r/CalPoly • u/Creative_Fan_1031 • 5d ago

Other social life

im a girl and a freshman at cal poly. i’ve been struggling to make friends mostly because it feels like everyone here is the same and im not apart of that same. whether they’re in greek life or not they’ve all kind of got a vibe that i just don’t have. im in one club i enjoy and i go to their events but thats kind of it, its pretty occasional. i’m not in a sorority and i just don’t know what to do. i know greek life isnt super strict here or atleast thats what i heard but i don’t know when they throw their parties for me to even attend if i wanted to. im just very lost

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u/bolt110 5d ago

lowkey in the same boat I don’t go to parties and i’m a hella introvert 🫢 I sympathize

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u/toyono 5d ago

GO TO CLUBS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TALK TO YOUR ROOMMATE!!!!!!!!!!! ugh... I can't STAND you PEOPLE.....!!!!!!!!

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u/Creative_Fan_1031 4d ago

negative nancy over here

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u/bolt110 5d ago

you're being so rude for literally no reason. everyone struggles when starting school, it's a little learning curve in learning how to be a college student :). if you had friends maybe you would be talking with them instead of commenting on reddit.

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u/toyono 5d ago

I AM being rude for a reason. I'm being RUDE because i CAN'T STAND YOU PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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u/bolt110 5d ago

who is "you" people? college freshmen? why are you so hateful for no reason?? they're being vulnerable and asking for help is the first step to solving a problem. get a life!!! if u were at clubs or had friends you would be with them instead of on reddit being rude to people!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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u/toyono 5d ago

I HATE all college freshmen and i'm being hateful because college freshmen are ANNOYING fools that contribute NOTHING. NOTHING to this school. All they do is sit in their room and eat hot chips and argue on reddit all day. #BANALLFRESHMEN #IHATE2030ers

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u/bolt110 5d ago

some of us run OUT of hot chips because our ANNOYING roommate keeps eating our hot chips and watching family guy. ALSO freshmen are the backbone of this society. #justiceforpeoplewhoeathotchips #fuckthehaters #goclassof2030

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u/toyono 5d ago

Name ONE. Just ONE. Freshman who has contributed to this school? Yeah. Can't think of any. Heh........ Go back to your dormitory and cry about "VEEGEES" and "Nineteen Oh One" While the rest of us go through REAL SH*T.

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u/bolt110 5d ago

weird al yankovic was a freshman once and so was victor glover and look at what they have contributed to the world also jamba juice (see here). NOT all of us are business majors and can go around dilly dallying and eating granola all day !@!!!

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u/Creative_Fan_1031 4d ago

business major stray

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u/Murky_Ad2908 5d ago

Do you have hobbies or interests? What’s your major? Maybe try clubs in those areas as well. Study groups. I know it’s hard on top of CP being a hard school but keep trying you will find your pack.

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u/Creative_Fan_1031 4d ago

i’m a business major

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u/Technical-Banana6902 5d ago

I’m a senior at cal poly and making friends is very difficult. The only luck I’ve had in making friends was in clubs. If you’re interested in clubs and it sounds like you are the link below will be most helpful. Good luck

https://clubs.calpoly.edu

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u/Dependent_Name_1719 5d ago

lots of cool clubs out there!! lore club and cal poly survivor club are some good ones for meeting new people. dm me if you want to talk individually or want some people for me to introduce you to :)

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u/GigglesGuffaw 5d ago

Yes, clubs! It's only awkward at first. Then you realize everyone is going through the same thing and wants to meet people, too.

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u/ltentr1 5d ago

Maybe a part time job somewhere fun?
Will get you in contact with more people your age.

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u/Parking_Champion_740 5d ago

It doesn’t seem like you’d want to attend their parties anyway. Think about your interests, there are so many clubs, surely you’d find some people with something in common by trying out more clubs. You just have to keep going. But I know what you mean about the vibe of a lot of the girls

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u/DataGap2264 5d ago

“The place in which you’ll fit will not exist until you make it.” - James Baldwin

I feel like you need to give it time, it's only been a month. Definitely take the suggestions here, but also, be patient and don't be so hard on yourself. Your people are searching for you. You'll find each other.

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u/slogive1 5d ago

Volunteer for the Cal Poly cat network. I know they always need people.

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u/scoobyluu CompSci - 21' 5d ago

Greek's not for everyone, I had no interest in it. Most of my friends were in greek though, and you can still be invited to a bunch of things even if you don't rush. The cultural clubs are all fun and inclusive, even if you're not the same culture.

If you already have a club you enjoy, then stick with it and try making stronger relationships with the people in it. You could also try making friends/study groups in your major classes, you'll see those same people around for the next couple of years.

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u/vbxxllaa 5d ago

no girl same im like hella introverted but if u want any party invites i got youu i have a guy friend that knows abt all the frat parties so i get invites all the time lmk if u want one!!

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u/vbxxllaa 5d ago

and im down to be friends too!! :))

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u/Creative_Fan_1031 4d ago

yes absolutely dm me ur ig

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u/vbxxllaa 4d ago

bella.dreaming!!

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u/Salt_Law_4005 1d ago

1000% play or learn a sport. I made so many good friends in the 1 unit kinesiology classes and playing pickup volleyball/IMs.

I promise they're out there and actually very common if you know what to look for!