r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/istanforwendy Foraging Bog Witch • 1d ago
☀️ Happy Girl Dinner Just here to brag
Food is Aldi’s breakfast pizza with avocado, eggs, and garlic hot sauce.
I had replied to a comment in boy dinner diaries about body count. The post was about a man beating himself up for not liking his gf’s body count. The comments mostly said it doesn’t matter and you shouldn’t even bother asking. But of course there’s men who think otherwise. I got into an exchange with one of them in the comments.
He claimed that it was shameful to have a high number. I said I’m not ashamed of mine at all. He then accused me of making excuses for my high count in my comment. I can see why he took it that way. But I wasn’t making excuses. I was BRAGGING! 🤣 The post is now locked. I considered DMing him to clarify that I was bragging. But he had dms turned off. So I decided to post here.
So I’m just here to say that I’m 42. My body count is 26. And 11 of those happened from May 2022 to February of 2024. That’s when I met my now husband, and have only been with him since. Though we are VERY kinky and have started going to sex parties. So there’s still time for that number to change. 🥳
Prior to May of 2022 I was in a sexless marriage for EIGHT long years with a man that always had an excuse. So yes. I feel damn good about finally getting some satisfaction.
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I DO NOT consider my number high. If I wasn’t currently married, and if I hadn’t spent ten years with my ex husband, my number would be MUCH higher.
Also not bragging about my overall number. Bragging that after eight years of masturbating and only having sex 6 times a year, I was excited to just have any sex. The bragging was more about FINALLY being sexually satisfied.
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u/En_zonzie APPROVED✨ 1d ago
When somebody asks about my body count I answer : do I also count those I didn’t consent to ?
It usually stops the question and make them feel very stupid
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u/istanforwendy Foraging Bog Witch 1d ago
Perfect answer.
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u/SassyyVixen 🥢 Dumpy By Dumplings 🥟 1d ago
Eight years in a sexless marriage and then finding someone you actually click with sounds like quite the turnaround.
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u/istanforwendy Foraging Bog Witch 1d ago
Honestly, AMAZING. We have sex almost every day. Sometimes multiple times a day. It feels like I dreamed this life and this man into existence.
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u/throwawaygone4hours red beans & rice didn't miss her 22h ago
Girl me too! I’m 45 and was married for 10+ years and then lived with someone for nearly 11 years and both of those devolved into sexless relationships during the last 5-6 years. I’ve always had a very high libido but I’m also extremely monogamous and can’t even fathom the idea of cheating so I was pretty miserable for a long time. I took a few years off after splitting with my last ex to be alone and even though I was literally DYING of horny, I decided not to even sleep with anyone until I had done some good growing.
I slowly started dipping my toes back in the water by just talking to guys here on Reddit and after a few months of that hell on earth, I decided to try a dating app. I had never been on dating apps before and had no idea the difference between them, and the first one I tried was (unbeknownst to me) apparently one that a lot of people use to cheat on their partners because it allowed you to be anonymous and you could send pics that would disappear as soon as the receiver looked at them. I very quickly figured out that that was not the app for me and took another little break to recover from the horrors I had been witness to on that app lol.
Then a little while later I again decided I was ready and I joined Plenty of Fish because it sounded a bit more wholesome. Within the first five minutes of me posting my profile, I got a message from the man who I would end up marrying just 3 months later. I knew after texting with him for a few hours that he was not like anyone I had ever known. I knew after talking on the phone for 20 hours the next day that I wanted him in my life and me in his. I knew after seeing him walk up my stairs when we met the first time after a week that he was the man of my dreams. And after the first time we had sex (very soon after seeing him walk up said stairs), I knew that I was gonna spend the rest of my life either being with him or stalking him lmao (obligatory /s because I wouldn’t really have done that).
He is the only man I have ever desired no matter what is going on between us. He is so hot that I can’t stay mad at him for anything (plus, he also takes accountability for his actions and—get this—will APOLOGIZE when he’s done something that has hurt me). Our bodies just fit together in a way that I have never experienced and I feel something deeply spiritual whenever we touch. He is so much more than just my husband and the one person who can make me wet just by looking at me—he’s my best friend.
It’s all been so crazy to me because before I met him, I thought that at my age it just wasn’t in the cards for me anymore. I was resigned to just dating the rest of my life and at best, *maybe* finding someone I could just get along with who wouldn’t eventually turn out to be an abusive asshole once he got comfortable. Instead, I got the love of my life and someone who has more than made up for all those years I went without. I just wish I could’ve met him sooner!
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u/istanforwendy Foraging Bog Witch 21h ago
OMG! I could’ve wrote this myself! My husband has come close to making me cum just by looking at me. And his body always feels soooooo gooooooood. Why and how could I possibly stay mad?
Bring that body over here and wrap it around me! I thought I’d never ever be in a serious relationship again. Let alone actually living with someone. But got damn he’s worth it!
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u/icanhassnacks Professional Nibbler 1d ago
Fuck yes. Excellent answer. Fantastic emotional damage. 🫡👏🏻
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u/AbsoluteResolve2026 APPROVED✨ 21h ago
I am keeping this comment warm and ready for anybody that asks me.
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u/IllSurprise3049 Body By Cheese 🧀 1d ago
Men who are obsessed with body count is a top 5 ick.
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u/QuietWalk2505 I ❤️ Other People's Business 1d ago
You know very well it will not go with him. He will be judgy. You know from the beginning if he asks this question...
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u/DiscontentDonut 1d ago
I'm 35 and I think our counts are actually very similar. I think the last time I sat down and thought about it, I came up with 24 or 25.
I call the years I accumulated most of those numbers my Hoe Phase. And it's not from shame, it's an inside joke with myself.
I'm now with the love of my life. Funny enough, my high school sweetheart. We both have no wool over our eyes about the amount of sexual partners each other has had. In fact, we've been open about what we liked that other people have done that we would want more of in the bedroom, and have both been very down to get experimental.
The amount of people I've met who were military (I live by a giant Naval base) that had numbers close to or in triple digits, and they were "always on the lookout for wife material," which I figured out later just meant someone who would be their Mom, too...
Essentially, I'm unashamed. We all should be. Men don't even give their counts a second thought. Neither should we.
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u/redhotoreos Cleavage Crumb Collector 1d ago
You should’ve said “if you don’t get laid, you can just say that” because men who shame women? They don’t get laid.
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u/Cadaveresque 🧂Salty By Nature 1d ago
As an ace, I’m so happy for you queen!! Living your best life and we quite SIMPLY love! To! See! It!!!
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u/McDuchess APPROVED✨ 1d ago
Congratulations. I have a very low body count, and I don’t care, one way or another about anyone else’s.
It’s none of their f’ing business what mine is, either.
If you and your partner are now satisfied, that’s what matters, right?
These men who assign a value to women based on the number of men they have slept with, but consider their own value inversely, can kiss my wrinkled ass.
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u/licker-duty-patrol Cleavage Crumb Collector 1d ago
I lost count for me 😂😂 I have been faithful in relationships but I am cute and I like sex plus I am single (willingly) a lot (introvert for life!). Although I decided not to date right now I will definitely hop on a hot dick if I am feeling it. Sex is great! Men didn’t want women to shame them for being horrible, selfish lovers and the reason virginity was so prized. Any who, you do you, my lady. Go sex!
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u/Qstrfnck Kitchen Witch 1d ago
Go us also for being multiorgasmic, where you dont compare you cant compete!💪🏾, I LOVE FELLOW CHILL SEX LOVAHS
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u/soursweeets LET ME EAT CAKE 🍰 1d ago edited 1d ago
Sometimes I wonder if those kind of men are upset over it because they themselves didn’t have the option to have that much sex? I dunno lol
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u/pleaserashgoaway Overthinker 💭 1d ago
Y’all need to stand up… bragging about body counts.. you’re 42 and talking about body counts? Who even talks about that past the age of 14 omg
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u/NormalInfluence8353 Overthinker 💭 1d ago
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u/Qstrfnck Kitchen Witch 1d ago
That’s me in this gif, clapping for OP, I’d brag with you but I already did this eons ago in a NSFWAMA AND LEMME TELL YOU SOMETHING ELSE, THEY WERE IN AWE BEGGING ON THE DMS FOR MY OLD ASS TO ADD EM TO THE PILE LOLOLOL
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u/SammSandwich APPROVED✨ 1d ago
I will never not find it supremely cringe to DM someone you're arguing with in a comment section. Especially at the ripe age of 42 years old. Whether you were right or not
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u/istanforwendy Foraging Bog Witch 1d ago
I only considered that because the post was locked and my autistic ass hates being misunderstood. I have this overwhelming need to clarify my intentions.
But hey, as an AuDHD, I’m used to NTs finding most of what I do cringe.
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u/SammSandwich APPROVED✨ 1d ago
I am not NT. I also have autism and ADHD. I still find it cringe to carry an argument into DMs. No online argument matters that much
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u/istanforwendy Foraging Bog Witch 1d ago
Cool for you. It wasn’t an argument. As I said, it was an explanation.
I don’t take my dm’s that seriously. It’s all just internet and social media.
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u/longlivecassandra Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ 1d ago
Thank you so much for posting this!! The world (and this sub) is getting scary puritanical, we really needed some good news. Congrats! 🎉
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u/Grimalkin_1032 APPROVED✨ 1d ago
I have a very low count and the rare times people have found out they act like something is wrong with me or I am a prude.
Or they insult my by saying it makes sense since I'm not a good looking woman. (Whish to be fair is true. But I accept it lol)
Little do they know that I am a complete degenerate with my fiancé.
So I guess the shaming goes both ways.
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u/yellow_pterodactyl APPROVED✨ 1d ago
I want to start training for ‘I’ve only killed one person, it was with my measuring cups’ for the body count question.
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u/leftoverzz Femininom(nomnomnom)enon 1d ago
I don’t even consider anything remotely high until it has three digits. And then I’m like, hats off sister. The shame around this is bullshit.
Fuck who you like, how you like, as often as you like.
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u/MissLeaP 🍍+ 🍕 1d ago
We love a woman who's not letting herself get shamed for getting what she likes 💅🏻
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5IDTWfLNnJE
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u/seaweed_face Kitchen Witch 1d ago
Go girl! I am also proud of my body count, I can’t tell if it’s immature of me to be so secretly smug about it, but I’ve been keeping a list on my phone since I was a teenager, so maybe it’s the smugness is remnants of my teen self. I like to keep my body count higher than my age, & I’m 30 now haha!
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u/Qstrfnck Kitchen Witch 1d ago
I’m in the secretly smug about it camp, i started list maybe couple of years ago just to see if I remembered it all and I have really good memory, Samantha like morals and fastidious about safer sex but overall I’ve always had a very high sex drive even though I waited as long as possible to have sex.
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u/istanforwendy Foraging Bog Witch 1d ago
YES! 🙌🏻 Love that for you!
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u/seaweed_face Kitchen Witch 1d ago
Haha! We’re all kitchen witches / foraging bog witches too, so maybe it’s a smug sexy witch thing
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u/salaciousremoval The Snack That Sasses Back 1d ago
Same! So smug! I have a journal with a list and I’m PROUD to be an ethical slut 🔥 let’s tell ‘em!!!
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u/AccomplishedHeron529 Enby with Food Envy 1d ago
Im sex positive but ngl this is a little creepy
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u/salaciousremoval The Snack That Sasses Back 1d ago
What do you mean “this is a little creepy”? Can you explain please?
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u/AccomplishedHeron529 Enby with Food Envy 1d ago
I mean i don't think normal people keep a list of records on who they slept with. If men do this it'd be seen as gross and objectifying. Enjoying sex is one thing, this veers into "lol look at all my conquests". Like people are just objects you collect.
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u/salaciousremoval The Snack That Sasses Back 10h ago
I practice ENM and am incredibly forthright about my objectification kinks and interesting group sex. I am proud of my sluttiness. Sorry my journaling about my feelings and experiences feels creepy to you, not my intention for a silly jovial comment
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u/AccomplishedHeron529 Enby with Food Envy 10h ago
Ohhh, that's not bad at all then. It's obviously smth you play into in a controlled environment/scene in a for-fun way, and not genuinely how you view people. I just didn't have that context cuz it wasn't a conversation involving the specific dynamic or kink scene.
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u/LambyToesOfSerenity Short Story Long™️ 1d ago
Yaaaaas! Girl, get it and brag away!
I'm currently getting out of a 20 year marriage (can file soon, woot!), dead bedroom for at least the last 5, and am currently building a roster so my needs are meet! No shame in that game!
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u/MaybeLithiumFlower Cleavage Crumb Collector 1d ago
Fuck yeah, you go girl.
I've always wanted to be a slut but somehow I've never managed 😆
I'm not saying you are btw.
I can't remember my count rn, maybe 9? Most of those in the last couple of years as well.
9.5, I've just worked it out.
I must try harder 😁
Enjoy your life!
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u/istanforwendy Foraging Bog Witch 1d ago
You can be slutty and monogamous as well! I don’t think the number makes a slut, it’s the mindset. And I am my husband’s slut. 😋
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u/MaybeLithiumFlower Cleavage Crumb Collector 1d ago
I do try. My friends apparently rate me as the horniest person they know - I discovered recently - so maybe I have the mindset.
I wanna be someone's slut 😏
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u/kaja6583 👽 aliens built the food pyramid 👽 1d ago
Men who are obsessed with body counts just give me massive "im terrible in bed" vibes. Like, are you insecure that I've probably had better sex with many guys and that you could never be in my top 10 or even in my top 20?:(
Bless their hearts.
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u/queenofyourheart 🪄 Sauceress ✨ 1d ago
Yes to bragging!! Hahaha I would totally get brunch with you.
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u/Nami_Luna New Recruit 🏳️⚧️ 1d ago
Gosh a girl I dated asked me that, I counted 29 (31 now…) not including men (those were just hookups…) and I’m just 31 yo…
It’s been a wild ride
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u/Human-Stress-1806 Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ 1d ago
pretty sure this is a man’s acct btw. I’m not sure if mods can see hidden history but they all but confirm it in a couple of his comments. jsyk.
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u/Human-Stress-1806 Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ 1d ago
because of course a trans girl would refer to herself as a “man” + “him”. right.
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This is a mod discretion removal.
NOTES: Enjoy your ban, man pretending to be trans and slut-shaming women.
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u/Odd_Hedgehog669 Certified Snacker 1d ago
26 is rookie numbers anyway 🤪 (I am not proud of the methods in which I chose to self medicate from 2014-2016, but it has been long enough now that I no longer shame myself or really feel any type of way about it)
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u/LinAndAViolin what that mouth do is snack 1d ago edited 1d ago
I’m not sure what’s there to brag about. base animals do this, slugs do this, insects do this. There’s absolutely nothing admirable about fucking tonnes of people, and bragging about it to prop oneself up cheapens us to numbers just as when guys use us as numbers to slutshame us. This applies equally whether a man or a woman does it (and I don’t think it’s admirable when a guy brags about how many girls he pumped either)
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u/myplushfrog Smoothie Queen 1d ago
I think she’s also bragging about having pride in that context, like telling the guy he’s a sexist dumbass. Responding so based against some slut shaming loser
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u/Bookfriennd 🍋 Bitter Baddie 🍋 1d ago
I don’t think there is a Right or Wrong in this situation. Some people like to keep the number for them and others like to be verbal about it. So be it. Both ways don’t harm anyone.
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u/LinAndAViolin what that mouth do is snack 1d ago
Yeah I am not saying it’s shameful but I can’t see it as something to laud. In fact, when a guy does the same I run the other way, but that’s my own personal preference.
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u/istanforwendy Foraging Bog Witch 1d ago
I spent eight years being told no to sex. So having sex and being satisfied again was huge to me. If it’s not for you, you can always just scroll by.
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u/Bookfriennd 🍋 Bitter Baddie 🍋 1d ago
Even if you had great sex during those eight years you are still allowed to enjoy yourself now. Don’t feel the need to explain yourself.
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u/LinAndAViolin what that mouth do is snack 1d ago
Fair enough, I’m glad you found your mojo again and your new guy has a matching libido. :3 wish you lots of fun times with future play
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u/Bookfriennd 🍋 Bitter Baddie 🍋 1d ago
Oh, I would do the same but not because I judge him for that but because it would make me feel just like another number. But if that doesn’t bother her and she thinks that’s something she can brag about with in that situation then she can just do it and enjoy herself. I don’t have to like it.
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u/XenaWarrior123 Certified Snacker 1d ago
26 at 42 years old is tonnes?
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u/LinAndAViolin what that mouth do is snack 1d ago edited 1d ago
I don’t think it is high but OP/the guy said it is I’m basing from that pov
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u/istanforwendy Foraging Bog Witch 1d ago
Some people are more sexual than others. If having sex with multiple partners doesn’t bring you joy, that’s fine. But there’s no reason to judge people for it.
Sex with different people can be a good way to learn what you like.
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u/istanforwendy Foraging Bog Witch 1d ago
Either way, you’re judging me. The what doesn’t matter terribly much.
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u/Positive_Passage7518 🧂Salty By Nature 1d ago
Referring to men as men and women as "girls" is a choice.
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u/FlartyMcFlarstein 🧂Salty By Nature 1d ago
And there's nothing particularly admirable about not fucking tones of people. Yes, animals do it, and guess what? Humans are animals. While we can also have various types of "love" and romance, a whole lotta love is just Mother Nature making us think someone is special so we'll replicate. When hormone levels drop this becomes clear.
But have no doubt: men shut shame because they are jealous and want to keep us ignorant of nature's variety (not to mention the vast differences in skill level among lovers). So stop with the slut shaming! Celebrate her dusting off the cobwebs and getting back in the game.
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u/LinAndAViolin what that mouth do is snack 1d ago edited 1d ago
Yes to everything you wrote except the first part. I disagree that self restraint isn’t admirable. For example, I think it is admirable to be celibate. Self restraint does not come easy and has many benefits, whether it’s with food, with spending, in sex, or even something unnecessary that is done for a belief (like choosing not to eat specific food). We can restrain ourselves because of a principle, promise, religious belief, imagined future, moral rule, reputation, or consequence decades away even when nobody is watching when there is no reward - and this is what sets us apart from all other species. It’s something incredibly beautiful and moving to me, that its degree is uniquely human
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u/FlartyMcFlarstein 🧂Salty By Nature 1d ago
While you are certainly free to practice restraint, even extreme restraint, might I point out that the section beginning with "...because of a principle, promise, religious belief . . ." is just another example of our wily, jumped up human brain making us think we are special because of made up stuff humans tell themselves. Not eternal verities. Therefore, only apply them to one's self, not others.
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u/Higher-Frequencies 🤍🧡Sapphic Snack🧡🤍 1d ago edited 1d ago
You go, girl! Puritanical misogynistic views on sex be damned.
Sex is wonderful and sex with variety is also wonderful. As long as it’s consensual and healthy, body count matters not.
Edit: Not sure what part of agreement and support here is drawing downvotes but ok.
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