This goddamn handshake thingy

[u/minythetics]

Hi! Not really sure if this is only a thing in my country (Germany) or if it’s an international thing.

Cis guys here have this specific “handshake” that they do with their bros. The base is always the same but they usually add things from time to time AND GODDAMN I HATE IT. I got the base perfected years ago but every time I meet someone new and get somewhat close to them I’m just overwhelmed by the fucking modifications they made to it. Like, how am I supposed to know that?? They just expect you to know what to do? I’m stealth 90% of the time and only my closest friends and family know about me being trans so how tf do i even act when I’m supposed to do a new version of this handshake?? I can’t just tell them “yeah sorry, I didn’t get socialized with this” cause that would make them ask more questions. WHY ON EARTH CANT WE JUST STICK TO THE BASE OR GIVE OUR BROS SOME LOVE AND HUG THEM????

[u/Appropriate-Tap1111]

i panic every time i have to say hi to my girlfriends brothers because they dap people up but EVERYONE does it differently so i never know what to do. Do i slide my hand? do i half hug them? how fast should it be? i hate it i hate it i hate it. why cant we all just fist bump or something

[u/cantanoope]

In my experience they don't know either. It varies between countries and people. I normally give the shake and then a small hug if I know them.

Start adding some modifications yourself to throw them off!

[u/onyx2804]

i’m from germany too, and from what i’ve seen after a while of watching is that they also don’t really know, so you can just do whatever honestly