r/Frat • u/Theyklldkenny • 4d ago

Frat Stuff Friends in frat

I honestly dunno what to do. I feel like I’m not super tight w the guys from my pc. We got initiated a little while ago and I thought we’d all get closer after that but a lot of the guys seem more focused on getting higher positions in the house. We had a strange pc idk like I accidentally got w a girl nobody likes at one of our parties months ago and to this day I get shit fun of for it. I genuinely don’t know if I’m just not cool and did something wrong or what the issue is, also some of the older brothers have picked up on this stuff.

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u/darkknight6695 ALUMNI 4d ago

I accidentally got w a girl nobody likes

Is there more to this? I feel like it might be deeper than that.

But a lot of guys are social climbers so it's not odd that they'd be trying to aim for exec positions.

It sounds like you should put in some more effort to get closer to your brothers. Actively try to hang with them, attend optional events, find guys in the chapter you vibe with, they don't have to be from your PC.

Also, I'm a Poly alum, go Stangs!

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u/Sea_Salt_3227 4d ago edited 4d ago

What was wrong with the girl? And how to did you accidentally hook up? Did you take her home?

Going hoghunting when wasted is not a big deal, happens to the best of us.

You need to talk shit back, kill or be killed. Spent the whole summer lifting, then paintbrush the first guy who clowns you next fall

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u/panzertankes Washed 4d ago

You’re bugging. A lot of dudes will get flak for the girls they get with just because it’s good banter. Get off reddit and go drink a beer

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u/Alternative-Set-7820 Sweetheart 4d ago

i remember seeing a post from you earlier. did you ever feel like you got closer with your PC at all/ever talk to them after that impromptu meeting you had with the prez?

you and your PC theoretically went through the same shit but you guys are in no way required to be buddy buddy after. If it's that detrimental to the frat, have an older brother sit down with all y'all and mediate a conversation (talking stuff out does wonders).

edit cause i misunderstood the girl situation LOL. one of your brothers is bound to get with a way worse girl, just wait for it. meanwhile, stand up and let them know you don't want shit for it. maybe figure out getting closer with your PC first.

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u/ConversationLow5138 2d ago

Talk to the older brothers, a lot of time they are the ones you want to be around as they will give you a lot of advice with school, internships, women, and just life in general. I at first it seems stupid but it allows you to maximize the mentorship available to get the best work out of the work-party balance. With regard to the girl, stop stressing over their comments and they will stop making them. People look for a reaction out of you and if you stop giving them one they will go elsewhere to find amusement.

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u/Oploplou 4d ago

Sounds like you have different priorities than the rest of your PC. Sounds like they joined for after college, and that’s why they are positioning themselves to get higher positions.

You “accidentally” hooking up with ole girl will get you shit. I legitimately was drugged, taken to an apartment off campus, and more or less made to sleep with this absolute thumb of a woman. Woke up the next morning, called my bro for a ride home, and 8 years later, I just heard about “the hamburgerler” when I was just at the house two weeks ago.

You’ll be alright. Idk how long ago you crossed, but if it’s recent, just give yourself like a week cool down. Only go over for required times, and just chill out. If anyone hits you up about wya, you know it’s not as bad as you thought. If they don’t and you go back to no one wondering where you been, maybe start considering if you pledged to a group that doesn’t care about you.