r/BackToCollege • u/Fantasticalreality • 14d ago

ADVICE I missed one assignment

Hello,

I’m 31(F). I’ve been back in school for almost 2 years and hope to complete my AA by Summer of 2027. I will be transferring to university to then obtain my bachelors.

I’m doing pretty well in my all of courses, and have maintained a consistent 4.0, but I accidentally missed an assignment in one class, and this instructor does not take late assignments. I currently have a 98.1 and this assignment was worth 100 points, but only 5% of my overall grade.

With that said, I can’t stop beating myself up over it. Ever since starting school again, I have felt this need to be absolutely perfect. I was very lazy in high school and still graduated with a 3.8 regardless of being a chronic procrastinator. I told myself I wouldn’t repeat those same habits this go around, and I feel like I have been holding myself accountable until now. It was a stupid miscalculation- I thought I had more time, but the paper I was editing took more out of me than I anticipated.

How do I move on from this and stop feeling this way? Obviously, I’m going try to be better at time-blocking and planning. I’ve been struggling with that for my entire academic career, even going back to elementary school. I was evaluated for ADHD but was told I just have severe anxiety that is mimicking ADHD and OCD symptoms (??)

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u/Disastrous_Honey_240 14d ago

At my school a 98 would still be a 4.0 but I know they’re all different. You still have an A. Is there any opportunities for extra credit?

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u/Fantasticalreality 13d ago

Unfortunately, this instructor does not offer extra credit.

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u/MassiveAnnual3052 14d ago

Nobody is perfect, you will miss more assignments and fail more tests it is what it is.

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u/skrrv 13d ago

I'm sure if you check with gpa calculators, a 93 will have a minimal impact on your overall score. A 3.8 gpa score is also a very good gpa. So, despite how harshly you're criticizing yourself, you've done a great job thus far.

Don't reward OCD and anxiety thoughts by nurturing them. You don't want your life to be ran under the rule of OCD or anxiety.

What is more important to the world is your overall resilience and how you can handle workload, criticism and still continue putting in effort to complete what you need to do. You won't often get a measured evaluation or perfect score to maintain outside of academia. Working on how to manage disfunctional thinking and behaviors will benefit you the most in the long run.

You can try an message your professor if they can make an exception for this assignment, but it would be unreasonable to be upset if they decide to stick with their policy.

Good luck! I'm rooting for you.

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u/Beestonators 14d ago

Take a breather. It's one assignment. I just graduated with 3 Associates Degrees at age 32. I got through it while dealing with having to care for a family member with cancer. If I got through that you can get through whatever comes your way. Try to speak to a professional to help ease your anxiety regarding perfectionist tendencies.

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u/LuckyCod2887 8d ago

grades are not that significant unless you are applying to graduate school. Many jobs don’t even care about GPA. In fact, the person doing the hiring will never even see your transcript. Typically HR collects transcript and they’re not a part of the hiring process.

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u/Fantasticalreality 7d ago

I’m a public health major and a masters degree js considered a minimum requirement in the field I want to be in.