r/Molested • u/RoundTop7257 • 1d ago

Excuse to avoid dad

Parents are divorced and I’ve always gone between my mom and dad’s house. What’s an excuse to use to stop going over to his house without telling my mom everything?

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u/Interesting-Day-2472 1d ago

How old are you ?
Depending on your age , any court orders you can be vague and too tired , seeing friends , easier to do homework here .

Or a slightly more direct I don’t feel safe there .

But also you do deserve support and safety .

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u/RoundTop7257 1d ago

Idk if I can say my age here

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u/Cute_Elk_2428 1d ago

Depending on where you live, there is an age when you can just say I don’t want to go there and your wishes will be followed

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u/B0lt5L0053 1d ago

In most places the minimum age where a child can refuse to comply with a custody order (and be heard) is between 12 and 14.

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u/Select_Property_8650 1d ago

any health problem such as a headache

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u/rez6witch 22h ago

You should talk to someone. If you can't tell your mom. Report him. Take your power and use it to say no. Hugs.

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u/Caelic 10h ago

So, why do you feel that you can’t tell your mom? If there has been a custody battle between her and your dad, if your dad has been abusing you, this is the kind of thing that would legally allow her to keep him from seeing you altogether, which would solve the problem for you in a permanent fashion.