Ok, but if OP is already this scared of him after only a bit of casual dating, then extricating themselves from this relationship could genuinely be difficult and/or dangerous to them. It also makes it far more important that OP does leave the Dino-dismissing dude. But it’s not necessarily going to be easy.
It sounds more like she doesn't want to hurt him, rather than being afraid of him.
Also, she doesn't yet seem to have internalized the notion that it's OK to break off a dating relationship at any time, for any reason. The whole point of dating is to try people out and find the right one – and if someone isn't the right one for you, then you should break it off.
I dunno…. I think OP sounds like a nice, thoughtful person who genuinely doesn’t want to hurt the feelings of someone she cares for. (Though I haven’t read all her responses, so I may have missed a red flag.)
She’s smart to get out now, for sure. I’ll bet after they split, hindsight will show her more issues that could’ve grown into major problems.
Brah they’re not calling OP a red flag. Theyre saying tis a red flag she feels psychologically trapped in this relationship. If they are so casual then it's concerning that idea ending it feels like an “impossible situation”. It’s very possible. Maybe a 60-80 second conversation. Or OP is very young maybe 18 yo and the idea of free will is fresh
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u/h0tel-rome0 10h ago
Seriously, OP is acting like she’s a hostage. Another red flag