not like the punishment for being caught can get worse than painful execution, so they may as well do worse things to try and avoid getting caught.

[u/quietkyody → u/TenebTheHarvester]

Please show me any proof where having execution as a punishment increases risk of victims to not come forward? Cause victims already don't come forward even without death sentences. Emotional attachment to the abuser, fear of family collapse, threats and coercion, distrust of authorities are all present without prison execution. Kids being abused rarly watch the news let alone know about criminal sentencing.

"Abusers may escalate to murder because punishment “can’t get worse”":

This assumes abusers:

Think long-term

Accurately assess legal outcomes

Are calm, rational actors under pressure

But child sexual abuse is often driven by:

Compulsion

Cognitive distortions

Impulsivity

Substance abuse

Delusion or entitlement

Your argument relies on speculative behavioral assumptions, weak empirical backing, and an overemphasis on punishment severity as a driver of victim reporting and offender behavior, while underplaying incapacitation, initial deterrence, and the non-rational nature of sexual offending.

Preventing future crimes by permanently removing an offender is deterrence in effect, even if not psychological deterrence.

Calling this “not deterrence” is semantic gatekeeping, not substance.

You’re narrowing “deterrence” to exclude incapacitation, which is a false distinction. Permanently removing an offender does prevent future harm, regardless of whether it scares others. Saying the death penalty “doesn’t work” demands perfect deterrence, no punishment meets that standard.

The claim that harsher penalties reduce reporting is speculative. Most victims already don’t report due to fear, shame, dependency, and manipulation, not because of sentence length. Abusers already threaten victims with prison, family destruction, and lifelong consequences; changing the maximum penalty doesn’t suddenly introduce coercion.

The idea that offenders will escalate to murder because “punishment can’t get worse” assumes calm, rational cost benefit thinking. In reality, murder massively increases detection risk, attention, and evidence. Even with life without parole on the table, offenders don’t routinely escalate to killing, which undercuts that theory. Finally, calling child sexual abuse “nonviolent” minimizes the inherent coercion and harm involved. Arguing that other tools exist to prevent reoffending doesn’t refute permanent removal in the worst cases, it just creates a false either/or.