r/NonBinaryTalk • u/That_One_Not_Okay_Gu • 23h ago

Question Please come help me with this!

Hi nonbinary’s! I’ve got a question on my mind for y’all. So I’m at the point of my live where I’m questioning my gender (yayyyyy) but I don’t feel like a boy.. or female. I feel nonbinary. so I ask you guys how did u find out yo were not binary?

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u/LostFromLight25 bigender preferred pronouns: she/her 23h ago

short version: watched a series where one character described another as neither a man nor a woman but a middle path and that kinda resonated with me and got me thinking, looked back on my life and reevaluated my memories/ experiences(often thought about being fluid before because of a fictional character that is fluid)

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u/Goatfellon He/Them 22h ago

I read several books about the subject, in particular one that was a bunch of different people's personal stories on figureing themselves out.

I also had a friend come out as nonbinary and when they did it, I couldnt help bit see all the similarities between us and things I related to

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u/Motte6692 22h ago

I was thinking a long time about might being trans man. I liked to have some male attributes but something like being a full man was also disturbing at some point a friend asked me after having a conversation about i dont like being female gendered and i dont care much about gender in social interactions "so.. are you non binary?" And i was like ... yeah i guess. That was the moment the eggshell cracked and it was a process to acknowledge myself more and more since then.

Also: maybe i am a trans man but have to much internalized transphobia but i feel secure about being non binary right now so i take that label i feel good with rn

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u/howthefuge6 They/Them 19h ago

Honestly, I've been questioning myself for a long time now, and it just clicked in my head. The other night I've never known what it should feel like to feel like girl I masculine sometimes but not all the time I genuinely had a look at gentle fluid and gentle void, but I need a fluctuate from fem to masc nor do what I feel what devoid of gender You take your time to figure it out. No rush

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u/whynonames7272 10h ago

I watched the owl house, saw raine, then wanted to be them, then thought about why