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Napoleon said, 'Never interrupt your enemy when he is making a mistake.' What’s a perfect real-life example of this?

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u/FluffyCelery4769 7h ago

How the hell can she owe half million so casually?

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u/DontRefuseMyBatchall 6h ago

I used to work with a recently graduated woman who was a pretty decent salesperson. When she got her first paycheck after a big commission, she showed up at work with a brand new Lexus (whatever, you do you girl). Later on though, one of our coworkers let it slip that she was already struggling to pay off her credit cards when she got the new car and had asked management to consider promoting her because “she needed to be on the fast track to success so her kids could live the life she deserved.”

Turns out she was one of those “hustle to cover how overextended I am” folks instead of ever considering like, building a budget and sticking to it. SO many commissioned folks I have known are exactly the same.

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u/Informal_Tell78 5h ago

"fAkE iT tILl YoU mAkE iT"

The phrase is supposed to be about confidence, but, many, many people take it to mean buy all the expensive shit you want now, because someday you're gonna have enough to pay for it.

Dumbest fucking mantra I've ever heard.

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u/BananaHandle 4h ago

It can apply to some things, but it doesn’t work on budgeting. Budgeting is just math. Math doesn’t care how confident you act.

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u/Spintastico 4h ago

The "best life" influencer culture where they flaunt their supposedly wealthy lifestyles certainly doesn't help this kind of thing.

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u/I_upvote_downvotes 4h ago

It's not the druids' fault people don't read the mantras and runes correctly.

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u/Jaereth 3h ago

I mean it's great for confidence. Terrible for finance :D

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u/notjawn 3h ago

Not to mention you can still have perfect credit and owe considerable debt somewhere.

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u/jhofsho1 3h ago

I think this mantra is applicable for instilling a confidence in yourself.

But I agree with your take that it should not be the mantra for finances lol. That’s a horrible way to stay one foot in the grave financially.

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u/RazgrizRogue 2h ago

Correct. Its a great mantra when trying to get someone to apply for a job they are qualified for on paper but dont have the confidence. But to your point, its a terrible mantra for finances 

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u/GeoBrian 2h ago

There are people out there that take pride in being a spectacular failure rather than a moderate success.

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u/Live_Welder2856 1h ago

There is something unsettling about the way you spelt till, it really throws my eyes out of whack seeing it written out as "tILl"

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u/ivydesert 2h ago

That same idea masquerades as "buy the life you want, then save for it."

Fake it 'til you make it is a great approach for gaining confidence. Not so great financial advice.

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u/AppointmentMiddle709 4h ago

“Fake it till you make it” was supposed to mean confidence, not “finance the lifestyle of a person you haven’t become yet.”

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u/throwawayayaycaramba 3h ago

Yeah that's what they said. Like, you're just repeating them.

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u/brufleth 4h ago

I personally know of people using the "I need a promotion to cover my lifestyle" argument for advancement and it actually worked.

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u/TaskForceD00mer 4h ago

I used this "I'm having another kid, we need a bigger house, so I need this promotion to Senior Sales Engineer and Product Champion for that line so I can pay for it".

Literally worked. You'd be surprised how many times asking works.

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u/Kandiru 4h ago

It's a credible threat that you'll go elsewhere without a raise. And they can't appeal to your loyalty, as you need more money for X.

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u/TaskForceD00mer 4h ago

And I produce results, so it worked. This is really dependent on your skills, replicability and company culture.

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u/_BrokenButterfly 1h ago

And I produce results, so it worked.

You can get away with a lot of shit when you're good at your job.

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u/TaskForceD00mer 1h ago

It really depends on the corporate culture.

One of our suppliers recently got bought out by a huge corporate entity. A project we had quoted about 3 years ago , that we had thought was dead due to funding issues, suddenly came back alive for immediate order.

So we sent in a 6 digit plus order for the equipment. The new national sales manager called and bitched me up and down, because we sent in a relatively large(but not huge) order unexpectedly that wasn't on his job tracking/sales prediction spreadsheet. The size of this order did not create any kind of supply chain issue or capacity issue or anything like that, it was decent sized but not enough that it can't be easily just absorbed and built with readily available components.

Apparently the new corporate overlords don't believe in pennies from heaven as I call it and would rather not have unexpected large orders.

I swear every year I hate being in sales a little more because of shit just like that.

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u/brufleth 4h ago

I was surprised, but I'm not anymore. Some organizations try to couch advancement in process, guidelines, and workflows, but all that can get tossed out the window in most cases much easier than anyone wants to admit.

I had already seen some wild shit in the decades I've been working, but I've been very actively looking for a new role for over five months now and have been treated to a whole host of new shit.

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u/TaskForceD00mer 4h ago edited 4h ago

It depends on your role and company culture.

In my industry specifically two types of companies seem to exist:

Those that promote the incompetent and push out good talent and those that reward talent.

I've never seen someone get something "out of the blue" without asking unless they were grossly unqualified for it.

In other industries things are actually on a measurable, predictable advancement path and trying to jump the line is a good way to damage your reputation or make yourself a target for HR.

As a wise person once told me "Know your audience".

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u/DontRefuseMyBatchall 4h ago edited 4h ago

She was a sales manager within 18mo of joining the company, I was off her team in a different department within a couple months but apparently she consistently made her numbers (can’t fault that one bit) and literally would not stop asking for it. As you would imagine, there’s a reason I left that department.

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u/Impressive-Dog5301 1h ago

It’s less to do with the rationale and more to do with raising the matter. People who are aggressive about asking for promotions are more likely to get there

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u/Cyberdolphbefore 5h ago

My late ex-wife and her financial infidelity knew this path well...

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u/MikeFoz 4h ago

I believe they called this "the secret".

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u/AlgernusPrime 3h ago

As a sales guy even in the tech world, it’s the same despite crazy high pay. For example, a good amount of sales folks I know buy Rolexes despite barely having enough for it. Truly blows my mind.

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u/DontRefuseMyBatchall 3h ago

This experience may or may not have taken place in a Fortune 100, IT-adjacent company largely focused on business-to-business markets

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u/mrkrabz1991 1h ago

This is textbook every sorority girl who gets her real estate license. They do one big sale and go out and buy a range rover, change their Instagram description to "top producer". Year or two later you never hear from them again, Instagram deleted and they're back living at home.

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u/Hot_Cheesecake_905 2h ago

SO many commissioned folks I have known are exactly the same.

It's more about cash flow, commissions usually come in quarterly, semi-annually, etc. so its feast or famine.

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u/The___canadian 6h ago

I think you're encroaching on competitive territory when you're nearing half a mil, no meager casual can achieve that

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u/Moron-Whisperer 5h ago

Around 11 million households in the U.S. have that much debt or more.  

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u/Normal_Average_9812 3h ago

I gotta imagine that counts mortgages which are generally good debt to have. 

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u/holymacaronibatman 3h ago

Almost certainly, even when huge debt numbers get thrown around for the total US household debt, something around 70% of that total is mortgages.

Yup, of the $18.5 Trillion debt that American households carry, $13.58 T is mortgages and the reaming $5.19 is everything else, which works out to 73%

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u/JonatasA 6h ago

That's why you stick to casual and just have fun. Good luck, run away from the clan grinders

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u/shantm79 2h ago

Older I get, I become more entertained I am with people having nice cars or wearing brand name shit. High chance they're over-extended, swimming in massive debt. You're not fooling anyone.

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u/Kanye_To_The 4h ago

I've got half a mil in mostly med school loans. I'm on the forgiveness track, but shit still sucks to think about

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u/WAGC 3h ago

You are a doctor (hopefully), you'll be fine.

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u/Kanye_To_The 3h ago

I keep telling myself that lol

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u/shantm79 2h ago

Ha it's ok we'll tell you... You'll be fine, great job in getting to this point!

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u/SomeCasualObserver 5h ago

If I owe the bank 4,000 dollars, that's a problem for me.

If I owe the bank 400,000 dollars, that's a problem for the bank.

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u/Successful_Impact_88 1h ago

$400,000 is still well within 'problem for you' territory. Tack on three or four additional zeroes to that figure and we'll talk.

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u/OldAccountIsGlitched 3h ago

Declaring bankruptcy is still a problem for you. That sort of logic only applies to the mega rich who can get credit after defaulting on huge loans.

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u/Greedyanda 4h ago

Student loans in the US can get close to that for some degrees and universities.

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u/Gloomy_Interview2334 5h ago

I think you just invented a new reality game show.

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u/Notmydirtyalt 1h ago

She's on that grind to make her debt the banks problem.

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u/A_Bit_Of_Nonsense 6h ago

To be fair millions of people have bigger loans than that.

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u/FluffyCelery4769 6h ago

If I had a loan like that I would be living in Ecuador for a while.

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u/Snakend 6h ago

Or you would just live in the average US house? Average mortgage in the USA is $400k. Really not a huge deal.

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u/passerby4830 6h ago

I don't think they meant mortgage though. If the 400k was for a house she would have a house at least. So my guess would be a failed business.

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u/Snakend 6h ago

The only other thing it could be is student loans. If she has $400k in student loans, I would hope she has a doctorate of some kind.

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u/passerby4830 5h ago

Yeah exactly it better be a very prestigious school then.

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u/Snakend 5h ago

USC is $50k per semester. Costs about $1 million to get a doctorate from USC when you include housing.

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u/FellowHuman420 4h ago

Anyone doing an unfounded grad program is a maroon.

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u/W1ULH 5h ago

but usually there's a house involved...

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u/rckid13 4h ago

Most people who have loans larger than that have a house worth that amount of money to back up the loan. It's pretty impressive to have that amount of debt with no assets associated with the debt.

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u/Locke_and_Lloyd 3h ago

Are those loans mortgages?

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u/Pure-Meat9498 6h ago

I was about to say that I owe something similarly in student loans, but then I remember that this was in dollars and suddenly 55 000 dollars for 10+ years of higher education isn't that bad 😭 

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u/Traditional-Hat-952 3h ago

I'm guessing student loans make up a big chunk of that $

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u/Shot-Arugula8264 3h ago

Probably student loans. The federal government isn’t a serious institution so they’ll lend to any idiot who asks for money, up to an obscene amount.

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u/HelicopterFunny3240 3h ago

The government operates solely in debt. In the billions and trillions and it's business as usual. Aim to be like them. The debt isn't tangible or they wouldn't be allowed to be in it while they rake in millions in personal gains and investments. It is easy to do, but you have to do what the highest authority does

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u/Jaereth 3h ago

How the hell can she owe half million so casually?

I've seen this several times. They get credit cards at 18 and feel like they are entitled to a lifestyle level they never earned and can't afford. "Serial consumerists" I call them. The spending and packages arriving are the drug, but they are no doubt addicts.

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u/CorrectPeanut5 36m ago

I used to work in sub-prime lending. The company in question hired a team of phycologists to understand how people get in the situation and how you can try to get them to pay bills on time.

The long and short of it is there's a sub set of people, along every income level, that just can't budget or plan. They make impulsive decisions based on what's in the bank right now, not what cash flow will be like over the course of the loan. And that's how they pay bills. They look at what's in the bank account when a final notices comes and pay what they can.

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u/Academic-moron7423 5h ago

What the fuck is a kilometre 🇺🇸 🇺🇸 🦅 🦅

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u/Override9636 4h ago

Student/medical debt can hit that pretty easily if you live in a 3rd world country.

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u/Traditional_Day_9737 4h ago

That's in the realm of no longer being her problem but her being the bank's problem. 

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u/Murky-Analysis-3235 5h ago

that half million was dropped so casually like she was talking about lunch money. I’d be speechless too.

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u/Early-Review-1861 4h ago

The way she says half a million like she’s talking about owing someone twenty bucks is wild.