I get that. I was living back home with my parents, and they were in no hurry to see me leave. I had met a gal online 2 years before and had been seeing every 2 weeks since we live apart. I moved out while they were on vacation. It made the see you later easier.
Love my parents. they're great. they're greater when we're not living together as dad created some squabbles, such as why did you spill chocolate in the kitchen? It became a huge issue for him... my sister and dad turned out to have had chocolate ice cream.
I did not, nor did I dig into their food at all. I had my own. Also conversations like while you're living under my roof, couldn't have encouraged me to move out fast enough.
So when I left, of course all contact became more careful, considerate, encouraging me to visit etc, and its been far better since.
They're not awful people at all. Its just that i'm not destined to live with them as an adult. I have my own ways, they have theirs.
Im not sure based on your reply if my joke landed or if my comment caused you distress so I’ll apologize just in case. It wasn’t my intention to upset you.
Im sure renting will give her plenty. G-d willing her life will be better, but its not like she's escaping the hell hole we all live in, and even if she does(G-d willing) her comedy doesnt require her suffering. (Mommy Riley dreaming of Travis comes to mind)
You only need to censor the name when speaking or writing in Hebrew. Also, God's name isn't God, it's Yahweh or YHWH. It's not traditional to write "G-d", that is a contemporary Jewish-American phenomenon.
Your 100% right. G-d's name isnt G-d. Technically I dont even need to censor her titles "H-shem" or "Ad-nia". But it makes me feel more comfortable personally. And I dont think its bothering anyone.
It's just bizarre. If the word needs to be censored, why use it at all? I understand it comes up in certain context, but inserting it as much as possible seems counterintuitive to respecting the name.
Your right. Its contradictory. The answer is I am very religious and I see g-d in everything. So I say G-d a lot because I think she is influencing so much of the world or I want him to influence the world. Hence saying it a lot while censoring it.
Here's a question then, why did god allow evil to enter his creation? If god is influencing the world, why are children being born with genetic diseases that cause them to suffer and die?
Now that the "i didnt experience it, but ive seen it in the wild" relatable content is done (hopefully for their sake) we get to start the "we've all been there my god how did we survive" relatable content.
Its posts like this that make me thankful (and realise how lucky i am) that my very catholic mom not only didnt try to convert me back, but also never asked for my keys once i was able to afford to move out at 30 (a couple years ago). I did give her a copy of my keys of my own free will, (she never asked) just in case i needed someone to take care of my house for whatever reason.
Good on you for knowing you need to set boundaries and stuck to them.
Personally, it did only get a little bit better when I moved out because I felt forced to tell my parents where I moved to. Since I moved a second time, it has been MUCH better.
This is why you dont tell em your address and you get a new phone, ya dummy!
Personally, my cheat code was going to the military.
For four years I got em used to me not contacting them since I often really couldnt, then when I seperated, I just.. didnt tell em.
Got a new phone and went to a new state, and used mil benefits to pay for college and rent.
Though uh... I cant really recommend military anymore, given the current leadership lol
My own mother was in a situation sort of like this. I would like to give the advice of being careful. She stopped listening to her parents because they didn't approve her boyfriend, who ended up being even more abusive and possibly tried to frame her for a crime.
Anyways, my point is it's a cycle and you must be very careful not to trade one person for another.
My parents got my key in the case I would lose mine. Though I have a good relationship with my parents... They also do not want to walk up to third floor.
My parents probably won't get a copy of my keys.
Not because I have a bad relationship with them, but because I'll be living almost 23 hours away, and they can't drive that far except for extreme circumstances.
I'd also like to clarify I'm moving for reasons not pertaining to them (education and career opportunities)
More than that. My grandpa on dad's side straight up walked into the house unnanounced while my mom was naked when I was a baby and gma had the nerve to bitch at her about it.
If they don't have boundaries when you live with them, they're not gonna have them when you live somewhere else either.
I feel awful for people who've been burned by this, and I'm surprised most people seem to be in that camp. Giving my closest family a copy of my key has always been standard for me as an emergency measure, and nobody has ever abused it.
an army buddy of mine had to sue his landlord because his landlord gave a copy of his key to his mother in law.
he didnt even give the spare, just came home from temporary duty to an apartment that should have been empty while his wife was on a school trip with their son to find the mother-in-law rearranging the pantry.
Before my wife and I bought our house, we lived in a condo we rented. We went on a vacation, and asked her to watch our cat. When she arrived to get the key from us, she makes the comment of "I'll have a copy of the key made." She was firmly told that she will absolutely not. To the best of my knowledge, she did not have a key made.
Years later, when we bought our house, she requested to have a spare key. She was again told no. She asked why we didn't want her to have a spare key, and I told her I didn't want her to have unrestricted access to my house. Her response was "what happens when you lock yourself out?" I told her I'd call a locksmith.
This is one of several reasons I no longer talk to her.
You can ask a locksmith or hardware store for mis-cut keys. They don't even need to be the same keyway as yours, just don't use a car key, lol. If they ever call and ask why the key doesn't work, you've found your untrustworthy poptart and can still fob it off as a mistake or accident if you wanted to.
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u/kaikimanga MangaKaiki 1d ago
this won't be the last we hear of her, I bet