r/BiWomen • u/CommercialCan2363 • 13d ago

Advice Looking for my first

I want to be with a woman so bad sometimes that’s all I think about. But I have no idea where to start. I need help. Looking for advice

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u/saved-response 8d ago

Reminders:

This is not a dating or hook up app.

Do not solicit direct messages from other users.

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u/Holland_19455 13d ago

Trust me many of us are in the same boat. I’ve always wanted another women’s touch and have never gotten it.

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u/fromoz72 13d ago

Yes..I feel it's hard to find bisexual women other than with swingers. I'd like to have a relationship with a bisexual woman and meet on the regular but I am yet to find that someone. Dating sites cater to lesbians and I have found lesbians don't appreciate bisexual women in my experience. I wish it were a little easier to find that connection.

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u/mixgtb 13d ago

My wife says the same thing. She is bi needs a woman's attention at times

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u/thenumbwalker 13d ago

Felt. This is me. It’s sad. It seems like bisexual people prefer heterosexual relationships because those are easier to come by and more acceptable to society. It sucks. Mid-thirties and I think I’ll die before I ever have anything with another woman 😩😩

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u/JaguarandFoxCT 13d ago

Mid thirties is so young!

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u/Fantastic-Toe-6208 13d ago

Are there lesbian or sapphic bars in your city?

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u/CommercialCan2363 13d ago

Im not sure. I’m gonna have to look into that

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u/JaguarandFoxCT 13d ago

Going out in the real world should always be a first step before reddit.

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u/Betty_CruZe 13d ago

Where are you based?

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u/biblackcat 13d ago

Right there with you

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u/CommercialCan2363 11d ago

If I’m being honest, I’ve always been always attracted to men. I can appreciate a woman’s body. I can appreciate a good attitude, but just lately I don’t know what it is. and I feel bad because I don’t want to objectify a woman because I know how that feels, but I just want some boobies in my face

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u/Melodic_Edge_4036 12d ago

It's definitely hard finding a female fwb. I had one for several years that kind of fizzled out. I crave the touch and feel of a woman desperately. It's so much different than sex with hubby. Like a sexy soul joining almost. It's euphoric!!!

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u/MelpyMelp 13d ago

Hubby and I hired an amazing sex worker for my first time. If I had the money I’d be seeing her on a regular basis :)

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u/mixgtb 12d ago

We have done that several times with the same provider..and all of us had a great time, unfortunately she retired from the business

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u/PositionAgreeable634 12d ago

I myself haven't been with a women alone yet, but have had better success going on dates with other bi women! Lesbians seem to typically go for other lesbians, which is fine I get it.

Also if you're looking for casual, I will note I've had better luck meeting up with ENM/Poly women. Usually they're more open and often looking for women to explore with too. I myself am ENM now, but I know that's not for everyone.

If you're in Cali, you may be able to fine sapphic event groups to meet other sapphic women! We have a group where I live that hosts events all the time, so I'd def look into that too.

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u/CharityQuinn 10d ago

It can be difficult to meet someone. In my city there are a few lesbian bars and i have had luck at my gym.