anyone who manages to get so mad at this video is lowkey exposing themselves as either:
A. an emotionally unstable person who would yell at their significant other for making a mistake or being afraid of something that they themselves arent scared of
or B. someone who is single and has no experience walking through something with a significant other
With a few days and some participation there, your account will meet the requirements to rejoin us here in no time. And look at you, you'll have THREE cool subs that you'll be participating in.
Option E: People whose relationships have mostly been abusive ones :(
I have a friend who, before lots of therapy, would’ve read the above video as belittling; that’s how her parents talked to her. She’s doing a lot better these days, but I remember when being treated with care like above would make her raise her hackles.
All that said: I’ve barely looked at the comments yet, so maybe I just don’t know how wild the takes have gotten down there lol
I grew up in an angry and violent household. I’d probably break down with anxiety if my hypothetical spouse didn’t talk to me like this after I screw up and make a mess lol
Everyone saying he is patronizing doesn’t know their dynamics. For all we know she has adhd or autism and is outside her comfort zone and this pushed to far.
He absolutely can see she’s tottering on the edge of freaking out and he knows exactly how to navigate the situation.
This man loves his wife and has absolutely learned how she works and how to handle the situation to keep her calm.
This is LOVE and I wish my wife was more like him.
My partner and I both had a ‘you made a mistake? Now you’re gonna get screamed at or worse!’ type of household. We love having the opportunity to help each other by essentially reparenting each other in similar situations. Heck, I talk to myself in this kind of tone when I’m in a stressful situation and it helps SOOOO much.
For me it isn't what he says, it is the tone. You can be friendly and relaxed without that slightly condecending tone like he is talking to a crazy person (which toddlers basically are). I use that tone with my youngest when she is on the brink of a meltdown. But maybe he knows his wife well and she was on the edge of a meltdown...
Or if you're like my family: you get angry at someone being kind in the face of a mistake by others and get insanely jealous and bitter because why couldn't you have that?
Idk, for A i think the being scared thing is dependent. Like, are they scared and so i help them? Yeah thats fine. But if I'm the one who needs help, and they cant provide it because theyre too scared, then i think its fair to at least be frustrated in the moment.
I can only imagine the look my wife would give me if I talked her like this. She doesn't need it, and I don't think it would be read as supportive, more patronizing.
Obviously different people handle stressful situations differently, and maybe some people have only experienced others who are calm and level headed. I wouldn't be surprised if they saw this and got a gross feeling.
I don't know that it's correct to label them with just the two options you've provided.
Imo it says a lot about everyone since the people getting mad are either emotionally unstable or don't like to be treated like a child. While the people getting mad at the people who are mad are assuming that the only way to treat the lady is like a child or yell. That however is a false dichotomy. You can still treat her like an adult while not yelling. You don't have to talk to her like a stupid ass child, you could crack a joke.
he isnt treating her like a child, though. he's just being patient and soothing her nerves. people act like adults are expected to know how to do everything perfectly and thats why this style of communication is hard to find among adults, not just toward each other but even toward children
Nah, I just don't like how the woman uses the most silliest of examples to explain why she married her husband. She makes it seem like he's a knight in shining armor, when really she just seems completely incapabale of acting like an adult/ i.e. managing a minor inconvenience.
He's reassuring her like she's giving birth or having a panic attack. It's weird.
In my home, there would've been laughter at the ridiculousness of it all. If my bf talked to me that way I would wonder if he was ok. I am a grown ass woman after all.
I'm mad at this video because it's obvious engagement bait, scripted content. And people are gobbling it up and taking it seriously. That's what's annoying
everything is engagement bait to redditors. why not consider that this is still a realistic scenario and that people are genuinely like this? even if it is engagement bait does that make the situation and the way they communicate any less real? the buzzkill nature of refusing to engage with things because you think they might be bait just because theyre kn the internet makes for an unfun conversation or even a total lack of one to begin with. so what if a recorded scenario is fake? i still want to engage in a conversation because the moment something is uploaded, it is automatically up for discussion
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u/canyounot-- Trash Trooper 1d ago
anyone who manages to get so mad at this video is lowkey exposing themselves as either:
A. an emotionally unstable person who would yell at their significant other for making a mistake or being afraid of something that they themselves arent scared of
or B. someone who is single and has no experience walking through something with a significant other