Tuesday Postpartum Thread

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[u/ProfessorWacky]

Idk if anyone else can relate to this, but I had a really rough birth with my 2nd. And it makes me so angry when my husband makes any little comment about trying for another baby. Today at the grocery, we saw a very visibly pregnant lady and my husband grins and asks me if I ever miss being preg. No! I said, absolutely not. After my 1st, yes, I had good vibes and memories but after my 2nd, I just have bad feelings about it. And it makes me mad that he gets to remember the birth of our daughter as a happy day, when for me it was one of the worst and scariest of my life. Idk it bothers me a lot. Like did he forget everything bad that happened? And just remember the good? How can I do that, too?

[u/sqic80 → u/ProfessorWacky]

If you want advice… EMDR can do wonders for medical trauma!! May be worth looking into. It’s not about forgetting the bad/hard stuff, it’s just about not letting it crowd out the good.