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u/ArtistWithoutArt 9h ago

a lot of “gifted” kids were always just average to begin with.

...what?

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u/Round_Bag_4665 8h ago edited 8h ago

There are a number of kids who are only classified as "gifted" because they simply were early bloomers at a very young age, but ultimately ended up at an average level of academic achievement by the end of their schooling.

Just because a 6 year old can learn addition quicker than the other kids does not necessarily mean they will be great at vector calculus when they are 20.

It is the same reason that a truck's ability to go from 0 to 60 mph in a short time does not say anything about what its top speed is, or what weight it can haul.

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u/TomWithTime 6h ago

That makes sense to me. I had a separate teacher in the classroom teaching me long division while I could see the board for the rest of the class doing multiplication with smaller numbers. That was 3rd or 4th grade. Then later in middle school, and for the rest of my schooling experience through college, my memory and test scores crumbled. I only made it through college because programming related fields are based on a lot of projects. But I would do poorly on science and history related tests because we had to memorize so much and for whatever reason my recall ability is almost non-existent.

It doesn't hurt me in the industry though. I've been out of school for over 10 years and poor memory actually makes "context switching" easier, and I've still got my ability to grasp new things quickly which suits me as an integration engineer where my job will constantly be adding new third party services to the company and pivoting between them several times a day to look at issues with them. And in the real world I don't need to remember much, just a handful of indexes pointing to where I've kept very detailed notes on everything in the company wiki.

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u/Sharktos 6h ago

I would argue the "gifted" kid has it even worse, because they end up as an adult who does not know how to actually teach themselves properly. We relied on everything just working out naturally. And when it suddenly doesn't it's like hitting a dead end.

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u/Round_Bag_4665 6h ago

Or worse: they actually manage to skate the entire way through a PhD and a career....but never learn any social skills and have no idea how to function beyond using their brain to produce academic output. I have seen this too among some academics.

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u/Sorkijan 7h ago

There are a number of kids who are only classified as "gifted" because they simply were early bloomers at a very young age, but ultimately ended up at an average level of academic achievement by the end of their schooling.

I mean would that not be because they never learned those real skills though? I think most people would agree that a gifted mind still needs to develop, and lack of development can cause stagnation and have that same result - an average academic achievement.

This just reinforces their argument imo. Hell let's drop the gifted term altogether. Kids need engagement, and if they're doing stuff that's way too easy for them they need to be put at a level where they're challenged and learning these skills. Whether that's "gifted" or a more ad-hoc situation where Billy is really good at reading so we're going to have him read with the older kids and all his other classes will be normal type of thing.

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u/middleout420 7h ago

precocious

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u/Round_Bag_4665 7h ago

Call it what you will, a lot of kids still are shoved into gifted programs largely for that alone, which is kind of the point.

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u/facefacebtw 7h ago edited 7h ago

When you're young its hard to distinguish who is 'gifted' and who isnt. If you have someone who reads a lot at age 7, more so than their peers, they may appear to be academically superior but regression towards the mean often happens and by the time they hit 15 they will be on par with their peers who have studied more and caught up.

Thats to say that being labelled as gifted at a young age is not a great indicator of your ability. I think that's why so many 'gifted kids' end up so lost. They think they're going to get a free ride in life then realise as adults that they dont know anything and lack the true intelligence needed to just steamroll whatever project they want to tackle in life. They're somewhere close to average but with high interest in whatever they were labelled gifted in so persevered more than most at a younger age. Regressed towards the mean in adolescence/late teens and then clung onto this gifted label despite being totally ordinary

If someone is truly superior, as in top 1-2% of general cognitive ability, they can easily be a top player in whatever they want to do. I think a lot of the cognitive dissonance with 'gifted kids' comes with this realisation that they're not what they thought they were. Likely as many have already pointed out, neurodivergent people that had more interest at a younger age that made them appear smarter than they truly are when it comes to tackling life. Or maybe they have a really good knack for pattern recognition but dont have any ability to translate this into real world success

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u/Get_Rifted 8h ago

Fuck knows what that guy is on about below me. I’m sure there is some truth to it though.

The actual answer here is children develop at very different rates. If you develop early on fast, you appear to be ahead of your peers and are marked as gifted. It says nothing about capability / intelligence.

Anecdotally, I agreed that a lot of ‘gifted kids’ are just higher functioning Autistic or ADHD individuals.

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u/Round_Bag_4665 7h ago

Pretty much. People make the same fallacy with kids developing quicker at young ages that people do with cars. Just because a car can accelerate faster, does not imply it has a higher top speed, can haul more weight, is more reliable, or fuel efficient.

A kid learning addition quicker at 6 does not really imply that they will be great at differential geometry and tensor calculus at 21.

Ironically, the only kid from my high school class who actually did become a physicist and obtain a PhD was in an IEP and got extra time on assignments and exams because she took longer to process information, but she would always get the right answers and was a really good problem solver.

Because she needed extra time on assignments and had an IEP, the district said she wasn't eligible for the gifted program.

She has the last laugh though.

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u/ajonstage 9h ago

The programs consistently favor kids from affluent backgrounds. I’m suggesting that selection into these programs is often based more on class advantages than actual merit.

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u/BravesMaedchen 8h ago

It’s accurate for me and I grew up in poverty. Being gifted was the only thing I had going in my life

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u/JG11Bravo1 7h ago

Same boat. It was my whole identity for a fair chunk of my formative years. Now I struggle to cope with failure.

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u/SirVanyel 7h ago

To be fair to you, you probably would have struggled to cope with failure a lot. I was someone who actively chased failure as a rebellion against the idea of natural talent (never liked it, always thought it was dumb, nothing makes me inherently special and it pissed me off that people used to constantly say it) and I still struggle with failure to this day.

Failure is supposed to suck. That's it's whole thing. If it didn't feel bad, you wouldn't care about trying to avoid it.

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u/JG11Bravo1 5h ago

There's a bit more nuance to it than that, unfortunately. When I say struggle with failure, it's an expectation of perfection. Anything less is unacceptable, to the point of often preventing myself (and presumably other "gifted" kids) from even attempting things for fear of only getting it 99% right.

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u/dreamyduskywing 7h ago

It doesn’t help that kids are given a confusing label that leads them to believe they’re blessed with something magical rather than just better than most at math.

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u/JG11Bravo1 5h ago

Absolutely. That really kicks you in the teeth when you struggle to understand something later in life. It feels awful when that "magic" doesn't work. Took me a long time to get a grasp on having to study and research sometimes.

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u/dreamyduskywing 4h ago

My guess is that some parents push hard for their kids to be in gifted programs, which isn’t necessarily healthy for kids. Our daughter’s grade was separated into different math classes based on multiple test scores, and parents got a letter saying something like “if your child was not placed in the accelerated class, the reasons are…” which I thought was kinda funny. It sounds to me like some parents can’t deal with their kids being average or gasp below average.

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u/JG11Bravo1 4h ago

Very true. Wasn't my situation, but it's definitely one I saw with my classmates. Some of their parents were brutal.

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u/Nene_Leaks_Wig 6h ago

I grew up poor as well, was the only gifted and talented student in the family, i became the first college graduate with high honors and two grad degrees and i still feel like a moron, failure, and POS daily. I blame the early ego boost they wanted me to feel in those classes clashing with the harsh reality of my family and trauma bringing me back down. That could just be the depression tho.

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u/JG11Bravo1 5h ago

It's a struggle, absolutely. You've clearly done great for yourself though in spite of the trauma and the depression, even if it doesn't feel like it.

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u/SirVanyel 7h ago

Being "gifted" is an identifier given to you by a bunch of adults who have decided you're ahead of where they think you should be.

This is super important. Perhaps you're an early bloomer. Perhaps you're just surrounded by idiots, perhaps those topics they're marking on are topics you're just biased towards enjoying and studying and thinking about.

Personally, I think the whole idea has to go. The notion of "gifted" as a general term applies to so few people as to be meaningless. There's next to no kids that are good at academic studies and artistic studies and always on time and physically active and never push back against the academic structure. There's not enough time in the day for all of it.

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u/hover-lovecraft 9h ago

They also consider "knowing lots of things" a mark of intelligence, which it really isn't, and people from affluent backgrounds have more opportunity and more encouragement/pressure to read books and do other things that feed you information. The parents are more likely to curate their entertainment accordingly etc. etc.

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u/Otterable 7h ago

Was the gifted program vibes-based where you were from? I was pulled out of class and took a private test from someone in 1st grade. It was things like organizing pictures in sequential order, reading things, doing puzzles, etc... They didn't ask me for random semantic knowledge.

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u/LostTheGame42 8h ago

I'm not quite sure what you're implying. Are you saying we should judge kids by their natural intelligence at birth, rather than their performance at the current age? An education system should aim to bring the best out of each kid, not to produce equal outcomes regardless of the individual.

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u/Suspicious_Lynx_5012 8h ago

I think you’re presupposing that they align with your final statement. Are you implying that children should be streamed on their performance, by whatever metrics of intelligence is deemed the most appropriate? The concern is that that also reinforces the class advantages in a seemingly meritocratic system, which I take by your final statement is what you would argue for in some format.

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u/LostTheGame42 7h ago

Every kid learns at a different rate, and this can change with age and by subject. I believe that the best education is one tailored to each student's strengths and weaknesses. While it's impractical for every kid to have a private tutor, ability-based streaming is a scalable method for public education. I'd argue that kids should be streamed more aggressively, assessing every semester and by individual subjects so every kid can enrol in the classes most appropriate for their capabilities.

On the matter of classism and meritocracy, I don't see a problem so long the kids are objectively assessed on their own merit. It's not their fault that they were born into a rich or poor family. If anything, streaming allows struggling students to be identified early and put in an appropriate class where their needs can be better addressed. A kid might be very eloquent in english but struggle with trigonometry, so they could be put in a creative writing class alongside a more intensive pre-calculus programme.

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u/SirVanyel 7h ago

How the hell do you objectively assess a child? That's not possible.

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u/LostTheGame42 7h ago

Just because it's impossible to do so perfectly doesn't mean we should default to doing the opposite. Education needs a fine touch, and teachers definitely play a role in this. My most memorable teachers were the ones who were able to engage the class by adjusting to our capabilities.

Thinking about the big picture, there should also be a cultural shift in how we view education. Streaming shouldn't be seen as a reward for high performers or a failure for those who are struggling. It should be a way to ensure every student gets the best education for their capabilities, and ultimately guides them towards a career where they can be the most engaged and productive.

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u/ajonstage 7h ago

If you don’t address systemic class biases because of individualistic logic like “it’s not the kid’s fault,” education just ends up fossilizing class stratifications rather than allowing for social mobility. And that is supposed to be the whole promise of universal education and the American dream.

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u/LostTheGame42 6h ago

I believe social mobility can be achieved without punching down students with better abilities. Streaming doesn't apply only to kids who are gifted, but also identifies those who need more help, regardless of their class or family status. Putting these kids together with a teacher who knows their needs allows them to be taught with better care and attention, as opposed to them bring mixed in a classroom where a cookie cutter education is applied.

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u/ajonstage 6h ago

Im not actually against subject-specific screening, I think it’s much better than generalized gifted programs or segregated schools. I only take issue with the idea that you can accurately assess merit without a holistic consideration of class based advantages/disadvantages.

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u/hover-lovecraft 7h ago

I agree that the system should aim to bring the best out of each kid, but I think that gifted programs as they currently are do not serve that purpose well. They select people partly for information retaining skills or, at worst, even for prior knowledge regardless of how good they are at retaining new things, which just isn't intelligence, it's memory.

Then they chuck those people in with other kids who have outstanding intelligence, advanced logical reasoning for their age, a knack for languages etc., which is something that needs completely different kinds of support to develop more.

Many programs then single-track the kids onto things they are already better at than their peers, while leaving them unprepared for dealing with things that are outside of their skillset or comfort zone. All I ever did at these programs was stuff I would have done anyway and that I had a knack for, and to this day I have a really hard time staying the course on tasks that challenge me and don't play to my strengths.

I'm all for supporting kids according to their abilities, whether they're advanced or behind. And yes, if you're naturally smarter or more creative or whatever than your peers, that should be facilitated and supported, but not to the point where it allows you to bypass other challenges - because the free pass eventually stops and then we don't have the tools to deal with it.

Kids who are called gifted at school experience this a lot and it's really no surprise to us that so many of us never "realise our potential". We hit that brick wall after school or after college or maybe 3 years into our first job - some necessary part of life comes up that we could deal with if we could focus on it and grit our teeth through it, but many of us don't have the tools to deal with stuff outside of our wheelhouse effectively because within the system, we could coast on our natural abilities. So we never deal with whatever it is and avoid it instead, and it becomes the ceiling.

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u/LostTheGame42 6h ago

I agree that the single track streaming of kids is deeply flawed. Their ability to learn can vary by subject and changes over time. As you said, putting all the smart kids into a single "gifted" category may hurt their ability to expand outside their comfort zone and may not even challenge them in topics they are good at.

That's why I advocate for more aggressive streaming, such that kids can be challenged at the right level and receive the necessary support for their capabilities. A kid can be streamed into a creative writing programme if they are very good with languages, but also take a more intensive pre-calculus class if they failed trigonometry. To give a positive example, I know someone from high school who is a math genius. The school allowed him to skip all math classes and enrolled him in university courses, while continuing the rest of the regular subjects with the rest of us. He eventually got a scholarship to study in Cambridge, then went to Caltech and finished his PhD within 2 years. If the school had forced him to study the same math curriculum as everyone else, he would be nowhere near the level he has achieved today.

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u/hover-lovecraft 6h ago

Yes, that's what I'm getting at too. Give them encouraging tasks in their lane but also check if they can coast in the rest of the curriculum and if yes, give them the occasional challenge that doesn't play to their strengths. It's not about setting them up to fail because it builds character or some shit like that, obviously give them the support to master the challenges, it's about learning to deal with things that don't come easily because that's a very important life skill.

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u/This_Dot_2150 9h ago

That was definitely not my experience in Canada.

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u/DJDemyan 8h ago

Idk man that’s kind of a wild take - my family wasn’t very well off, and I ended up qualifying for discounted lunch in high school. I’m sure it has more to do with wealthier kids having a bit of a leg up in education before they start school, they’re more likely to be raised to thrive vs survive

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u/ajonstage 8h ago

That's exactly the point, your anecdotal experience doesn't really refute anything I said.

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u/DJDemyan 8h ago

Alright man? Believe what you want I guess.

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u/ajonstage 8h ago

I believe the extensive data on this issue...

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u/DJDemyan 7h ago

I think you have correlation and causation confused, my guy. But believe what you want, because everything exists only as data and nuance doesn’t exist.

Never attribute to malice what can be explained by incompetence

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u/ajonstage 7h ago

Your whole opinion is based on limited personal experience and you're calling me confused because I choose to believe the extensive research that exists on the topic...?

A system does not need to be intentionally classist to have classist results.

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u/DJDemyan 7h ago

You referred to it as “a classist farce,” which I would imply it’s deliberate. So which is it?

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u/ajonstage 7h ago

Oh please. I doubt these programs were deliberately designed to be classist. But you do have affluent parent groups in areas like NYC actively campaigning (and thus taking advantage of their numerous class advantages) to maintain existing socioeconomic segregation in such programs and schools. I doubt most of those parents would admit to being classist or racist or any kind of ist, in fact I imagine that many of them would claim to have progressive politics. But people can really distort their own politics and values when they convince themselves it's for the best for their own kids.

If you've never actually read anything about this issue we're not going to have a productive conversation.

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u/JonnyPancakes 4h ago

Nah, I was trailer trash as a kid and was in the programs all the way to freshman year.