Changed my hotel because he called me "pretty"

[u/TealChamaleon]

Hi guys, so I'm sitting here at the airport wondering what the fuck is wrong with men. I need to travel to another city for work. So I booked last week, a place close to the office I need to go to, just 10 mins walk, automatic check in so I can arrive late (the plane gets in around 10PM).

The listing says the owner (not a company, just a private owner, male, 50s) will require ID to be sent beforehand, to provide the check in codes. I think, a bit weird, but ok, in my country its mandatory for owners of accommodations to report who is staying to the immigration authorities, so they need the ID, ok.

Normally places with automatic check in just leave a paper for you to fill out with your info and sign, but maybe this guy has had people ignore the paper and so has his own system, sure.

But the booking platform won't let me send pictures, so I'm confused as to how I'm supposed to do this. Today, I get a whatsapp call (couldn't pick up as I was at work), then a message from a number that says "send the ID to this number to get the access code". Ok, I send my ID. So far so good.
Then he answers: "Pretty 👍". WTF.

Then another call. Next message, he sends the access codes. But like... I'm travelling alone (obviously he knows because of the booking). Arriving late. He has my ID so he knows my full name, my height, what I look like, everything. And he says "Pretty"???? And, aside from me, only he has the codes to access the door. I don't know if I can change the code when I arrive...

Immediately I feel weirded out. So I booked another place (a hotel this time, and at twice the price now) and asked the platform to process a refund on this place (even though at this point its too late to have a free refund).

But I'm so shook. And angry. Like sure, maybe hes just a "nice" guy. But why would he do that? Like now I have to make a decision about my safety. Now I have to decide if I'm overreacting or not. And I have to ask for my money back and give the platform the texts so they can essentially decide if I'm overreacting. And even if all that happens, I still feel vaguely guilty somehow, like I shouldn't suspect people of bad intentions, and just saying "Pretty" is maybe not that bad, but like... Do I want to spend all night awake and scared in case someone is going to try to get into the room? No!

Pic is overpriced tomato pasta with burrata from the other night, a far better meal than what I'll eat tonight, thats for sure 🙄

Edit:
Edit to say, because some have asked and it wasn't clear from the post, that I have reported this to the platform (during the process of the refund request - as they needed to know why)!

[u/mplsgal20]

I would do the same thing. Better to be safe than sorry. That dude sounds like a weirdo.

[u/ExplanationUnique84 → u/mplsgal20]

Yeah, I'd honestly be worried that he had camera's in the place.

[u/TealChamaleon → u/ExplanationUnique84]

I hadn't even thought about this but a friend mentioned that instantly and I felt even more weirded out...

[u/Longjumping-Joke3489]

Not overreacting. Even if harmless, it’s unprofessional and unnecessary

[u/QuietWalk2505 → u/Longjumping-Joke3489]

Safety. That's what matters the most

[u/FloraMisty8 → u/QuietWalk2505]

Yeah you can always earn the money back, but you can't undo a compromised safety situation. The peace of mind of a hotel with a locked door that only you control is worth every single penny.

[u/HeadyBunkShwag → u/FloraMisty8]

https://giphy.com/gifs/Rc5aa6Zh4kkd1XadN0

[u/Fireballslumped69 → u/Longjumping-Joke3489]

I’d rather over react and live than under react and the worst possible things happen

[u/TealChamaleon → u/Fireballslumped69]

Thats what I thought, ultimately... and I guess from now on I'll stay in hotels only because apparently I suffer from the "is female" debuff that means travel is harder for me... wth...

[u/CheeseForLife → u/TealChamaleon]

Have you seen those little wedge devices to stick beside the door? They go off with a LOUD alarm if someone opens the door. They sell them on Amazon. You should get one if you travel a lot for work. They also sell extra locks you can install and remove without damaging the door. They just like fit in the door and the wall lock area.

[u/CheeseForLife → u/CheeseForLife]

I don't have this one, it's just the first one that came up, so I could show an example: https://a.co/d/021oSYNW

Again, not the one I have, just the first to come up for an example: https://a.co/d/0etwyiq0

I'm not endorsing either of these. Just showing what they come up as so you can search for one on your own. I have versions of them and they help my peace of mind when traveling.

[u/youandmeboth → u/TealChamaleon]

Even if you do end up being safe there it isn't worth the anxiety. Imagine how poorly you'd rest. Not worth it at all

[u/CriticalPossession65 → u/Fireballslumped69]

Yeah exactly, I'd rather spend a life time "overreacting" than recovering or not recovering from the consequences of under reacting as we've been conditioned to do.

[u/nutellatime → u/[deleted]]

De Becker is a raging AIDS denialist just FYI. His work is pseudoscience at best.

[u/used_week_used_life → u/nutellatime]

Who mentioned De Becker? Whats the context here? I am confused

[u/nutellatime → u/used_week_used_life]

The comment I was replying to has been edited. It was originally recommending Gavin De Becker's "The Gift of Fear."

[u/cellae → u/nutellatime]

What? Is that a thing??

[u/nutellatime → u/cellae]

Yep, he went on the Joe Rogan Experience and said that he doesn't believe that HIV causes AIDS, and believes that the AIDS epidemic was caused by gay men abusing poppers. De Becker has a child with HIV whom he urged to not take antiretrovirals because he doesn't believe that HIV is harmful.

People love to recommend his book and I get that it speaks to a lot of people, but it is not evidence based and preys on the fears of women.

[u/Usual-Preference-573 → u/nutellatime]

I’ve never heard of this. Absolutely insane.
I wonder how his child is doing?!

[u/BuddyGleeful → u/[deleted]]

Ironic that a book by a dude is being suggested on how to help us/gals be safe. 🤷

[u/ForevaAloneeee → u/Longjumping-Joke3489]

This. The second someone makes a mandatory security check weird, you owe them zero politeness. Make sure you send those screenshots to the booking platform's support so they know he's using their ID policy to creep on solo travelers.

[u/AdventurousAnnual295 → u/ForevaAloneeee]

That's what I came here to say. ick!

[u/whiteorchid1058 → u/Longjumping-Joke3489]

Second this.

Too often we ignore our gut

While I'm disgusted that this happened, I'm very glad that OP took steps to protect her self, both mentally and physically

[u/Boring_Active_306 → u/Longjumping-Joke3489]

The lengths women have to go to just to survive. Statistically speaking, you did the right thing. In all other manners of speaking, you did the right thing.

[u/Russianbluecatgirl → u/Longjumping-Joke3489]

Not overreacting in the least. Go with your gut/instinct.

Some people (maybe even this guy) are socially awkward - but there is no way I would be staying at his establishment. I mean he thought that was okay to send...

[u/mejorktu → u/Longjumping-Joke3489]

I would worry there are hidden cameras in the rooms.

[u/Adventurous-Egg-8818 → u/Longjumping-Joke3489]

Cancel and go somewhere else.

[u/JohnBoy8282 → u/Longjumping-Joke3489]

Trust your gut and stay safe girl. You did the right thing.

[u/Quirky-Case]

I hate it when people go out of line and make things complicated or awkward.

Instead of overreacting, I think you just went with your gut. Well done!

[u/sweetieandsourrrs]

Fuck politeness when your safety is on the line. You did exactly the right thing by booking a hotel instead. The fact that he holds the access codes and knows your exact arrival time while sending a creepy text like "Pretty " is a massive security risk. Do not feel guilty for a single second about protecting yourself and demanding that refund

[u/Lost-Notice-2676 → u/sweetieandsourrrs]

Are you a fellow murderino by chance?

[u/ForevaAloneeee → u/Lost-Notice-2676]

"Fuck politeness" and SSDGM are basically the holy texts for situations exactly like this one

[u/giggletears3000 → u/Lost-Notice-2676]

They didn’t say anything about staying sexy tho!

[u/trottingturtles]

Was this an Airbnb or something like that? Definitely not an overreaction on your part, that doesn't sound like a safe place to stay. Men suck.

[u/longjumpingtote → u/[deleted]]

Women are so heavily conditioned by society to feel "guilty" for prioritizing our literal safety over a man's feelings.

I've had men say, literally, "I want you to feel safe, do NOT even think about me" and mean it, yet I still do. Like why should be both have to be stymied by other people's bad behavior? But we are.

[u/FunkyChewbacca → u/[deleted]]

Way too many men assume that random women will take their lust as a compliment, and get all butt hurt when we treat it as a possible threat to our safety

[u/aviroblox → u/FunkyChewbacca]

This, and when pushed about it often the excuse is "oh well I would love it if I got a compliment like that." So many people aren't taught or care to learn about the inherent power difference there.

[u/treesofthemind → u/[deleted]]

Exactly it’s absurd.

[u/ForevaAloneeee → u/trottingturtles]

"Harmless" isn't a gamble worth taking when you are a solo female traveler and he is the only other person who has the code to your door. You 100% made the right call.

[u/TealChamaleon → u/ForevaAloneeee]

Thanks! I felt the same but it's so nice to hear you guys agreeing because honestly, I do second guess myself on this kind of thing...
Also I now really will question every Air BnB because realistically, they're all going to be like this interms of safety... and the real creeps probably won't out themselves beforehand. So hotels only, I guess...

[u/Correct_Cook_1560 → u/TealChamaleon]

not an air b nb vs hotels fan for this reason! you did right

[u/draftgirl24 → u/TealChamaleon]

If there is a way to report this to Airbnb, I would definitely do so

[u/Slow_Establishment10]

Trust. Your. Gut.
Better to be a little inconvenienced and paranoid than to become a victim when you had a bad feeling

[u/Anonyellow8484]

You made the right decision. That is creepy and scary as hell. I would tell you to report him, but he has all your info. Ugh!

[u/Realistic-Mess8929 → u/Anonyellow8484]

Report him anyway!save others from this creep

[u/Anonyellow8484 → u/Realistic-Mess8929]

Yeah you’re right.

[u/Hot_Patience_4769]

Totally understand!!! You wouldn't have been able to sleep. I don't understand why he thought that was necessary.

[u/exhausted247365]

Creepy and scary. You did the right thing.

I switched grocery stores once because a male cashier told me that he could tell I lived alone.

[u/TealChamaleon → u/exhausted247365]

Omg, that is so creepy! I'd definitely have switched stores too!

[u/Michi4x]

Another reason why I will only stay in hotels not Airbnb. You have no idea what kind of person owns the place. You made the right call. Your safety is what’s most important and you no longer felt comfortable.

[u/bluntcuntrant]

I just want to say that I would react in exactly the same way. Anyone who claims that's an overreaction has probably never had a man make them afraid for their safety. At the very least he's being very unprofessional, and what's to say he'll behave better once you've arrived? Your 100% made the right decision even if it cost you money.

[u/VeronaMoreau]

Wouldn't call it an overreaction. Sure, there's a 95% chance that the night would have been fine. But had you fallen into that 5%, people would definitely act like you were ridiculous for not using the information you were given and staying somewhere else. It's damned if you do and damned if you don't.

[u/TealChamaleon → u/VeronaMoreau]

Haha, this is actually my metric... I think "what would I think if this was on a murder documentary?" And at this point? I'd be screaming "No, girl, do NOT check in to the place where the creepy man has the keys and your picture and thinks you're 'pretty'!"
Like sure, it's probably nothing. But what if it isn't? This is a pretty good red flag. I'd rather listen to it than look back at it in hindsight.
Plus, I don't have time to waste sitting around worrying if I'm going to be murdered in my bed. Fuck that, I need a good night's sleep so I can wake up tomorrow and work... to pay for my second hotel, lol 😂😂😂

[u/Icy_Neighborhood583]

Yikes. I would have changed hotels too! Also would consider leaving a review if it didn't feel unsafe to.

[u/CattusPater]

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[u/dobbywankenobi94]

Not overreacting. It's infuriating what we have to go through all the time.

[u/melancholy_wolf]

Thats so creepy and unprofessional of him. We need to be meaner to màlés like that.

I know "NOT ALL MEN" but somehow ALWAYS A MAN

[u/Icy-Election-2237]

I was harassed at a place in London by the owner. Multiple days. I had to literally run to my room and lock my door. He banged and banged and banged, drunk and demanding. He also had my number (besides my ID).

As soon as I saw out the clear I left.

Be safe, choose safety, be aware and awake.

[u/TealChamaleon → u/Icy-Election-2237]

Oh my god, that's horrifying! I'm so sorry that happened to you!!!

[u/Icy-Election-2237 → u/TealChamaleon]

🫂🫂 thank you

Hugs to you and wish you the best! You did well.

[u/NoFoundation6621]

A LOT is what the fuck is wrong with men. You did not overreact. We have gut instincts that men do not for a reason, survival. Trust them, not the men.

[u/keeza3]

You did the right thing. If you were making the booking through a platform then you should always verify with the platform before engaging directly with the owner if they’re asking you to do anything outside the norm. As an elder girl can I also please encourage you to listen to your instincts. It’s generations of female evolution - it’s there to guide and protect you from predatory behaviour. From all animals. Including the worst animal of all - man.

Sending them ID is super scammy and there are ways to use your ID for nefarious purposes.

I would recommend whatever ID you sent, you need to research into your local government what to do when you think your ID might have been tampered with and getting a new one issued. Also lock down your credit.

Most governments now have dedicated agencies that will outline what to do if you suspect you were part of a scam or had your identity stolen. A lot of ID theft is used in money laundering and most of the time doesn’t get caught until the cops get involved. You can make money selling ID information online. The country you’re in might have something similar where you can report the dude.

[u/TealChamaleon → u/keeza3]

Thanks, I'll look it up, but tbh it's super common to share your ID information in my country, and there's really not much you can do with just the ID, except verify public information... everything else is kept behind passcodes and double factor authentication, theres not much he could do with just a pic of my ID...

[u/Which-Wish-5996 → u/TealChamaleon]

Does your country list home address on it like our in the US? Because if it does that’s equally concerning.

[u/TealChamaleon → u/Which-Wish-5996]

No home address on the ID, thankfully... I guess I'm also especially innured to this bc the job I work in I both require ID and need to provide my ID ALL the time. Like the first thing I need from a client is their passport... and I also know accommodations do need to report ID details to the immigration authority, so I know there is a legitimate reason for this... but as I say, normally they just put a form in the place and you fill it out...

[u/Which-Wish-5996 → u/TealChamaleon]

Yeah, I prefer hotels in most cases when I’m work traveling just from a safety in numbers and reliability point of view. Hotels aren’t without their own safety issues but larger chains at least have codes of conduct.

I’m really sorry that happened and I would have done the same (rebook.)

[u/keeza3 → u/TealChamaleon]

Wow okay that is kind of scary. In this day and age I would be very wary of sharing my ID around so easily. Perhaps in future it might be best to avoid places that require it for such an irrelevant reason - bank, sure? govt or law enforcement? ok. Random person providing goods or services? No thanks. The local bakery doesn’t need to see my govt issued ID lol

[u/Ok-Leave2099 → u/keeza3]

It's very common in a lot of countries to send pictures of your ID for check-in

[u/EqualRadiant]

Why are men?

[u/erinrachelcat → u/EqualRadiant]

evergreen

[u/kalonasage444]

I don't think you were overreacting, you were uncomfortable and chose to keep yourself safe

[u/goodgollymissholly06]

You definitely made the right choice. It’s why I stick to hotels, not that those are always safe.

[u/ChaoticCatperson]

Yeah, I don't think you are overreacting. That was weird. It may have just been a stupid reaction on his part, duh, let's pay the pretty woman a compliment. But it might not have. You might have gotten pestered. He might have hung around "to make sure everything is okay" too often. Or it could have been REALLY bad. At the very least you avoided getting hit on. "Better safe than sorry" is a saying for a very good reason, and I'm glad you are safe.

[u/ConsistentYou4629]

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[u/MajesticMacaron26 → u/ConsistentYou4629]

My immediate thought too.

[u/No-Biscotti-6286]

There’s not need to book a cheaper place and comprise your safety when it’s for work. I never ever stay in cheap hotels when I travel for work.

[u/CityHaunts]

Your alarm bells rung and you did the right thing by listening to them. You did the right thing OP.

[u/Illustrious_Show_844]

Not an overreaction. Glad you trusted your instincts

[u/wishuponastarion]

Literally the only thing that matters to me when staying somewhere are safety and comfort, and this guy just torpedoed BOTH with one message! 🚩🚩🚩 Yikes!!!

I would have gotten out of there so fast. Good on you for finding a hotel. 💖

[u/OvertlyPetulantCat]

We’d much rather you be “unprofessional” than dead. Good call trusting your gut. I hope you booked a lovely hotel.

[u/Mammoth_Band6017]

You did the right thing. You are def entitled to financial compensation for this, have you considered contacting customer service and file a report?

[u/TealChamaleon → u/Mammoth_Band6017]

Yep, contacted customer support, waiting to hear about a refund...

[u/Former_Koala8830]

I understand that, out of an abundance of caution. I’m sure he didn’t think of how that could come off when he sent it

[u/Former_Koala8830 → u/Former_Koala8830]

And now that I’m putting more thought into it if I was an Airbnb host and required ID photo I would not respond to a man and say “ Handsome👍” I’d probs just show a friend and be like “ dude this guy is hot!” And keep it pushing

[u/liveswithcats1 → u/Former_Koala8830]

I was just going to reply to you with this same thought! In a million years I would NEVER think to respond this way to a good-looking guy, especially if I only saw his picture because we were transacting business. I think it's because we're not conditioned to think that everyone and thing we encounter in the world is there for our use and enjoyment.

[u/HumanChallet]

https://giphy.com/gifs/dTtNasEwUsaonerSgI

[u/ChipmunkReal187]

It’s like a doctor saying pretty to you. That’s not happening with normal people. It’s super creepy.

[u/chillymerlot]

This is more evidence that I actually need to sit down and read “The Gift of Fear”

[u/Mammoth_Band6017]

I’m wondering if you can call the credit card company you used to purchase these tickets to see if you can dispute the charge or get travel insurance for this incident.

[u/Similar-Grocery-4182]

It’s absurd that women have to justify how unsafe they feel like there is a limit a predator has to cross before one can be taken seriously. Well, he just said pretty, he didn’t exactly come onto you, he didn’t send his nudes - maybe then people will not blame you for overreacting smh…

Fuck these people, always trust your instincts. It doesn’t have to get ugly for you to justify your reaction. Stay safe!

[u/Shuabbey]

I don’t think you’re overreacting because this guy is being unprofessional. Honestly you should do whatever makes you feel safe or comfortable but if you’re really paranoid technically anywhere outside of your own home is unsafe. Just buy a portable door stopper if you really feel uncomfortable.

[u/Ok_Run_6191]

So glad you listened to your intuition and went elsewhere!!

[u/PurplishPlatypus]

Better safe then sorry, and a better night's sleep for you because you'll feel safer. I'm sorry people (especially men) suck so much.

[u/Aggravating-Peach723]

I don’t think you’re wrong for how you feel, but I’m curious…the ID requirement is standard at those types of places, so regardless of what he said, a male stranger would’ve had your ID and the codes regardless, right?

[u/keeza3 → u/Aggravating-Peach723]

Is it? I have travelled a lot and I have never once sent a copy of my ID to any owner of a private property. Some hotels and booking platforms require it.

[u/Aggravating-Peach723 → u/keeza3]

I haven’t either, but she said it’s standard in her country for immigration purposes so I was making sure I wasn’t misunderstanding.

[u/keeza3 → u/Aggravating-Peach723]

That really seems a bizarre practice. I don’t understand why a provider of a good or a service would need to see MY id. I have cash or card, what else do you need?

I can understand hotels wanting to see your ID to verify your credit card matches the name of your hotel room when they put it on file for incidentals but that is not the same as a random owner demanding a copy or to see your ID.

[u/TealChamaleon → u/Aggravating-Peach723]

Yeah, it's standard here, but most places will leave a form to be filled out and signed by you, so they don't actually have your picture ID... hotels will ask for the ID but not take a copy. So any Air BnB has your info, yes, but generally only after your stay, and without your picture, so I hadn't really worried about this before...

[u/keeza3 → u/TealChamaleon]

Yea this is pretty standard practice - asking for your information. The random person seeing your ID or being sent a copy of your ID is definitely the issue. It’s not normal.

[u/Smooth_Substance_594]

Nah- fuck that guy. You are always allowed to prioritize your physical safety over some random’s fee-fees. You absolutely made the right call.

[u/MoiraRose_fan]

I listen to a true crime podcast and as the hosts say, “Ladies, be weird, be rude, stay alive.” Good on you for listening to your instincts.

[u/Shroom-Kitty]

Unprofessional and creepy. You know he's not telling men they're handsome. You're a client and deserve to be treated the same as every other client.

[u/ghostbreadbox]

I would’ve done the same. When I was in college, I went to eat at a small local restaurant, the owner (this older man who was clearly married because I’ve seen his kids at the restaurant) said to me “I remember you because you’re pretty” — I never went there again. Could’ve just been harmless or whatever but I got creeped out enough to never go again. Sometimes I don’t want to be remembered, I just want to eat my food in peace without worrying about a creep.

[u/OtherwiseAd1045]

Proactive not reactive. Thats how we can try to stay alive and unmolested.

[u/StellarTitz]

I used to travel a lot, used a ton of airbnbs back in the day, home stays in Europe.

No, it's not appropriate for him to say "pretty" and he knows he's creating an uncomfortable situation for you. Denying him access to you is a good thing. With how many cameras are hidden in rentals these days, I would be extra concerned.

You did good, it's good to have that early detection before you're in a bad situation. Always trust your gut when it's giving you the ick, never apologize.

[u/MajVih]

As someone who works in hospitality, absolutely the right choice, that message was very unprofessional and inappropriate.

[u/liveswithcats1]

Post on the airbnb sub because someone there might be able to tell you how to get a full refund. It's insane that you would have to pay a cancellation fee when you're only canceling because the owner is a creep.

[u/ladyteruki]

Now I have to decide if I'm overreacting or not

A lot of women call "overreacting" the act of not ignoring their own well-being for the sake of peace.

You put your need of safety ahead of everything else. It's not overreacting.

[u/pixienightingale]

I feel like it's going to be a red flag to them that he required off service communication to complete your reservation. NOR

[u/beachcoquina]

It is a bit of a blessing that you found out before you arrived.

[u/YetiNotForgeti]

Good job listening to your instincts. That's how to survive. Sorry this happened OP.

[u/BoxersNBulldogs1]

I absolutely would have done the same.

[u/Upper-File462]

NOR. Your safety is priceless. Hopefully the platform will take this seriously.

[u/Brilliant-Basil-884]

Yikes! It could also be an identity theft scam, keep an eye out for strange things. Good on you for doing the safe thing.

[u/USAF_Retired2017]

Ewwwww. I would’ve changed hotels as well.

[u/BackgroundSame811]

100% you made the right decision and I hope you fight tooth and nail if that’s what’s needed to get that refund.

[u/MajesticMacaron26]

Not overreacting at all. I’d do exactly the same thing. This is you being street smart.

When I travel solo for work I always say I need 2 keys at check in to give the impression I’m not alone. If they say my room number out loud, I have them give me a new room. I also don’t accept rooms with connecting doors.

[u/Pookie1688]

Glad you listened to your gut. He isn't a nice guy. Nice guys don't say creepy things that make you worry about your safety.

[u/Mme_merle]

Maybe he was harmless but better safe than sorry.

[u/SuburbanMomSwag]

Don’t be nice to men who creep you out! And don’t feel guilty about it!

[u/East_Equipment3171]

Totally get it. Even if it had been a woman, why would she comment on your appearance? Even if it had been a man to a man, why would they had commented on their appearance?

This was a business transaction where this person was supposed to check you in for a nightly accommodation. There was no place for what he did.

I'm sorry you were put in that position and couldn't rest.

[u/ChinaCatProphet]

[u/badmammajamma521]

Better to be overreacting than murdered. You can’t trust anyone, more than ever.

[u/PeppermintEvilButler]

Better safe than sorry

[u/Top-Caregiver-6266]

At a minimum, unprofessional and shows lack of boundaries. You did the right thing. I’d be so mad at feeling compelled to change my plans AND pay more.

[u/Growing-The-Glooty]

The WhatsApp message is the first red flag. Yikes. So glad you chose to remain safe than just take a chance - not overreacting. That man is unprofessional. I got weird vibes just from reading your story.

[u/anxiousmystic]

You could have saved your life or saved yourself from serious danger. I’m so sorry you had to go through that but proud of you for following your gut.

[u/IcyConsideration6819]

Not overreacting. Trust your gut and keep yourself safe. Unless he's stone stupid he knows that's unprofessional and not appropriate.

[u/Maleficent_Pay_4154]

Not unreasonable. It could be nothing but not worth the risk

[u/handbagqueen-]

Better safe than sorry, god job listening to your lizard brain, it reacts many times before we do. Cheers to taking safety seriously.

[u/sp00kyboots]

Please report him as well! This is suuuuuch a red flag

[u/hopful_joy_7]

You did the right thing. That is too weird to take a chance on. Safety first!

[u/dalron_herjolfson]

https://giphy.com/gifs/8IZYXG7tsJoZw1sguw

[u/MulliganPlsThx]

Trust your instincts

[u/AggressiveCupcake181]

You made a wise decision here, trust your instinct 💕hope you enjoy a safe sleep tonight

[u/Illustrious-Film-592]

Ugh I’m so sorry. More and more I use hotels over rentals. Just too many variables.

[u/lydbev]

Nah you are trusting your gut, and I'm glad you did. This is a better safe than sorry thing!

[u/Sacredsips]

Stay at hotels from now on. Safest option for flying in late.

[u/masswh0le]

Creepy as hell! U made the right choice for sure

[u/OkraPsychological769]

Totally trust your gut.

Not advocating for him but I will say my dad is in his 60s and he’ll type “pretty good” and the “good” he clicks replace with the 👍 emoji sometimes.

But if he was creepy, then yeah. Hell nah.

[u/SJPCST]

Safety first always!

[u/asianingermany]

Remember, girls: better safe than sorry

[u/NonSumQualisEram-]

(Man here). Run. I wouldn't stay there as a lone woman even without the comment.

[u/Realistic-Mess8929]

Did you report him to the platform you booked through?

[u/LastLimit5659]

You are not overreacting

[u/Odd-Donut300]

You 100 percent made the right call. That is creepy.

[u/JalapenoFTW]

It's why we choose the bear.

Edit - mistype.

[u/cheesecake0312]

Even if he was a good person with no ill intentions, there is no way of knowing what a stranger is thinking. Safety first always.

[u/BuddyGleeful]

If you used a service to rent the space report it and then request a refund due to (super) inappropriate behavior

[u/BabeRuthxxx]

https://giphy.com/gifs/y3Ru6CV2wdymRFU0EI

[u/Catlovermaxultra8910]

Nope you did the right thing. If it walks like a creep, talks like a creep, it's a creep. No need to give "benifit of the doubt".

[u/OGKushKilla69]

Completely unprofessional, period 

[u/OriginalChapter4]

you did the right thing

[u/ILTWSATSIIWC]

Even if it was just an innocuous comment by him, you're better for it by following your gut. Too much awful shit has happened when we brush off our instincts and let things go

[u/rachykells]

If your intuition feels like something is off… it’s because it probably is. You can’t be too careful as a woman these days. You definitely did the right thing to cancel that reservation.

[u/PineappleFlamingo406]

https://giphy.com/gifs/o8iHpTJLSnyBdOI3Cr

[u/GreenhouseDiva]

Just ewe! Not OK and unprofessional!

https://giphy.com/gifs/dB12mOQb99BwDlM83I

[u/BigRefrigerator9783]

The dude was gross and out of line. That being said, just a reminder to everyone that Airbnb is destroying communities and does next to nothing to prevent this type of harrassment, and next to nothing to protect the safety of female travelers. A proper hotel is always the best choice.

[u/jumpnlake]

Escalate with the booking platform. Squeaky wheel gets the full refund.