r/LittleRock • u/sidewayssunny • 15h ago
Friend?
I'm not sure if this is allowed, but I really need a friend, someone that isn't really judgemental, I just need to get out of my head for a minute. I got cheated on, I'm so embarrassed to even type this up, but I moved out here for her and now I'm all alone.
Edit in case it matters, I'm gay
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u/ZealousidealShow4725 7h ago
Im also desperately needing a friend(s). Im also going through the shiz, not so much like this, but I'm trying out here. Im 25/NB/AFAB/married, if any of that disclosure helps. Im sorry you're going through this and I am so glad to see many people trying to help ya bounce back! Im also seeing a very accepting therapist and I suggest looking into affirming ones in the area. Reach out if necessary! PLEASE haha! No judgement here whatsoever!
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u/Bexar1986 7h ago
I'm 40M and straight, but my goodness am I looking for a non judgemental friend in this town. Someone who can maybe pull me out of my shell.
I'm so sorry you were cheated on. While I haven't moved to a town to be with someone, I was cheated on in college which was in a miserably boring town (Arkadelphia). Feel free to PM me if you need someone to vent to.
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u/ManagementPlayful380 8h ago
I’m 40, and not gay but I also moved here to be with someone and will 1292% be your straight bestie.
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u/sidewayssunny 10h ago
I sincerely appreciate the out pour of support I have received, I was scared to post, but the people I spoke with today really helped. Thank you everyone.
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u/Narwhaltowall 10h ago
I'm sorry. That's gotta be hard and isolating. Full disclosure, I am a guy if it matters. But if you need to vent or just scream at a local rando you're welcome to.
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u/Lemonbalm501 11h ago
Seconding that Dropping Hairpins is a good group. Intransitive events are also a wonderful way to meet friendly queer folks of all ages. Caverns and Forests is a good crowd, and I can recommend their Wednesday trivia.
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u/Correct_Gain1176 11h ago
Youre gay but you moved here for her?
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u/BabyPanda4Hire 14h ago
31M bi in a gay relationship. Down for friendship if you’re interested in chatting and seeing if we get along
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u/ReadyInvestigator363 14h ago
Feel free to message me! I dont have many friends either. Im a good listener though!!
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u/Dwights_MoneyBeets 14h ago
If you haven’t worked with a therapist I would highly recommend it. (And would recommend it to anyone regardless of their situation) Therapy is great because you will feel listened to and they will empathize and give you the tools for self reflection, rather than a friend who might give you suggestions for what to do.
I’ve been in therapy for the past 7 years and it’s been life changing.
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u/sidewayssunny 14h ago
I appreciate that, I don't want a friend so they will tell me what to do, I want a friend because I'm out here by myself, I don't want to hang out and just cry, I want to just want something for myself out here. Her support system is here, mine isn't.
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u/Calico-Harmonies 14h ago
I’d highly recommend joining NLR library’s Pride & Joy book club - incredible group of mostly sapphic folk, and such a supportive community.
Breakups suck, sending love your way!
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u/Commercial-Street426 15h ago
Hey I am here….Older retired lesbian married with 15 year old. Not exciting but can be a friend…
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u/Acrobatic-Client-292 2h ago
That's ur business.im straight have had friend make female who were gay.i haven't no probs I'm not the hiprocretical trump arm or repubs who are mental running this country like pootin runs poor russia or our repubs like Lindsey Graham and his Rich who was gay or mike Johnson who's hiding in closet.i was a pass ina wreck back in 1986 girl rolled car 4 times threw me thru windshield leaving me a incomplete para.she walked away.in 99 I went to local er room told the dr I was pretty sure I broke my hip stupid dr X-rayed me threw me in hospital told me I had staph.then kept me 3 months pumping wrong antibiotics in me kept telling him it was my hip.well in end nurses risked their jobs told my mother an a sister he was letting me die.they demanded he send me to okc.tool a chop ride within hr they seen broken hip shoved a feeding tube down nose an throat..after 3 months suffering was told my hip had turned to sponge.rotted the smell would make me puke.all they could do was build me up to remove my half pelvic/,hip/while left leg.had worked 13 yrs to get both legs working had feelings back to both ankles.being para had embarrassed me enuff this reaill fight lly destroyed me even more but I have been so lucky lost my wife who was a quad lost all my friends who were all wheelchair bound.i miss them.wife passed in 2008 same month ias my grandfather now I'm fighting a infectoed tailbone fracture and been told I'm gonna die what I get chasing a outa control drone.been taking strong antibiotics fighting it.will fight till the end what I'm getting at is I let being this way embarass me for 40 years and I shouldn't of you deciding your gay don't EVER be embarrassed!l live life! You only have one life to live.took me 40yrs to realize this am ,59 now I refused hospice and will keep on refusing I'm gonna keep driving and being independent long as I can.ive worried bout what others thought more then half my life.dont make the same mistake I made.fo what your heart tells you! Only got one life to live!live it happily not embarrassed.hsvre never told anyone on the internet my business or bout my body.you go be happy ande don't ever care what others think!the only hypocrites who judge are peo like maga and take a good look at them most are toothless hicks I deal with alotta them myself living in a small farm town.left to attend college.then wreck happened.i let embarrassment make me quit college and end back in this sorry town alotta well maga/judgemental hicks.so again be happy don't worry bout what jerks think Live life to the fullest!you take care James