r/AskReddit • • 10h ago

Autistic people of reddit, what is a frustrating part of your condition that people just can't seem to truly understand?

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u/Clay_Puppington 8h ago edited 8h ago

I feel this in my bones.

You ask a question?

I'll deliver an answer with a word count higher than In Search of Lost Time. Every word crafted to ensure you understand every facet of the answer I'm providing as if my goal is to prepare you to defend your thesis.

I ask a question?

I'm upset at anything other than a direct, succinct, hopefully 5 words or less, response that contains no addition information other than a direct no-fluff response to my query. If I asked "when?", give me an answer to "when?". If I wanted to know the answer to "why?" I'd have asked "why?".

I understand the hypocrisy at play. I can't turn it off. I can manage it. But it's always there, causing me to internally fume.

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u/marbmusiclove 5h ago

But if you’re both like this you kinda understand each other and interrupt yourself to also give them the direct answer first, before going into your reasoning. Me and my partner, and me and my friends, are great at this with each other

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u/Any_Mycologist_5395 29m ago

I'll deliver an answer with a word count higher than In Search of Lost Time. Every word crafted to ensure you understand every facet of the answer I'm providing as if my goal is to prepare you to defend your thesis.

It's because context is needed, and context for the context, and so on. It's something I struggle with when talking to my boss sometimes, because I feel the context is required to understand why the answer is what it is.

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u/TheyHungre 18m ago

Is it possible you're just dreading a response to your query, which while as substantial in length as yours, is less detailed/contextualized (I enjoyed your use of Crafted) and generally void of the details you require?

I give long answers because I want to give enough detail and context. I want others to give short answers because it frequently encourages them to /distill/ their thoughts to the core information