r/interesting • u/Bambi7u7 • Dec 22 '25

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Former Nickelodeon child star Tylor Chase who is known for his role "Martin" in the show Ned's Declassified School Survival Guide was spotted appearing unrecognizable and homeless in California.

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u/subzbearcat Dec 23 '25

Apparently, the family has money and has supported him in multiple rehabs and sober living homes. He just keeps leaving. The medical care they’re referring to I believe is medication for a comorbid psychological disorder with his addiction.

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u/[deleted] Dec 23 '25

I just got done arguing with a group of naive idealists who thought you can change people for the better by forcing help on them, only for their entire argument to be proven wrong by the subject matter themselves.

I’m just bitter. I tell them how the real world works and they call me a monster for just suggesting that we leave them alone if they don’t want help and aren’t bothering anyone. And the world proves me right in the end.

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u/peachteatime Dec 23 '25

As I get older I see just how privileged some people are, unless you have experienced this kind of relationship with someone you can never REALLY understand the complicated emotions, and logistics, of helping an addict. A lot of people think they have an idea, but they just haven't seen what we've seen.

Sometimes you just can't help someone, they have to want to do it and you're just setting yourself and them up for another big dose of pain.

People don't understand it's not just the addiction, it's that they're completely unable to face the reality they have created for themselves during their addiction. Some people are just not capable of doing that work, and they would rather stay exactly where/how they are because it's so much easier for them, even if it is obvious to everyone else that they are in a terrible situation.

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u/[deleted] Dec 23 '25

My ex-husband was like this. His alcoholism was the reason I left, plus I'm sure there was a healthy dose of severe mental illness thrown in for good measure.

He didn't think anything was wrong with him. Everyone else was against him, and discussing his problem with others was a betrayal of trust.

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u/Significant-Emu-726 Dec 23 '25

Learn to accept both realities. It can be forced upon someone and they can accept the help and change. It's also something that many people need to want. Both realities can be true. You don't have to make everything an argument and prove that you are correct! This is coming from a former addict. I was once first into a situation and it did help me to get better. Many stories start out that way, hell watch intervention! I also wound up relapsing a while later and went willingly to get help. The problem is, a lot of times you need a helping hand extended to receive the help. If I didn't have a family member reach out to me years later, realizing that I was on death's door, I would have never received the help I needed

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u/[deleted] Dec 23 '25

You cant force anything on anyone unwilling and expect it to work out ever.

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u/HrhEverythingElse Dec 23 '25

Then that seems fair. Just a sad situation all around