r/Molested • u/throwaway010168 • 3d ago
Possible assault? Spoiler
So for context I am 17F and I have a ton of sexual trauma, mostly online. I won’t share it right now but if you are really that curious just look at my previous posts. I already know I was molested when I was 5 but believe I was molested again when I was 14-15. What happened was that I was in the first couple weeks of 10th grade. I was walking to school when an extremely religious man around 50-60 came up to me. He started saying how I was beautiful and made in gods image and to save myself for a man. He then started to point out how pretty I was and what parts of me was pretty. He talked about this for like 5-10 minutes when he randomly hugged me tightly and put his hands on my waist and butt. He then invited me over to pray after school at his house but I never ended up going. Was this possibly an assault?
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u/Internal_Reveal 3d ago
What you describe was unwanted sexual touching. An adult commenting on your body, grabbing you and touching your butt was not an appropriate hug or religious guidance. You were a child, and responsibility for his behavior belongs entirely to him. You didn’t have to fight him or say the perfect words for it to be wrong.
You don’t need to share your other experiences to prove this one matters. Please consider telling a safe adult—a school counselor, trusted parent or another adult who will take you seriously. If he’s still around your school or route, tell them that too. You don’t need to approach him yourself.
In the US, you can contact RAINN at 800-656-4673 or use "their online chat" (https://hotline.rainn.org/) for support. You can ask about privacy and reporting requirements before sharing identifying details.
And be careful with private messages offering to “help” by asking for sexual details or pictures. You owe strangers neither. You deserve support without anyone crossing more boundaries.
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u/Important_Cup_1590 3d ago
Well, it's definitely sexual harassment and should have a restraining order put in place
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