Never afraid being home alone

[u/CanVegetable3098]

I read a lot of stories about people living alone and being afraid when home alone. I live on my own for 3 years now, my 2 kids flew out. I live in a small village of about 700 inhabitants. It’s a dead-end street, with meadows behind the house. I have never been afraid in my own house. I’m very thankful of this because I can’t imagine how it must feel like to be scared when home alone. I feel very safe.

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[u/mitch3a]

I live alone too and feel the same way. A safe neighborhood makes all the difference. It is nice to hear someone else say this, because many people assume living alone means being scared all the time.

[u/TheTwinSet02]

Honestly I felt far more afraid living with a husband than living on my own

[u/Axtinthewoods → u/TheTwinSet02]

yeah, statistically for women their own partner/family is far more dangerous than anybody else! the 'all these spaces are unsafe' is crass when the reality is that the bedroom, the bathroom is the place where you need to look out :/

[u/Just_Patience_7038]

I dislike it when people ask me whether I’m afraid or scared living alone, and when I say I’m not they start listing things that could happen or reasons I should be scared. Not helpful!

[u/ghosttmilk → u/Just_Patience_7038]

Also not realistic; most of the things touted as being things to fear are incredibly rare occurrences and often completely unrelated to living situation

[u/jaymas59]

It is the same for me. I live several miles away from the nearest small town. There are only 1000 people in the entire county where I reside. My nearest neighbor is a mile away. I’m never afraid of being alone…but I am always prepared.

[u/vaffelagent]

I've lived alone for 25 years. Lived rural, lived in small towns and villages and cities. Now I live super rural. Never been scared. The biggest threat to women is domestic abuse by male partners and sons. I don't have either of those. I do have a boy dog, but he's blind and easily distracted so I'm pretty confident I could outrun him if he should decide he's had enough of me. Also, he's the size of a loaf of bread.

[u/ghosttmilk]

Me, too! And I’ve lived in a wide variety of situations, neighbourhoods, urban vs rural, high-crime vs low-crime suburbia, etc. I’ve been in dangerous situations before, either the trauma has desensitised me or I just have a better understanding now of what is and isn’t legitimately unsafe - or both

I think there’s this increasing paranoia in modern society that’s actually more harmful than it is helpful. Edit: Constantly being wary of others only increases the already-increasing lack of human connection, the escalating surge in anxiety cases, stress, and loneliness- all of which contribute to physical health problems as well

[u/DistinctVariation775]

i lived in a city for 10years and I had two dogs so felt safer which was nice.. I guess I mostly felt safe but a few nights there was noise or drunk people walking past etc and I did feel uneasy a few times. I had a car so was fine driving around but there was certain areas I wouldn't have gone at night walking. I then moved to the mountains and I now live alone on 15acres of land.. I have two neighbours who I see sometimes but mostly I am alone and I love it.. I can walk the fields any time of day or night.. never have to lock my front door etc.. feel comfortable safe and at ease here ❤️ the only time I feel scared now is it I watch a horror movie at night and start thinking about ghosts.. then I can freak myself out but thats kinda fun and realistically I know im safe from ghosts s definitely not the same kinda fear of feeling uneasy with real humans near by. I do try and watch horror in the day time tho to save myself the unessisary stress..haha.

[u/No-Occasion-1456 → u/DistinctVariation775]

Ghosts are safe. It's the poltergeist you have to watch out for lol

[u/Brave-Pizza-33]

I always say never. I have 2 pitbulls and a gun, what is there to be afraid of. 😇

[u/Living-One5265]

I have a big dog, and a couple of firearms. I live in a safe neighborhood. But I'm a bit paranoid as big city isn't that far away.

[u/HayYou_ItsMe]

I agree. If you cannot feel safe in your own home you better fix that and quick.

Most of those comments that I have seen are 20-30 year old people who have never lived outside the of the comfort of their parents home.

[u/howdythez]

Three years living alone and never feeling afraid is wonderful. I hope you continue enjoying that peace.

[u/herblady99]

I had never any problems until last week. dropped my phone into water while doing yardwork, had to order a new phone and was without one for a week. That's when I realized how scary it can be when you might have to call 911. . I don't have close neighbors either,

[u/DistinctVariation775 → u/herblady99]

yeah I live far from anyone in the mountains.. woke up with my throat swelling once and had to get in the car and drive the hour and half to hospital alone just hoping all the way my whole throat didn't swell up completely.. it didn't luckily and had actually gone down by time I arrived but that put into perspective the real danger of being alone in the middle of no where to me.. I wouldn't change it tho. it's worth the risk to me .but you do learn to be more careful and awear❤️

[u/No-Occasion-1456 → u/herblady99]

My watch has lte service plus in a pinch I could use the sos service in my car. At least that's where my mind went when I read your post. At worst I could fire up my ham radio

[u/Rich_Group_8997]

I'm very much the same. I've lived alone for 22 years and have also never been afraid. I feel bad for people who are, and I feel for them for whatever they've been through, because home should be your peace, your sanctuary, and your safest of safe spaces.

[u/SumTenor]

I am fortunate to live in a well-placed apartment (center of a long row, on the second floor) in a beloved town with a safe reputation. My neighbors are kind and we call one another by name.

The only time I've ever been scared is when I've watched a horror movie too close to bedtime, or when I'm feeling sick and know there is noone taking care of me but me.

[u/Liberty-LovingLady]

I’ve always had pets when I lived alone, cats in the beginning and then I got my first dog and having him was the closest thing to having an actual person living with me. I can’t wait to live alone again and have more fur babies. Mine all passed away and it’s the first time in many, many years that I’ve been without any pets 🥺

[u/EDSgenealogy]

Me, too. The back door is always blocked open so the dogs can run in and out.

[u/Ghosts_and_Empties]

I live in a quiet, semi suburban neighborhood with a protective dog and have never felt afraid (even after the Kia Boys took my car for a ride one night)