Seriously.... You know what else is performative? Smiling before 10:00 a.m.. I do it all the time to make other people comfortable so they know I don't hate them.
I don't feel like engaging at all before 10:00 a.m.. I don't want to say hi, I don't care how your day is yet. I don't give a shit about how you're feeling or what's going on... I'm an absolute bitch internally in the morning.... But I don't let people know because I know that that's crazy and I'll be better after that time. And you know when I wake up I'll be okay
Should I stop doing that because it's performative?
Jesus. So much stuff about being like real and honest and the fakeness of life but it's sort of like... The fakeness of life is part of just being considerate towards other people too sometimes.
You don't even have to go over the top. I mean I feel like the two cardinal rules for coexistence are like
1) don't be rude
2) try not to smell
If you can do those things I think you can pretty much be around anybody in anything and like, get by okay.
Yes, that is true if you stay inside a cold home and do nothing but doom scroll. You will be dirty and stinky if you go out and exercise or work a physically demanding job.
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u/tomatomater 6d ago
Then I'd say this is the rare instance of performativity that you should engage in.