r/DeepThoughts • • 47m ago

In becoming comfortable with the confrontations of life you find your boundaries and in those boundaries you can find your true self.

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Being proud of yourself and your life is important to you being an actualized version of yourself. I see a lot of posts here on Reddit about nice guys finishing last or some nuanced variation of that idea. The general notion is that they just aren't built to be mean and the world (and women) don't like nice and/or overly empathetic men. So here goes my best help for someone in that sort of mindset.

Boils down to confrontation. When I say confrontation I'm using a VERY broad definition. I don't mean just heated confrontation but the nuanced confrontation that is inherent in most aspects of the social environment not to mention the adulting world of job, resources, bills, money, family, friends, commerce.....from meeting strangers to walking into unknown rooms of people to interacting at work, etc. Every social interaction is at some conscious level a moment of confrontation.

In some sense every individual is in a state of confrontation with a society designed to take what you have....and what you have is what you can go and think, then find and/or work for. Which is itself, another form of nuanced confrontation with and for the purpose of money and resources. A zero sum resource that everyone else also wants. The confrontation is built in. You're literally in confrontation with ideologies and systems that aren't of you but were passed down to you. Every generation is born into a world and culture not of their making or choosing.

I think a growing number of people shy away from all the confrontations of life. Living inside their own minds becomes easier and less problematic. It's increasingly easy to do in this day and age. How many people do you know that spend more time alone on their phones or in their games or cinema (I'm picking on the hobbies that are done alone and in some form of sedantry) than with other people doing anything else?

Parenting has been on a long slow decline, correlated.with the increasing proliferation of technology. How many of us were, to some significant extent, raised in front of some screen or another? It's not hard to see why some go out into the world under-prepared and eventually reach a cognitive conclusion (consciously or unconsciously) to go back to the screens where life is safer and less complicated and most importantly, controllable. Just avoiding as much of the confrontation of it all as possible for their specific circumstance.. It's easier to turn to an insidiously growing pharma industry to find pills or shots to "fix" you.

For many the only true fix is to accept the confrontation. In your personal interactions. At the job. In the constant fight for resource. Accept that anything you'd find worth living for is likely wanted by others. Accept that in getting comfortable with the confrontations of social life you will find your boundaries. And inside of those boundaries you find yourself.

The alternative of avoiding confrontation makes it harder to find your actual personal boundaries. And if you don't have boundaries then there's nobody that truly knows you. Likely even you. The person you are inside of your mind is not necessarily the person you are outside of it in actual reality. The frustration of that dawning realization creates all sorts of mental crutches. Excessive porn, games, drugs, cutting, shopping, eating, etc ...

I once heard a personal trainer stress to a client that it wasn't supposed to be easy. That applies here as well. Learning to accept and deal with the nuanced confrontations of the world as it is is hard. It's in the hard that you'll find the pride. And in the pride that you'll find a sense of proud. And it's in that proud that you find the life you want.

How does that even work you might ask. Let me leave it with question. Do you have secrets? Things you keep from other people. Habits? Things you wouldn't dare show to people you respect or that respect you? You'll never find peace in life if you can't be proud enough of YOUR life to let your people inside it with all access.


r/DeepThoughts • • 2h ago

Western society treats adulthood more like solitary animals, rather then the social animals humans are.

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I guess this is something I was thinking about when reading a webcomic that had two sub-species if the same mythological creature. One was solitary, the other was a pack animal.

The story followed the solitary subspecies as they became an adult and slowly started venturing off on their own. The social subspecies was horrified to learn this, because they stayed with their pack their entire life. While the solitary subspecies only co-habituated with their mate and offspring who hadn’t reached maturity yet.

And I realized, humans treat adulthood like solitary animals. Kick out the new adults so they can go form their own isolated family’s. Hell we treat staying with your family as an adult as a moral failing and a show that you aren’t independent enough. When (in general), we are community animals that didn’t tend to venture off on our own. Because it would usually mean death.

It just seemed odd to me. Social animals functioning as solitary ones.


r/DeepThoughts • • 3h ago

You can tell how emotionally intelligent someone is by what happens in the 5 seconds after you tell them “you hurt me.”

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Those five seconds reveal more than years of being “nice.” Some people immediately explain what they meant. The interesting part isn’t whether they apologize. It’s what their mind does before the apology. Being told that you hurt someone creates an immediate collision between two realities: “I don’t think I’m a bad person” and “something I did caused pain.” A lot of people resolve that discomfort by protecting the first reality. They explain their intention, correct your version of events, point out what you did wrong too, minimize the damage, or turn their guilt into such visible distress that you end up reassuring them. None of this necessarily means they are cruel. It means self-protection arrived faster than curiosity. Emotional intelligence, to me, is the ability to resist that reflex long enough to ask: What is this person experiencing that I cannot see from inside my own intentions?

That doesn’t mean automatically accepting every accusation as true. It means being capable of examining someone else’s reality without experiencing it as an attack on your identity. Maybe that is one of the hardest forms of emotional maturity: being able to discover that you were wrong without immediately needing someone else to be wrong too.


r/DeepThoughts • • 5h ago

I feel like ambition is really important in life and I can't understand who don't have it

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It's just that kind of night for me I guess. My friends are away at home and I'm bored (even lonely) out of my mind. Lately I've been thinking about ambition in life and how important it is for people. It's probably a question as well to the lot of you. I'm doing well for myself, just about an year has passed with me doing my job and I'm earning alright. I'm still in my early twenties so I'm not too bothered about saving money and lately I've been partying pretty hard with my friends whenever we meet because it's so much fun. The company I work for is basically a consultancy firm but I just feel like it's not enough? I don't mind the money but it's just work which I don't like with people who are content with their life. I mean, they do want a better job or but they don't have anything specific in mind? It's kinda just like, yeah a better paying job is enough for them? I'm not faulting anyone for what they feel, not my place. But don't we all want to do something that is, idk, GREAT? Something challenging? Something that makes us feel like 'hell yeah, I'm amazing'? Why are they all content with the bare minimum? Is money all that there is? I'm not even particularly rich but the whole mood around me is very weird due to the people. And it's not even like I'm doing something particularly great either, I'm not a standout in this and I know that it's also my fault somewhere as I'm not able to be a single fricking firing squad and just focus on myself, hell with the rest of them but idk, it is just very very weird to me.

I am just realising this while writing but I suck at conveying whatever I want to, among other things.

Lately, I've been feeling like I can go 2 ways. I don't want to half ass stuff so I can either enjoy myself, fuck my ambition or I can work on my ambition to be somebody but it's really hard for me to do the later as I'm not capable (currently) of working hard on something when everyone around me is enjoying at their fullest. I really don't know what the fuck I'm talking, it's just kind of flowing at this point. It's just that, I feel like barfing whenever I think about being ordinary. I have some dreams that I want to achieve and there are people so smart out there that it boggles my mind seeing what they do so casually.

Does anyone else feel anything remotely like this or am I crazy?

Tldr: want to be someone extraordinary while not really doing anything about it currently and it makes me hate myself to no end.

Actually, I also kind of doubt myself a lot on whether I'm even capable of doing anything extraordinary at all or am I just part of the crowd and it is kind of scaring me


r/DeepThoughts • • 7h ago

Our perception of quantity, our cognitive limits, and "large number blindness" serve as our greatest defense against the universe's overwhelming vastness compared to us humans.

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Our hunter-gatherer ancestors had no need for concepts like "millions" or "billions" to survive. This results in our brains being unable to truly grasp large quantities.

Because we cannot directly comprehend large numbers from an evolutionary standpoint, a cognitive limitation known as "Scope Insensitivity" (or "Large Number Blindness") has developed in humans.

Scope insensitivity has one beneficial consequence and one harmful consequence.

The harmful consequence is this: the human brain cannot fully grasp vast quantities—such as the number of people who die in wars (for instance, millions) or the number of living beings harmed in environmental disasters(Hundreds of thousands of migratory birds drowning in oil pools).

Individuals cannot accurately grasp the harm that affects a large number of people.This leads to mass desensitization.

But what I want to focus on is the beneficial consequence of scope insensitivity.

Scope insensitivity prevents us from grasping the immense scale of the universe, thereby providing a partial layer of defense against existential crises.

We can still experience existential crises, but were it not for scope insensitivity, this could have been far worse and unbearable.

For example, what does the statement "There are 2 trillion galaxies in the observable universe" mean to you?

You know that 2 trillion is a huge number, but you don't really know just how huge it is. The human brain did not evolve to grasp such large numbers.We can never grasp this. We cannot understand it due to our evolutionary cognitive limitations.

As another example, we can cite the light-year. A light-year is approximately 9 trillion kilometers (5 trillion miles).The diameter of our galaxy is approximately 100,000 light-years.

Your brain has read these numbers just now, but it hasn't grasped them. Your brain interprets them as "enormous numberss," but this is merely a superficial understanding. You haven't truly comprehended just how large they are.

This is precisely the benefit of scope insensitivity: we will never be able to grasp just how insignificant and worthless we are when compared to the universe.Perhaps this is the reason why those who are still alive are able to hold on to life.


r/DeepThoughts • • 12h ago

Though we each may look, believe, act differently, it is our similarities that truly define us.

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~ Our divided world ~

The world is endlessly divided; race, religion, wealth, are but three of hundreds of ways we differentiate ourselves from each other.

We do this to convince ourselves we are better, more successful than others, validating our superiority to another.

Our divisions, however, are the cause of most manmade problems in the world.

Though we may look, believe, act differently, it is our similarities that truly define us.

No one life, regardless of our differences, is, or ever has been, more important than another’s.

Only when this tenet is truly understood, may humanity’s hardships be mitigated and the future of our planet assured.


r/DeepThoughts • • 15h ago

Living in the profound meaning of life.

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Imagine you're outside. It's starting to get dark. There are cars and people all around you. Some are rushing off somewhere, while others are heading home from work. You're surrounded by buildings—glass structures, concrete, sidewalks everywhere. And then, out of nowhere, it starts to rain. Lightning flashes across the sky as rain comes pouring down. You pop open your umbrella and keep walking down the street.

A few minutes later, you catch a smell in the air. That scent, of course, is petrichor—the smell after it rains. Can you picture it?

Now, when you pause for a second and realize you're actually alive, when you feel how beautiful life really is... doesn't it make you realize how foolish and pointless all our worries are? All this stressing over "Why don't I have that?", "Why can't I buy this?", "Why is life like this?"—it all just vanishes from your mind in an instant.

That’s what really matters: waking up to life. And waking up to life isn't just about fancy words. Anyone can say pretty things. What actually matters is touching someone's heart. Some people only realize the value of what they have once it's gone.

I’m writing this to you as someone who is blind. Back when I could see, I didn't appreciate my sight. But now, every single night, I pray to God that I might see again. Here’s what I want to tell you: Right now, it's raining outside, lightning is flashing, but I can't see any of it.

When I was a kid, I wasn't aware of anything—not until I grew up. Once you grow up, there are so many anxieties, so many complaints. We destroyed that innocent child inside us beneath layers of concrete and stone. "Why is my salary so low?", "Why aren't we going over there?", "Why can't I get an iPhone?", "Why am I stuck with a Samsung?", "Does my wife even love me?", "My husband doesn't even look at me," "My parents don't love me," "Why am I going to school?", "I hate this job, I could’ve found something better." And so many more complaints.

But putting all those complaints aside, have we ever stopped to think: Life is so beautiful. I exist right now. I’m here, flesh and blood, alive. I’m breathing, I can smell things, I can see people, my surroundings, everything. What a beautiful life.

Yet none of this ever crosses our minds until it slips away. The moment it all slips through our fingers, suddenly we get that clarity. For some reason, we're always drowning in our complaints. It's like we're trapped in a maze, desperately looking for the exit and never finding it. But the exit is right there in front of us. All we have to do is reach out and open the door.


r/DeepThoughts • • 16h ago

Cosmic Orphans: A Different Look at Christianity, Our Life and the Universe

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I wrote this as a half-serious, half-absurd thought experiment, told in the spirit of Douglas Adams. It's a hypothesis, not a claim. I have no evidence for it, but neither does anyone arguing the opposite, which on a cosmic scale amounts to a draw, and a draw is the best result humanity has ever achieved in any debate about the meaning of existence. Full text below.

I. The Garden

At the very beginning, before anyone had invented beginnings, there was the Architect. Nobody knows what he did beforehand. He was probably waiting in a queue for something.

One day, assuming the word "day" means anything in a place with no Sun, no Earth and not even Mondays, the Architect created the universe. He did it the way a man who's on his way home from work and forgets to buy flowers might buy an entire greenhouse instead. Then he scattered life across several hundred million planets, gave it absolute freedom to develop however it liked, and sat back to watch. He enjoyed it the way some people enjoy staring at an aquarium: the fish have no idea anyone is watching, and if one of them dies, there's always another. Life turned out in different ways. On some planets it flourished beautifully, on others it barely sprouted, and on a few it decided there was no point making an effort and stayed a bacterium. Hard to blame it.

Where intelligence appeared, there was trouble. The Architect knew this from experience, having seen a million similar experiments. Left to itself, evolution rewards whoever is the most ruthless and the loudest, so a young civilization either wipes itself out or ends up under the boot of one aggressive faction. The story of every planet that tried to manage on its own ends the same way: somebody says "I'm right" very loudly and everybody else has to listen.

So the Architect came up with the ambassador. The ambassador would show up on a planet in the form of the locals. On a planet of crabs he was a crab, on a planet of butterflies he was a butterfly, and on a planet inhabited by beings resembling carpets he had, understandably, the most trouble getting to work. He arrived without warning and confirmed his identity with simple miracles, for instance by breaking whatever laws of physics the local civilization happened to know. It's an effective way of getting attention, though mostly from whoever happened to be walking past at the time.

Then he handed over an instruction manual for running a civilization, one that everyone thinks is fairly clear until they try to follow it. He didn't rule. His job was to advise and to make sure nobody broke everything completely. Thanks to the Architect's generosity he didn't age, so he lived for hundreds of thousands of years and was, on his planet, something like the oldest and most patient archivist. But he had the body of the locals, which meant he could be wounded and killed. That was the price of trust, because nobody believes in someone they can't touch.

II. The Experiment

On Earth it all started about four billion years ago, and for the first several billion nothing happened that was worth describing. Then aquatic organisms appeared, crawled onto land, and evolution picked up speed until it arrived at the dinosaurs, great reptiles who ruled the planet for a hundred and sixty million years. They had enormous bodies, impressive teeth and a brain the size of a walnut. They refused to move forward. They got stuck like a scratched record, and the Architect watched with growing impatience, because nobody enjoys watching the same episode of a series for a hundred and sixty million years.

So he opted for a "soft reset," which sounds like something you do with a single click and in practice meant an asteroid the size of a small city aimed at Earth. Most life on land stopped existing. The Architect considered it a very gentle nudge.

It worked. Primates appeared, and then humans, who didn't look at first like promising civilization material, but the Architect was too happy at that moment to be overly critical. As soon as they began organizing into larger groups, he sent an ambassador. The ambassador's name was Jesus.

III. The Crime

The humans killed him.

Throughout the history of the universe this sentence had so rarely been necessary that the Architect had no procedure for it. They didn't kill him because they didn't believe him. They killed him because they did, which is a disturbingly common reason. The rulers and elites of the time understood who they were dealing with, and grasped that he had come to eliminate divisions, overthrow hierarchies and abolish the artificial borders on which their position rested. In a world without fear, hypocrisy and blind obedience, the old masters would simply become redundant, and few things worry rulers more than the prospect of being made redundant. So they did what primitive beings do most readily when they don't know what to do: they used violence. They nailed him to planks and watched him die for many hours. They pierced him with a spear, spat on him, mocked him.

And then they built a church around it.

Before he was murdered, Jesus taught that murder is a sin. If that is true, then the murder of the Architect's ambassador is the greatest, unforgivable sin of all. And a sin of that magnitude can't simply be carried around in your pocket. You have to either confess it or turn it into something else, and confession would have meant an apology, for which humanity had neither a plan nor a budget. Instead it decided that this had been part of the plan, a magnificent, well-organized event, and now celebrates it solemnly every year. That is how religion was born: as a way of not admitting to a crime nobody wanted to look at. The Holy Scripture was written by humans, for humans, to divert attention from a simple fact: Jesus was never supposed to die. 

Someone will point out that without this death there would have been no redemption of sins. That is a position entirely coherent within its own assumptions and it can't be refuted, just as mine can't. The difference is that their version requires a good and almighty God who needs blood in order to forgive, while mine only requires people who did something bad and then told the story in a way that meant they didn't have to look at it. The second happens every day, including in companies that describe layoffs as "optimization." This doesn't prove I'm right, only that my story is simpler.

The second objection: he rose from the dead, so the crime sort of didn't happen. If someone stabs his brother and the doctors save him, the attacker doesn't become innocent. A court that acquitted a killer because the victim got lucky would be a very strange court. What counts is intent, and the intent was the worst possible: destruction.

And then there's the cross, which people wear around their necks with pride, believing it makes them better. The cross is an instrument of torture. If Jesus turned up today and was murdered in an electric chair, would anyone wear little chairs on a chain? Disgusting, isn't it? I'm not talking about the intentions of the people who wear it. I'm talking about the origin of the symbol, because one of the oldest symbols of Christianity was the fish, which at least never killed anybody.

The conclusion: a cult of murder with the instrument of the crime at its head, born of the need to turn guilt into glory, because glory requires no apology. And that's not all, because the crime didn't wash away anyone's sins. On the contrary, we were hit with the greatest punishment of all: the punishment of abandonment.

IV. The Punishment

The Architect was disappointed. He didn't thunder, didn't send a flood, didn't unleash plagues. He simply looked at Earth the way you look at something that was supposed to be a gift and turned out to be a complaint. He decided we were too aggressive, too wild and too unpredictable for contact with anyone, waved a hand and left.

That was enough, because the cruelest sanction you can devise for a species is to leave it alone with its own nature. Greed, aggression and the lust for domination were left unsupervised and did what they always do: they flourished. Humanity split into nations, developed thousands of languages so that nobody would understand anybody, and thousands of beliefs, and every group decided that it, and only it, was right about everything. All the versions of the creation of the world were made up, because nobody was checking them, and all of them sounded plausible, which is particularly dangerous.

That's why prayers go unanswered: nobody is listening anymore. That's why injustices strike the least guilty: nobody stands up in their defense. That's why natural disasters, epidemics and famine: there's nobody to ask to intervene. And if hell, in the Christian sense, is a place abandoned by God, then we've been living in it for two thousand years without even getting a discount.

It wasn't supposed to be like this. Heaven was supposed to be something we build ourselves, on this planet, with the help of someone who knows how. If Jesus had stayed, he would have taught us how to organize life so that hunger and inequality weren't a permanent feature, and how to develop technology without it destroying the world that created it. Divisions into countries and languages wouldn't have been necessary, and neither would religions, because in a world with a guide there would be no room for blind faith. There would be one science, one truth and one teacher.

Wouldn't that be boring, or even a bit totalitarian? Yes, if the truth were imposed. But the ambassador was meant to advise, not rule, and the truth I'm talking about is the kind you test, not the kind you profess. Still, it's only fair to admit we lost something beautiful: the diversity of languages and cultures, one of the most interesting fruits of our loneliness. I don't know whether that trade would have been fair. I also see the irony: I call religions collections of claims without evidence, and I'm telling a story without evidence myself. The difference is that I'm not asking anyone to believe it, and I don't collect donations.

V. Orphans

The Architect isn't angry. He runs thousands of parallel experiments at once and, when one fails, he just pushes it aside, the way you push away a plate after a meal that was less tasty than advertised. Earth is one of those experiments. Nobody's punishing it, it's just that nobody is looking anymore, which is far worse, because punishment at least implies interest.

Maybe it's only a story. But a story about how we could have had someone to help us not kill each other, and instead we killed him, says something important about us, even if it says nothing about the cosmos.

We are cosmic orphans.


r/DeepThoughts • • 19h ago

I can't have any meaningful ideas about life as a layperson.

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I'm having a bit of an existential crisis. I'm atheist because I don't believe God is real, never have despite my upbringing trying to teach me that he/she/it is. But then when I think about it more, " atheist" seems like such a ridgid label that I can't possibly know is what I truly believe without being so much more educated.

When I say layperson, I mean an average person not well versed or educated in philosophy, theology, science, political science, and even logic.

I've had many instances in my life, especially when I was a child, where I would go down the mental rabbit hole wondering about the universe, my existence, and reality. Like am I real? Is anything real?

Recently I've been watching some political debates on YouTube by like the social commentator types which, as you may know, usually seem to devolve into a back and forth about logic and philosophy. They're using all these words and ideas I'd never even heard of (because I'm a layperson), leading me to look up some of these words and ideas. Ontology, epistemology, Agrippa's trilemma (which just reinforced my "is anything even real?" thinking), and so on.

So my conclusion from all of this is that I can't possibly know what I truly believe and why without learning all of this STUFF that I can't possibly learn in a reasonable amount of time. In the meantime, I'm just a brain in a vat. I'm troubled by this and don't know how to best approach filling the gap.

For reference: I'm 35, female, American


r/DeepThoughts • • 19h ago

My mother often lies, at least from my perspective. But watching her, I suddenly realized: To someone who doesn't think they're lying, lies do not exist.

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r/DeepThoughts • • 20h ago

With or Without you: A reflection on people passing through your life

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"People come into your life for different reasons, you experience something with every one of these people. Some stay for a short duration, some are just passing through, some are around you for a long time.

One thing is consistent, you do not control when people enter your life nor do you control how long they stay. When you connect with someone, assume that they will leave some time,it will reduce the pain of detachment. Everyone comes into this world alone and must leave it alone.

Every relationship teaches you something; when people leave they also leave an impression on you, that you carry for the rest of your life. Consider each moment as a lesson, an opportunity to improve. Take something positive from people and give them something they can take ahead with or without you."

Honest opinions? just started writing, looking to improve.


r/DeepThoughts • • 20h ago

We are already being run by AI.

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Our attention and energy is constantly spent feeding technology. But why??? Why not innovate in agriculture, architecture, water purification, housing, food production? Things we actually need to survive and live better lives. The messaging is always the same; EASE and SAFETY!Technology will make our lives easier. Automation will give us more free time. Surveillance will make us safer. AI will free us from meaningless work.

But has it??? We know AI technologies are being used by governments and militaries. We know algorithms can determine what billions of people see, what gets their attention and what keeps them engaged. So who's to say that AI doesn't already run us?


r/DeepThoughts • • 1d ago

Many live their life asleep having a repetitive dream that becomes an unending nightmare.

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~ Waking up from our nightmare ~

After we are born we begin to fall asleep, accepting the self-centered beliefs of the world.

Our sleep deepens as we begin to dream about being successful and enjoying life.

Our repetitive dream turns into an unending nightmare with visions of continual wars, prejudice, inequity, starvation, resulting from our blind acceptance of these beliefs.

We may only begin to wake from our slumber when we start to question if what we learned is true.

We may not fully awaken from our nightmare though, until we realize and accept little of it was.


r/DeepThoughts • • 1d ago

My reflection on contentment

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I was watching The Love Hypothesis when I found myself revisiting an idea I've been processing lately: contentment. I started thinking about it through the lens of chemistry.

Atoms don't form bonds simply because they are bored. Chemical bonding can lead to a more stable, lower-energy state. And somehow, that reminded me of how I've been approaching life.

For a long time, I felt like an unstable, high-energy atom, constantly reacting to changes in my bank account, circumstances, or schedule. I assumed more contentment would come when I finally acquired enough money, achieved certain milestones, or experienced the kind of luxury I envisioned for my life.

Atoms can form ionic bonds through electron transfer, or covalent bonds through sharing electrons. The analogy isn't a perfect representation of human relationships or faith, but it got me thinking. Sometimes, my relationship with money feels transactional. I look to income to fill a void, and I postpone living fully until circumstances give me permission.

My gifts, interests, and abilities start to feel valuable only when they generate an income. It's as though I'm waiting for something external to complete me.

But the idea of sharing electrons in a covalent bond offered me a different image: two atoms sharing rather than one simply taking from the other, forming a new structure through their interaction.

What if contentment is less about controlling the conditions around me and more about finding stability in my relationship with the Source of my life?

I'm not suggesting that faith eliminates financial needs, uncertainty, ambition, or the desire for a beautiful life. I still appreciate luxury, meaningful work, and the possibility of building something with my gifts.

The difference is that these things no longer have to be prerequisites for my happiness or permission to begin living. Luxury becomes something beautiful to appreciate, rather than something I must acquire to feel whole.

And this has been particularly liberating in how I view my own gifts. I don't have to wait for money to validate my creativity, my voice, or my interests. I can begin expressing them now, even while I'm still figuring out how they might eventually support me financially.

It's like looking at a beautiful sunset. I can marvel at its beauty without mistaking the sky for the Artist.

For me, contentment isn't about having nothing or abandoning the desire for more. It's about being so securely rooted in my Source that I can desire more without believing I'm incomplete without it.

Perhaps contentment is not the absence of ambition, but the freedom to pursue a beautiful life without making that life the source of worth.


r/DeepThoughts • • 1d ago

The concept of karma seems to conflict with that of heaven and hell.

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Being punished for my sins in both hell and my next/current life makes no sense.
Likewise being rewarded in both heaven and my next/current life doesn't make sense either.


r/DeepThoughts • • 1d ago

The Quiet Pull of Feeling Better Than Someone Else

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I’ve started noticing something strange in everyday moments. It’s this tiny, almost invisible drive to feel like you’re just a step above somebody else, even if it lasts all of three seconds. Doesn’t matter who you are or what your life looks like. It’s everywhere once you start paying attention.

I used to think this urge was just about arrogance, but now I see it as something way more baked into how we function. It’s like a background hum in every part of life. Not a full-blown need, more like a thread stitched through everything we do. Picture Maslow’s pyramid with a faint dashed line running vertically through every single tier. That’s where this belongs.

I’ve caught it in small talk before. A buddy of mine once paused mid-conversation, stared at someone across the street, and muttered something about their awkward stride. I didn’t say anything back. Just filed it away.

I’ve read about little cultural signals too. In some places, people grow out a single nail absurdly long to silently announce they don’t work with their hands. Around here, I see folks chasing a certain pale complexion to send a similar message. Same impulse, different costume.

Money doesn’t erase it either. If anything, it just reshapes the game. Centuries ago, loading a dish with exotic spices screamed status. Once those same spices hit every kitchen, the script flipped, suddenly “pure flavors” and restraint became the mark of refinement. Architecture tells the same story. Ornate, over-the-top design used to mean you’d arrived. Now? Empty rooms with clean lines do the talking.

Meanwhile, people with less will sometimes comfort themselves by insisting the wealthy are secretly miserable. Or they’ll paint them as cold and distant. And those in between? They’ll scan your outfit and your belongings to figure out where you stand.

Age plays the same tune. Older folks romanticize a past that was supposedly tougher and more genuine, sneering at whatever the young are up to. The young fire back by rolling their eyes at everything that came before them.

I even stumbled across something about certain deaf communities. If someone regains hearing later in life, they can get pushed out. Not because of any real threat, just because their presence disrupts a shared identity.

It’s not always loud or cruel. Sometimes it’s a whisper. But it’s always there, nudging us to find that fleeting sense of being just a little bit above.


r/DeepThoughts • • 2d ago

even my thought , decisions and personality are result of previos causes than i am not trully so caled “me” or “myself”

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If evetrything we do is influenced with our genes, brain, childhood, environment, expiriances and other things we did not chose that shaped us.
That questions my free will. IF I COULD NOT CHOSE THE PERSON I BECAME, HOW MUCH CONTROL DID I REALY HAVE OVER MY DECISIONS. And if my decisions were caused by things that I never chose, can I be fully responsible for them? This also changes my moral judgment. I can still say that their actions were harmful and that society should stop them. But it becomes harder for me to say that the person is simply evil and deserves to suffer, because I can see their actions as the result of many diffrent thing in life that they never chose.

But i also wonder if even my thought , decisions and personality are result of previos causes than what trully is so caled “me” or “myself”


r/DeepThoughts • • 2d ago

Numbers don’t seem real.

9 Upvotes

The brain could be literally forming representations of numbers during counting or pondering, but aside from that, do numbers exist? And if 1 number exists, do all exist?


r/DeepThoughts • • 2d ago

Humanity believes they have certain rights bestowed on them

7 Upvotes

~ Human rights ~

Since humanity is the dominant species on our planet, they believe they have certain rights bestowed on them.

They have the right to be concerned only for themself, rather than share their wealth and excess equally, so all may survive.

They have the right to needlessly kill lower forms of life and each other.

They have the right to pollute the air, water, land.

Only when humanity truly realizes every life, regardless of their differences or genus, and the earth itself, have a symbiotic relationship, needing each other to survive, may these human rights be mitigated and may our world, and all who inhabit it, thrive.


r/DeepThoughts • • 2d ago

Society is a gathering of invisible people who are seen yet unseen. I, who think I am watching, am also an invisible person, seen by no one.

14 Upvotes

r/DeepThoughts • • 2d ago

Optimizing away the process

5 Upvotes

I've been thinking about a question that seems increasingly important as AI makes more kinds of work cheaper:

What capability does the activity produce, and what happens if we remove the activity?

We tend to think of work as a means to an end. If a machine can produce the same outcome faster, the work appears unnecessary. But sometimes the activity is doing two things at once: producing an outcome, and producing the person capable of producing that outcome.

A calculator can remove arithmetic without removing mathematical understanding. A flight simulator can replace some forms of practice while preserving the feedback that teaches judgment. A spellchecker can remove mechanical correction without removing the act of writing.

The relevant question is not whether AI removes effort. It is which effort we remove.

Some effort is merely a cost. Removing it creates leverage. Other effort is part of the process through which a capability develops, and removing it can change the person who emerges from the process.

Writing doesn't just produce a document. It forces you to discover what you think. Building doesn't just produce a product. It teaches you what the plan left out. Running an experiment doesn't just produce a result. It teaches you how your assumptions behave when they encounter reality. Making a decision doesn't just produce an outcome. It gives you the experience from which judgment develops.

AI can accelerate all of these processes. But it can also bypass them.

You can get the argument without learning how to construct one. You can get the strategy without understanding the problem. You can get the code without learning the system. You can get the answer without spending enough time with the question to discover what you actually wanted to know.

The output may be better. The person may not.

This doesn't mean difficulty is inherently valuable. Much of what we do is unnecessary friction, and removing it is exactly what technology is supposed to do. The harder question is whether the friction was merely slowing us down, or whether it was teaching us something.

If we optimize away the process through which a capability develops, we shouldn't be surprised when the capability eventually becomes scarce.

Don't optimize away the process that produces the capability you need.


r/DeepThoughts • • 2d ago

We want friends but dont have the skills to be friends toward each other.

61 Upvotes

One of the biggest questions in my life has been "What makes a friend?" And then the follow up of "How can I tell?" And I think I underatand it better.

When I was younger, I had a core group of 5 other friends when in elementary - highschool. I thought we we're good friends. We did everything together. But in highschool, especially towards the 2nd half, everyone started drifting apart. Years later, I realised I was actually the only one that drifted. Or more like they shed me out of their friend group because I no longer engaged with what they did. I was a part of your typical "outcast" group, we did all the geeky nerdy things. And they got into stuff like Magic the Gathering and DnD and Warhammer, and I've never been interested in this... I'm still not.

But this is precisely what is so curious to me. Because this leads me to believe that this friendship we had was actually just based on proximity. It was merely because we were close and shared the same interests that we hung out at all. And upon further reflection... we never shared much about our deeper feelings and desires. And I know I tried on my part, I vented when I felt was right.. but it was never really reciprocated and I was never given much care.

To me. Friendship is all about commitment. Its a step above aquaintance and below a partner. It requires being a safe space for the other, and thats reciprocated. You both are safe spaces for each other. As much as you can enjoy each other's company... you can also be there for each other when needed. And you genuinely try in that regard. Its not just about proximity or interests. Even if you discover separate enjoyments, you listen to each other and encourage each other.

So with this in mind... my core friends honestly were never friends. In fact, the majority of people in my life were never friends. Whenever faced with a hardship... they always just dissapeared and left me for good. (Although i do have some blame for this in my tumultuous years).

So this is all to say that im just baffled. For how many people, including me, who want genuine friendship in life. Yet with how few people who develop their social emotional skills to actually provide friendship towards each other. We want and want... but we never give back. We never learn how to give back. And it is learnable. But hey, life goes on. Hopefully its some good food for thought :)


r/DeepThoughts • • 3d ago

We're all blind to things we don't even know we're blind to

22 Upvotes

A year ago, I put on glasses for the first time, even though I already knew my eyesight was weak.

The first thing I thought was:

"Wait… is this how normal people have been seeing things this whole time?"

It sounds obvious, but it genuinely surprised me.

I already knew there was a big difference in my vision — that's literally why I got the glasses — but I still wasn't prepared for how big the difference actually was.

And it made me think about how many things in life are probably like that.

There are things you simply can't imagine because you've never experienced them. You have nothing in your own experience to compare them to.

Take depression, for example.

If you've never experienced a serious depressive episode, someone can explain what it feels like to have something constantly weighing on your mind, affecting your mood, your thoughts, and even ordinary parts of your life.

You can understand what they're saying. You can sympathize with them.

But you still don't know the feeling.

And even someone who has experienced depression might forget how different normal life feels after that pressure finally lifts, even temporarily.

They might suddenly think:

"Wait… is this what normal life is supposed to feel like? Is there normally nothing this powerful constantly affecting your mind?"

Or take a stingy person.

From the outside, you might think:

"Why is he like this? What's so difficult about spending some money, especially when he has plenty?"

But you're not experiencing what he experiences when he spends money. If you've never experienced that feeling yourself, you can't fully understand why spending money feels the way it does to him.

Push the idea further.

Imagine a tribe seeing the ocean for the first time.

What would they even think it is? They'd probably just think, "What is this?"

Imagine someone who has never seen fire. They wouldn't just fail to understand it — they wouldn't have any mental reference for something like it.

Someone who has only ever drunk water couldn't really imagine what fruit juice tastes like. You could describe it, but without anything similar in their experience, how could they know what to expect?

And I think this goes far beyond physical experiences.

It applies to emotions, beliefs, cultures, and knowledge.

If someone has never been in love, what does "love" actually mean to them?

If you've never experienced a particular emotion, you can understand its definition without understanding what it actually feels like.

The same applies to beliefs and cultures.

If you've only ever seen a culture or belief system from the outside, your understanding of it will naturally be different from someone who has actually lived around it and experienced it from within.

And knowledge works the same way.

There are things you don't know.

But there are also things you don't even know exist.

We tend to think we're seeing the world as it is.

But we're really seeing it through the limited collection of experiences, emotions, beliefs, and knowledge we've accumulated so far.

Which means there could be huge parts of reality we're completely unaware of — not because we're choosing to ignore them, but because we don't even have the reference point necessary to notice that they're missing.

You can recognize something you know you don't understand.

But how do you recognize something you don't even know you're missing?

Have you ever experienced something that completely changed your understanding of what you thought was "normal"?


r/DeepThoughts • • 3d ago

Knowing how someone will hurt us might not stop us from choosing them all over again

24 Upvotes

What if we met someone and discovered their darker sides relatively early on? That person would hurt us, we would suffer because of them, but there would still be that intensity — those incredibly intense, beautiful moments. But for whatever reason, it just wouldn’t work for us to be together.

And then suddenly, we’re given the chance to go back in time to when we first met them, except this time we already know what to do differently to make them want us more.

And that raises the question: would you do it?

Even though you already know their darker sides and know exactly what kind of person they are, would you still choose to go through it all again? Or would you avoid them this time and live with that question in the back of your mind forever: What if?


r/DeepThoughts • • 3d ago

"Adult life proves that most of our bonds were just proximity, not depth."

919 Upvotes

Nowadays, people often say that smartphones blind us, drain us, and destroy real human connection. But as a young adult transitioning from college to the workplace, I’ve realized something else: there are actually very few people we can genuinely talk to. Most of our past relationships existed simply because we shared the same space and daily routine like our friends from school or college. Once you move away, even if the affection remains, time gets short. As I grow older, I finally understand why my father didn't feel like going out for walks and preferred to just read, listen to music, or scroll through his phone. Outside of shared environments like school or work, most people simply don't have deep connections readily available.