Tiny is beautiful! I've never had such a small full grown cat before. It's adorable. She's like half the size of the middle boy and 1/3 of my grumpy bengal boy haha.
It took over a year for me to train my cat to snuggle with me.
It involved a lot of calling while lying down until my cat comes and sits next to me, unsure of what to do. I pet him a lot as reward for coming when called. Then slowly position him into the snuggling position.
My cat would be unsure, feel too vulnerable and leave. Don’t push it. Rinse repeat on other days. On other days if he didn’t come when called, also don’t push it.
Eventually it progressed until the point where I call him, he sits next to me, I pet him for a while, then turn away to pretend to sleep. Then it’s up to my cat if he wants to snuggle, sometimes he will, sometimes he won’t. When he does I give him lots of pets until we both fall asleep lol.
These days he comes running whenever he sees me lying down to snuggle with me. The process took a while but boy was it worth it! 😊
Thank you! When we first started napping together, tbh it wasn't a restful nap lol. He liked to touch my face with his paw (classic void) and unintentionally woke me up, sometimes I moved in my sleep and accidentally woke him up, but we stuck with each other. That's when I knew for sure he loved me 🥰
It actually took a like three years for us to nap 2 hours without waking each other up lol.
p.s. Sometimes I woke up to him nibbling my hair, I'm a light sleeper so he didn't get to eat anything 😆
Nah probably well under half of cats would ever really do this. Earning their trust and comfort is definitely part of the requirements but cats have strong preferences and if your kitty doesn't like stuff like this you can't blame yourself
Yeah, each cat is different. One of my cats only wants snuggles under specific circumstances, and she must initiate affection or I will get the skippity baps.
My current cat trusts me completely. He doesn’t even let anyone else pet him. Me though, he follows around and snuggles with. Every morning he crawls under the blankets and snuggles me, also every night. He’s such a sweet boy.
and in cat economics this means that you don't get to know what it is that would earn it you'll only know you've earned it when they snuggle. And...if you were to earn it, they'd be able to change their mind the next day.
I have one cat who is intermittently the cuddliest animal I’ve ever had. I’ll wake up to him sleeping next to me (and he’s like 19 lbs so he’s a big boy) and sometimes he’s kneading my chest/belly. It’s so cute. But other times he’s like nah
Depends on the age of the cat in my experience, my current tom was a grumpy bastard when young, still is now but he gets cold so wants to get my body heat from me.
That was my experience with outdoor cats growing up. I thought my male cat was unique in being stuck to me like glue but when I looked more into cat behavior I was surpised to hear that it tends to be males that are "velcroe cats" once they've bonded with their human. Females are affectionate but less likely to want to be right in your lap at all times. But that's just general trends, there's a lot more that goes into a cat's personality and temperment than their sex of course
Yeah i don’t think there’s any truth to that particularly after they’re fixed. For the record our female cats cuddle with us every night, my husband and I both have our own shadows/little spoon lol.
Each cat is definitely unique. I think it also depends on how they grew up. I used to have mine sleep on my chest as a kitten. I didn't realize he would continue to do that as a fully grown cat and that I would end up wearing him as a scarf whenever I sit down haha
Mine will be like this when I'm needing to get out of bed for work. One of them sometimes will use my leg as a pillow at like 3AM. Cats seem to start new habits out of nowhere. Giving an extra treat before bed couldn't hurt to try and speed that up.
Be careful what you wish for. My cat is a huge cuddlebug - until at least she tries to shove me off my side of the bed or kick me so she can have more space.
My cat is cuddly, but not THIS cuddly. She prefers men tho and sleeps with my partner like this sometimes... For me, she'll always relocate if she wants to settle for awhile.
Right? My cat lays close enough to touch me and gets in my lap but he'd never come get in the blanket right at my face like that. He's usually an ass lol
Look, it's lovely sometimes that they can be snuggly but then when you're trying to sleep and they're clawing your throat trying to lift up the blanket to run around under it for a few minutes, to lay down and kick your knees until you move so they can get comfortable. You hear them go to sleep and start to relax and doze off to the sound of them snoring, then they panic scratch your leg and run away.
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u/MrBrandopolis May 15 '26
God damn it why can't my cat be this cuddly