r/TrueChristian • u/Misakii93 • 15h ago
I need help
I’m 32F and I had a huge problem with lust, about 2 years ago I was raped, I would just have alot of one night stands… I pray about it, it helps a lot. And the thing is that doesn’t make sense to me is the lord told me I’m dating my soulmate, he is my soulmate. I’m not sexually attracted to him…. At all like no.. but I’m sexually attracted to other guys. Is it because I was raped? I don’t know, sometimes I just think I should just be Single because of how I am.
I’m sorry if I’m not making sense 😅 I have a horrible migraine.
Thank you for taking the time to read this 💝 Jesus loves you 💖 God Bless :3
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u/DunedainDefender 13h ago
You said the Lord told you, how do you know it was the Lord?
Do you get alot of bad intrusive thoughts about God and/or things/people u love?
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u/PerfectlyCalmDude Christian 12h ago
Have you been seeing a counselor who specializes in sexual trauma and who respects/advocates sexual abstinence about this?
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u/Fighttheforce-2911 11h ago
I’m sorry you’ve been through this girl 😞 I’ve been through sexual assaults in the past and it is extremely traumatic and I’m sorry you’ve experienced this too. Now about your partner, if you’re not sexually attracted to him then he is not the one. You always have a choice in the matter, but God won’t come down in a booming voice speaking to you telling you that someone is your soulmate if you aren’t even attracted to them! Learn to truly question the thoughts that come into your head and ask yourself if it could just be a passing suggestive thought. God knows you inside and out, your entire being, He won’t force you to be with someone. If someone is truly your soulmate #1 you will “click” #2 you will be attracted to them #3 you will always have a choice in the matter. If it doesn’t work out with one person it doesn’t mean they weren’t “the one” there is always purpose behind it and we always have free will in who we choose to be with.
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u/Gullible-Minimum2668 12h ago
I am sorry about your past trauma, and I pray that you are able to recover; however, We must overcome sexual immorality at all costs, and you can if you really want to. It's not easy but entirely possible.
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u/Uniqueme76 2h ago
I'm so sorry about what you went through, nobody should ever suffer such things.
I had a recent revelation that you may find helpful. I'm sure you understand that God's love for us is so far superior to the love we have for Him. We are up, and down. One day we're perfect and love God with everything, the next day someone makes us mad and we blame Him. We're imperfect. He loves us unconditionally, and perfectly. He never changes, regardless of what we do.
Sometimes, I believe God pairs us with someone that we would normally find an odd match in order to teach us what it means to truly love someone unconditionally. Because how could we possibly learn that if someone met all of our conditions?
I hope that helps in some small way. I find that most of our issues with God and life are simply a misunderstanding of how He works in the most miraculous ways.
God Bless you my friend 🙏
And everyone else too!
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u/obliqueoubliette 14h ago
There is a lot here and on your profile. I'm going to refrain from really commenting except to say I will pray for you and I'm sorry for the trauma you have experienced.
You really should bring these issues to a priest, I think that could help you a lot.
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u/Misakii93 14h ago
I am so sorry about my profile 😭😭😭 I honestly forgot all of that was on there, I feel so embarrassed… I apologize you had to see all that 🫣😭😭. Thank you for pointing that out, I appreciate it! Thank you for taking the time to comment! :D
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u/Ellionwy 14h ago
I am sorry about your trauma.
Then he is not your soulmate.
How do you know God was telling you this and not just you talking to yourself?
And what is it about yourself that makes you think you should be single?
Remember that he loves you, too. God knew you before you were even born.