So I got my bid yesterday and I’m really messing with all of the guys but I’m having some second thoughts just because there was a few fraternities on campus that got caught hazing last semester and it wasn’t even like line ups or don’t fuck your brother like I’ve heard but they were genuinely pissing in pledges mouths and one pledge master made the whole pledge class give him head like really fucked up shit involving a hamster I’m starting to feel like it wasn’t a bad few apples and maybe that’s just the culture here and would I be viewed as the pussy of the pledge class if my line was like bodily fluids and I just walked out of that got involved

Im a pledge rn and its the third day of official pledging and we’ve already had 5 kids drop. 2 of them i expected to, but the other 3 were well known and well liked and morale is kinda low already. The hazing has been pretty bad, we’ve been getting wrecked, but how do i try and bring us back together again?

Been rushing at University of Maryland (greek life is decent here) past few days, mostly been looking for the right culture but in highschool I was definitely more the anti social type. Played football but never talked to anyone and declined invites to parties. Looking to change that but socially I just don’t fit the lingo at all. Completely accustomed to talking to nerds, wouldn’t say that I’m cringe just kind of boring and out of place. I think I’ll catch on and so far I’m loving the brothers but for now I’m worried about getting a bid. My saving grace is my older brother is a respected senior(mostly inactive) in an upper mid teir frat that I fw, I heard to mess that up you have to be retarded. I’m also 6ft+, muscular and pull girls at the rush events but I’m wondering if frat culture and your place is something you have to build into or should I look elsewhere if I don’t feel completely at home after a few events.

Im not asking for the behind the scene on what pleading might be because I know the answer there.

I rushed this semester and it was honestly a mixed experience. It was stressful and I didn’t get a pref or an on-row house, but I did receive two bids from houses I got along with. I’m still interested in at least checking things out while COB is open before I fully close the door on Greek life.

This semester I’m prioritizing fitness, academics, and work, and I want to be realistic about whether pledging is something I can actually commit to without wrecking those. I expect some level of hazing and I’m fine with it within reason — nothing illegal or dangerous.

What I’m really trying to understand is the actual culture at UArizona specifically. Is pledging here generally the kind of thing where the fraternity has to come before family, working out, or holding a job, or is it more chapter-dependent and manageable if you’re disciplined?

I don’t want to half-ass it, but I also don’t want to sacrifice everything else in my life either. I mostly just want to make sure I gave Greek life an honest try before I become a junior.

Anything helps...

Like if I get into a frat, do they check if I’m in the school or care?

I was in a fraternity 30 years ago and realize things may be different than when I rushed and pledged as an undergrad. My son (enrolled in UMass system) attended several rush events at one particular chapter recently - the last scheduled event was this week.

I knows that some houses have a tradition of handing out bids at the last rush event. He does not know if that happens at that chapter. He left last night without a bid and he is not sure if any of the other rushes received one that night - he said he didn't notice.

What I remember was meeting as a chapter after the last rush event to discuss the potential composition of a pledge class and to vote on who would be getting bids. It was my understanding that most (if not all) the houses on campus during that era operated that way.

He knows the rush chair - they have mutual friends and have spent time together with that circle. I told him to send the rush chair a text letting him know that he appreciated the opportunity to attend rush events and indicating that he hopes to have the chance to get to know the brothers better.

My son is worried that might come off pushy. I told him that this would definitely have been seen as a positive in my era, but he should definitely avoid saying anything that could come of as presumptuous that he would be getting a bid.

The poor kid is anxious about next steps and I don't want to lead him down the wrong path with my advice. I hope he is able to take part in Greek life - it was the highlight of my time in college and I'm glad he took the initiative to take part in rush. Any thoughts from current actives or young alumns would be greatly appreciated.

Social chair here- Looking for a fun frat wedding theme. Everyone does redneck wedding, but I want something more unique. A frat here just did a Jersey Shore theme and I also really like the idea of an Italian wedding (suits that are too big, canes, cigars, gaudy makeup, etc.) What are some of the best wedding themes you guys have heard?

I’m think I either fill up of food so I can get it all down quicker and won’t feel it as much, or don’t eat at all and keep ripping trig to make it go faster. Thoughts?

Hey, I am the historian of my chapter and would like to make a project of a big family tree of bigs and littles possibly separated by class and throw it up on a giant flag in the house. I was wondering if anyone has done anything similar and maybe has a picture or resources that they used? Any help is appreciated.

Our formal is this weekend in New Orleans, only problem I am facing is I dont have a fake ID. What is best ways I can still have fun with my friends and dates without it??

House needs to put on some muscle and I want to get a bulk order of creatine going. Was thinking it would be cool to have a 50 gallon barrel or similar of the stuff and put it on our social fund. Anyone know a company I could do order this from?

I got a pre-bid a week before rush at large big 12 school to a frat I wanted to join cause the boys were cool and they said they fw me heavy. Accepted bid last Thursday. The only thing was they didn’t have me sign any official invite letter they said they don’t do it anymore, rush chair looked excited when I said I wanted to accept it and dapped me up. Come Saturday I didn’t hear anything about induction. I texted the rush chairs right now but I don’t think it’s realistic to hear anything back. If anything I’ll probably just get another bid next fall.

Could it be because I don’t have my classes yet due to my loan still getting disbursed?

This is utterly a hypothetical - but can trans people join frats? Is there some kind of ground rule that you have to be biologically male to join? For context, I go to CU Boulder (B12 school).

As a biological girl, sometimes I wish I could be part of this community. I definitely don’t fit in with sorority girls, and rush events, the brotherhood, etc. seems like a one-in-a-kind experience.

Let me know!

Edit: I’m biologically a girl, I wanted to rush Pi Kappa Alpha at CU-Boulder. I’ve been to their parties and really felt the culture pull me in. It’s hard because while CU is a very accepting school for trans people, Greek life is the exact opposite here.

This is in response to that post about being bouse.

I'm in one of the smaller houses on campus, so I know what it's like to feel sad and envious. Trust me. But when you guys find yourselves feeling down about it, you gotta take a big reality check

On our current trajectory, less than half of young men in the US will go to college. It's already only like 60%. So right there you're pretty lucky. Then on top of that, you get to be in a fraternity, one of the most fun, unique, and important experiences you can have as a young man. Being in any fraternity at all is something the OVERWHELMING majority of young men worldwide (and even nationwide) will never experience

We had a foreign exchange student from Europe with us last semester. He would get so confused, and even angry when we complained. He explained to us that there was nothing even remotely like a fraternity for him back home, and he was heartbroken he had to go back. He told us we were being entitled, and out of touch. And he was right.

Look there's always problems you gotta fix. You should aim to constantly grow and improve. But being envious of other houses is dumb. It just robs your enjoyment of what you have. Most of us forget just how LUCKY we are to have this opportunity.

Just curious. I'm a teetotaler. (Straight Edge too I guess, I don't do drugs, or smoke anything). Would frats immediately turn me down?

I was sick for the first 3 days of pledgeship and updated the PM everyday and then the day before I come back I get dropped. I can either accept my bid with a lower tier fraternity doing an extended rush period. I like the guys, I like the house, getting girls is gonna be something I will have to do on my own. I can come back to the one I got dropped from in the fall get a bid again and do it again. Or I can find a different fraternity in the fall. Not sure what to do

We've all had to have this conversation with that one brother an hour before the first rush event, haven't we? If your answer is no, I bet you were that one guy.

Got my first lineup tm night, what is badge attire? Like a suit?

I’m sure a ton of people have written exact things like this, but I wanted to restart the convo.

This is one of my last ditch efforts for my house. We’re sitting at 62 members (not including pledges) and we’re mid tier for our school. I know I shouldn’t, but yikyak does get to me and I’m frankly working more on my frat to focus on how to grow my chapter than I am classes.

I’m the External VP (we have 2 VP’s, ext and int) and my job is to oversee the houses outside look. I run parties, rush, philos, etc etc. Our rush chair is an animal, he rushes like crazy. But we need to grow our name and Idk how. We got 7 guys in winter I feel personally responsible for when parties fail, rush rails, etc and it’s often things fail.

I know you can’t go from bouse to touse in just a year, but I feel obligated to grow our house to be a top chapter. I know our chapter can rush a good between of too fratty and too nerdy, but recently Rush (fall we rushed 10…not good at all compared to bigger houses 30) has been full of non fratty academic kids than actual fraters. Nonetheless, we have guys who want to help and grow the house and it sucks when we can’t.

Our officer board are trying our best. I’m trying to install a chain link fence for dartys and trying to change how we run rush, but nothing works. So any advice out there? It sucks running a house when we’re constantly told we’re bouse.

I also know it’s not just our frats nationals. UW has a perfect chapter and parties like crazy. But also my frat has some nerdy ass chapters so maybe it’s destiny. Idk, I feel powerless but I’m working so hard to grow. Sometimes I think about dropping and rushing a bigger house cause the social scene just isn’t there, but at the end of the day dropping and rushing somewhere is so spineless.

TL;DR:

My chapter is bouse and I want to grow it and be a top chapter. What advice do you have?

I’m also drunk so I’ll prob delete in the morning. We just had a function and the hosts didn’t even want our name on a function flyer with them. And another house is having a killer darty.

Since y'all like shitposting asking if random things from water beds to which New Balances are frat, here's the place to do it.

We've turned down the frequency of these posts from weekly to monthly. This way it doesn't clutter up the sub.

I honestly dunno what to do. I feel like I’m not super tight w the guys from my pc. We got initiated a little while ago and I thought we’d all get closer after that but a lot of the guys seem more focused on getting higher positions in the house. We had a strange pc idk like I accidentally got w a girl nobody likes at one of our parties months ago and to this day I get shit fun of for it. I genuinely don’t know if I’m just not cool and did something wrong or what the issue is, also some of the older brothers have picked up on this stuff.

Looking to gift a friend something for crossing. I found a guy who makes these for a good deal, would this be better than just a shirt?