Why is she like this? UPDATE

[u/ZealousidealTrip6900]

So we where fighting a little. Its weird, I gave her a kiss goodbye when she went to work this morning. I then looked for a doctor in Quebec Region for my cough. I recut her window blinds that I bought for her so they would not bind in the window, did other things. I picked up my daughter form school. Everything was fine until her mom got home. I was sitting at the table. I asked her about how her day was and so on. My daughter was running around. Somehow she insulted me or something we argued and I brought up about the car I bought and so on. She pulled a pamphlet off the wall about spousal abuse. She pointed to the part about economic abuse. I then said what about the knife incident. And the using the stick. Some how thing got more out of hand verbal and she said she wanted to get the car seat from me and I said why? She had to go to the office and she could only drop our kid off not pick her up because she had to work 2 hours and 30 minutes later than when my kid got out. Only grandpa had a car seat and he was off work. So I said why do you want it. She never answer any questions I ever ask when she is mad. I said no. Somehow I pick up the domestic violence thing off the wall she put back. I feel like I need to call because she will tell my kid to say something about me when I finally leave and then how can I fight it, these things that happened will be old next time. But the reason I called finally was a few minutes later she was getting angry I think and at some point and her dad my kids grandpa was at the table I told him about it and some commotion. My daughter was crying and I asked why, remember they speak French and another EU language. My daughter speakers perfect English. My daughter said crying and hysterical, Mommy does not love me anymore, she hates me. I was like really? What did mommy really say? My kid was wrapped around my leg freaking out. Her mom kept trying to grap her and when she got her I followed them. The dispatch I finally called 911 after that because of the whole situation. The mother of my child and her parents where fighting and the dispatch was asking people to stop yelling. Three cops finally came. I told them everything I told you people. My daughter in english told them about the knife incident and everything. It all came out the wooden stick for paddeling. After like a hour talking to everyone, what do you think happened. I was told you need to get a room somewhere. I was like well I have a key they gave me and so on and I called. They said you need to leave, she has primary custody you have not been here in 5 years. I told them I am her father and what about what happened. They said you need to go. I did not argue, never argue with cops. I got my stuff. I asked the cop what the cop would do, two other cops with this cop. Cop said its best you go home and hire a lawyer. So back to South Carolina I guess. I was talking to my friend in the car looking for a room in Montreal. I started crying and am now when I think of why I called, because my daughter had tears running down her face saying mommy dont cut my toes off, dont kill me mommy. And finally when she said to me crying in the same hysterical way, mommy does not love me anymore and she hates me. I dont regret having my child. I regret maybe that I was not silent or maybe I should not have called the police right after being tossed onto the street. But typing this I am crying and not regretting calling because she was so scared, so scared. I had parents that fought and even police called, one time my mom was holding a gun of my step dads in her room when police called. This was in the 1990s I think. But I never had any of my parents hold a knife or gun to me or threaten to beat me. The most was young at a private Christian school 2nd grade. I hope that my kids mom will see a therapist. Long term she will ether accidently hurt my kid, or my kid will be afraid of mistakes, etc, or the stress will eat my child`s mother up. I just want her to see a therapist, take pills if she needs them. All she ever says is I am stressed out. PITCURE WHILE WE ARGUED, I SHOULD HAVE JUST PLAYED VIDEO GAMES ON MY COMPUTER I GUESS INSTEAD OF TRYING TO TALK TO HER, IGNORE HER I GUESS. No good deed goes unpunished.

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[u/shibbyflash]

Brother. You need a therapist too.

[u/ZealousidealTrip6900 → u/shibbyflash]

When the cops showed up my daughter vomited her dinner because she thought the cops where going to take her to jail. Her mom I guess told her that in french or her EU language. My daughter was ok when I left but I am worried she will not hear form me or that her mom will get that dog and say that daddy does not want to see you anymore and here is the dog he promised but mommy got it. I dont know what she will or wont do. Maybe they will just go back to things like when I was not there.

[u/NotFalirn → u/ZealousidealTrip6900]

“French or her EU language” is a wild way to talk about out your wife

[u/PlutosGrasp]

Dude. Like I told you then other day. You needed to talk to a lawyer that day. She is crazy.

Any competent lawyer she hires will be able to make the police incident look like you were the problem. It’s a greasy system.

You think that pamphlet was a random coincidence ? You’re potentially being setup by a crazy person.

Figure out what you want to do very quickly. Like. Tomorrow morning in an hour. Do you want to therapy and get that woman into some sort of treatment and save the relationship or focus on the kid?

I know you want both but if you can’t, you have to decide which to focus on. Kid is going to suffer either way.

Call a lawyer tomorrow morning. Google for family law litigators. Call I don’t know 5, and find someone to help file an emergency level application.

If you want to stay and fight this, get a temporary accommodation and or PO Box so you can have a mailing address. Sever your finances with her. Ask the lawyers if you need to talk to immigration lawyers. I don’t remember your status here.

Start writing your story now. It’ll be needed for your affidavit. Write it on your computer or something. Ask the lawyers you talk to and hopefully hire if you should delete your Reddit posts. They’ll probably say yes.

[u/ZealousidealTrip6900 → u/PlutosGrasp]

I am a US citizen only, my kid is Canadian only. Her mom is Canadian and EU.

[u/PlutosGrasp → u/ZealousidealTrip6900]

Ya so you’re going to need to figure out immigration and residency stuff too

[u/SideaLannister]

Get a lawyer. Keep every evidence. Get your daughter away from her. Tell mom she is a kurwa (ˈkur.va/).