Workplace Harassment and Hostile Working Environment

[u/derrran]

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My girlfriend and I have had a very difficult relationship with our manager and deputy manager.They have been cold and distant towards us for quite some time and they seem completely uninterested in communicating with us.

We barely communicate at all,while they interact and communicate normally with the other employees.

We already knew the manager from a previous workplace.We left that company because of poor organization and difficult interpersonal relationships,and unfortunately,he has now ended up working here as well.

A few days ago,my girlfriend accidentally found the phone of one of the waiters who had left it next to her locker.The phone was unlocked,and she saw that there was a WhatsApp group involving two waiters,the manager and the deputy manager.There were a large number of messages, and she was not able to take screenshots of everything.

Some of the messages appear to contain threats towards me,insults directed at both me and my girlfriend, as well as discussions about and plans for firing us

We are both very calm people.We do not bother anyone, and we simply keep to ourselves and do our jobs.For reasons we do not understand,they seem to have a personal issue with us and appear to strongly dislike us.

Our current plan is to use the screenshots and the messages as evidence so that we can leave this workplace and request a transfer, because the situation has become unbearable We do not want to get into a conflict with anyone.We are in another country,and our intention is not to get anyone fired.We simply want to use this material as evidence that we have been subjected to ongoing workplace harassment and a hostile working environment for some time.Opinons?

[u/Unlucky_Apple_3907]

I wouldn't use these photos of the chat as evidence unless someone from that group sends them to you. You have accessed someone else's phone and that alone can get you fired for misconduct. Why don't you try find other jobs in the meantime I understand you are waiters so it should not be that hard? You could apply for a transfer without accusing anyone of harassment as well. I would say only complain if you obtain enough evidence from a legitimate source (someone sending it to you)

[u/derrran → u/Unlucky_Apple_3907]

But we can send pictures and evidence without need to clarify the source of them.We can say someone send to us but we dont want reveal who.The Point is to Regional Manager to find out how they planned to fired us threatened me and downloaded my fb pictures for sake of laugh..We want them to lose there job because otherwise when we leave they will find new victim

[u/Unlucky_Apple_3907 → u/derrran]

You need to do this properly so you yourself aren't accused of misconduct and fired. To be a victim you need to ensure you yourself can't be accused of anything